What should I do to stand up for myself?
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He's not in control with your life.
Tell your parents, teacher and lodge a police case and apply for protection order.
Get your money back from his parents.
Get him out of your life.
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be kind to yourself, get someone better.
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Why the hell are you still with him??
Is love really that blind?
Or you chose to ignore the numerous bad points because of 3 words. "I love u."
That is plain foolishness. -
dont bother 2 stand up just sit down take a break
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Sigh. again, i think most forumer here give all sort of "TS already knew" answer. which is to break up and ignore that guy. if only so simple.
1) TS already mentioned some dark secret with that jerk, so confrontation and breakup with him is a less than clever move. u never know wad a jerk will do.
2) finding police? huh? okok, assuming police take charge of this case, still no point, he will still "revenge" and make hell for TS. Exposing her dark secret.
say for example, a video such as tammy's one. TS will be the one to end up dead first not that jerk.
TS is not an idiot btw.
The way she organises her post, lingo.. etc tells so.
I do not have any constructive advice for any sort of this situation though..
i'm thinking if you knew any of his brothers, who might be close to u enough to talk to him? or some of your "fierce" frds that he's scared of to confront..
i feel finding police is only the last alternative. -
Since you can list out all his shortcoming then why are you still with him? Are you a masochist? Must be lah or else why stick to this kind of rubbish. All men in Singapore die liao is it? Must stick to him oni meh knowing he is that kind no medicine can help guy. Oh, wait you must be very ugly that is why so desperado. 16 years old should be concentrating on your studies and enjoy being a teenager instead of burdening yourself with this type of unnecessary nonsense. When you come out to work then start looking for bf also not late what? I say you looking for trouble only. Pity your parents really. Give money to you and you spend on rubbish
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Just stay away from him..
Stand up for yourself....
If you think that he is not suitable to u , break up with him...
since u already say that you want to be start afresh... maybe it is ur chance now...
anyway, if u want to break up with him, u have to be careful as he seem like a violent person...
anyways , just concentrate on your studies!
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He threaten you then you just call police. Such assholes deserve to be in boys home where hopefully he will be pushed and threatend himself.
Edited: Oh ya its an offence to hold or produce pornographic material so just tell the police everything and let them settle it. If there is really such material just say he forced you. you are still considered underage the law sides you, a lot more -
tell him u wan out n stay away
u deserve some1 better. he immatured and just ruin his future which he will learn only in the future -
i don't think ur BF even appreciate ur kind intentions. from ur post, it clearly points out that he is using u and nothing more. if u want to start afresh, u need to leave this kind of person because the chance of him changing is close to zero.
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Are you willing to stay with such a guy? Retain, lost interest in studies.
My decision for you, Dump such a jerk. -
1. break up.
2. if he threatens u when breakup go police DIRECTLY.
3. get a report. state his name HP no. everything.
4. if anything happens to you he 1st to be called up.
5. dun hang out arnd the place he hang out.
6. when u go out, go with a few frens or family
7. DUN GO OUT ALONE. -
what ur bf had said can actually land him in trouble with the law. first he said that he will make life hell for you if u break up with him. with this in mind, this is already known as a form of threaten. furthermore, he hurled verbal abus against u. this two things he had done can be a chargeable offence.
suggestions:
-seek counselling, counsellors can help you out and bring you out of this situation.
-report police about this if the condition can worst. -
i can see that u only concern is that the price to pay if u break up with him.
i wonder what does he have, against u. photos, videos ? i am refering to the things that he is using to threaten u should you break up with him.
well just report to the police, if u don't want to blow things up, tell your father.
tell him what happen, and nth but the truth. i am sure your father is a bigger pai kia than your b/f who is a 17yr kid ? i am sure your father can settle things with him.
rmb by telling your father the truth, what he can use against u is all now useless. -
i have no freaking idea why you still want to be with him
what are you <18 twits thinking -
don't tell me you are still attracted to that badboy personality
cos that's not even a badboy personality, that's a loser personality -
break with him.
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speechless..
jus..
distant urself away..
if u two really get marry next time, i'll chop off my right arm.
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Hey people
Thank you for your advice
& Scoldings, in hope of making me wake up to reality (Betty?)
I'm new here & this is my first thread so I was glad that there was so many responses (:
Truth is.. Yes, I know that my relationship is bad for me & I know I should end it. But it's a matter of whether I want to. However, I'm not here to complain to you guys about my unhealthy relationship. Instead, I asked (in the title) "What should I do to stand up for myself?"
He pointed a sharp razor at me & I just stood there silently. Not because I didn't dare to agitate him, but instead, I sigh and just don't know what to do anymore.
I'm afraid that I will "get used" to his bullying. Because, as of today, I've been with him for a year already. Our ridiculous fights are becoming, sometimes, a little routine. I want to know what I can do to change him. How do you change someone like that? I know many of you will think "How should I know? You're his girlfriend!", but sometimes, I just wanna give up trying to change him. -
is this love or is this fear...u decide urself
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give up on him.
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Thank you. But I have already told my dad.Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:i can see that u only concern is that the price to pay if u break up with him.
i wonder what does he have, against u. photos, videos ? i am refering to the things that he is using to threaten u should you break up with him.
well just report to the police, if u don't want to blow things up, tell your father.
tell him what happen, and nth but the truth. i am sure your father is a bigger pai kia than your b/f who is a 17yr kid ? i am sure your father can settle things with him.
rmb by telling your father the truth, what he can use against u is all now useless.
He knows that my boyfriend verbally abuses me & threatens me
He's not being a bad father by not going to the police
But he respects my decision for wanting to continue my relationship
So he doesn't do anything.. Until I ask him to
& No, I'm not really that concern about him revealing my secrets, but more of threatening to hurt me if I break up with him -
You have identified what you feel is wrong, so look for the steps that lead out of this state of things.
You're still young. Don't worry about leaving this relationship behind.
Talk to close friends and family members if you have further doubts. Don't let your future be ruined by having to live in fear or let yourself be transformed into someone immune to such nasty behaviour.
Threatening to hurt you is a criminal offence, and it also shows the lack of maturity in his psyche. -
just fuCking break with him
there are seriously better guys around.1000times better -
Break off lor, don't see how this can work out to anything positive in the least.
I doubt there is anything left in store for the both of you, no future.