Am I MCP or what?
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TS, I'm going thru the same shit as you. I wonder if me and you are after the same girl.. Haha
This is the reason why a guy goes after many girls at one time.
Don't leave people dangling in the gray areas. Personally, I think just get on with your life man, it's tough but you will work it out.
I've been down the same road, the only difference is that I don't contact her unless she contacts me. I'm gonna show her that without her, my life will go on, better than ever. Show her that. -
Are all the love lorn people going after the same girl? Accounting the fact that she has many suitors. Just raising the possibility, since we are around the same age of 23 to 27.
The lady that's a bane to my existence(well to a certain degree) is 24.
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heh.. sorry to burst your bubble, but i'm 19..Originally posted by Misogynist:Are all the love lorn people going after the same girl? Accounting the fact that she has many suitors. Just raising the possibility, since we are around the same age of 23 to 27.
The lady that's a bane to my existence(well to a certain degree) is 24.
How bout you guys? -
hhaha...
Mine is 25..
I'm 26 -
Oh wait..mine's 25 as of 2008..considering year wise, and she's from NTU.
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give up and close thread. -
Originally posted by justaname:I know her for coming to 5 months and during this 5 months, as usual as most guys will do to a girl when he likes her. Communicating with her, attentive to her needs and so on...
Few months ago, I told her that I like her. No response so I wait and carry on dating her.
Few weeks ago, she told me she likes me too but she is not ready for a relationship. Fine. I will give her the time and also the time for both of us to trust and commit more. We are both working adult. Financially independent.
She is a girl who has plenty of suitors.
The funny thing is, I will really like to hear from the ladies that when you like a guy, will you meet him even though you are busy or with your group of girl-friends or after your activity be it work, friends or family.
Ladies, another question is, when you know that there are other suitors after you, and when another guy ask you out for movie, will you go? As for my case, she went ahead and for everyone info, I only went for movie with her once and it was in a case where she was not willing to go.
My inner voice is telling me that it is not because she doesn't want to go into a relationship. She likes the courtship from man. It is consider very sweet and is even better than in relationship.
For the man,
Am I sensitive to the extend that allowing her to go out with other suitors even she told me that she is going for a movie date with this guy cause she promise to go?
For the past few months, I'm so tired going after her. I have gave her all my love but she isn't. Sometimes I feel that she is testing my endurance limit and try to push me to the limit. I am sensitive to her needs and being very understanding at all times. I don't mind BUT if she doesn't love you, it hurts so badly.
Lastly, do you all think that when you are after a girl or a guy, one should remain consistent in his/her target and not be distracted by other choices?
When I'm dating a girl, I will choose to think in a way that I will not go out with other girls except her and if it work out. I doubt anyone will like the feeling of seeing the person you like to go out with another suitor.
I really try my best for this relationship. -
Is anyone stopping you in thinking of her? If not, what so agonizing about this situation. You sure you love her or not when you hardly know her true characters. Even though I'm a girl I can tell you some girls are very cunning. They act sweet sweet but deep down is something else. Anyway your this kind of love could be an obession so don't get confuse hor.Originally posted by justaname:I cant stop feeling that she is treating me as a friend. At the most close friend.
I need to stop thinking of her. I need to stop whatever I am doing.
As everyone above me oredi said - go out with other gals too - in time to come maybe you find one better than her. Then possibly she might suddenly wake up her bloody ideas that you are indeed the man for her but too bad she missed da boat, for you have given up on her and got on another boat ler
Eh? By the way do you know the meaning of MCP (Male Chauvinist Pig)? I read your original post again and again and I don't find anything MCP about you leh. You know MCP is da nan ren juyi right? That means a man who think highly of his own opinion only or a man who feels himself highly superior to women. But since you allow her to go out with other guys I don't see how you can be MCP leh? Wrong usage of wordlah. I think the word you are actually looking for is 'Wimp' Am I a WIMP or what' because you sucked it up when she go out with other guys -
yeah.. don't contact her..Originally posted by Misogynist:TS, I'm going thru the same shit as you. I wonder if me and you are after the same girl.. Haha
This is the reason why a guy goes after many girls at one time.
Don't leave people dangling in the gray areas. Personally, I think just get on with your life man, it's tough but you will work it out.
I've been down the same road, the only difference is that I don't contact her unless she contacts me. I'm gonna show her that without her, my life will go on, better than ever. Show her that.
that's what i do..
but i hate it when she tell me she's bored and wants me to talk to her.. -
i've been through the same shit
i'm still going through the same shit
the feeling is not nice.
in fact i know the girl for about 2 years already. i've got feeling for her for roughly that amount of time too.
doubt anyone remembers, but i have posted about it before, and i had it removed.
can't really offer any words of advise, but rest assure you are not alone. its not a nice feeling really. occasional engaging in your religion does sooth the pain sometimes though. -
Yea, I know. Each time these girls call us up complaining of their boredom, their hurt, their crap pms, the stupid jock they are checking out. We just silently grit and bear with it, despite the heart wrenching pain.
Guys, we're victims of the exploitative female of a dog. And we should stop this crap! There are girls out there who are much better.
Tell yourself this as what my ex told me when I met up with her(Dudes, it's entirely platonic) "You deserve better."
Stop living a life dictated by the wimps of these undeserving women, show them that we are better without them.
Be indifferent to them, be yourself and be better than you ever were when you wake up from this delusion. -
the girls might just fire this backOriginally posted by Misogynist:Yea, I know. Each time these girls call us up complaining of their boredom, their hurt, their crap pms, the stupid jock they are checking out. We just silently grit and bear with it, despite the heart wrenching pain.
Guys, we're victims of the exploitative female of a dog. And we should stop this crap! There are girls out there who are much better.
Tell yourself this as what my ex told me when I met up with her(Dudes, it's entirely platonic) "You deserve better."
Stop living a life dictated by the wimps of these undeserving women, show them that we are better without them.
Be indifferent to them, be yourself and be better than you ever were when you wake up from this delusion.
"don't blame if you can't get us"
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And we can always say "you're the only one i like..............up to this point in time"
Com'on, the stupid clinches are at work here.. "Not the only fish in the sea" Blah blah blah.. -
but like that seems ungentlemen..
i think can do it in a different manner without us [guys] looking like a jerk.. -
by all means...go ahead...but be careful of being the carrot head.Originally posted by jojobeach:You can carry on giving her the attention and love, for as long as you like.
But don't expect anything in return, yet. -
I m suffering the same fate with tsOriginally posted by Misogynist:Yea, I know. Each time these girls call us up complaining of their boredom, their hurt, their crap pms, the stupid jock they are checking out. We just silently grit and bear with it, despite the heart wrenching pain.
Guys, we're victims of the exploitative female of a dog. And we should stop this crap! There are girls out there who are much better.
Tell yourself this as what my ex told me when I met up with her(Dudes, it's entirely platonic) "You deserve better."
Stop living a life dictated by the wimps of these undeserving women, show them that we are better without them.
Be indifferent to them, be yourself and be better than you ever were when you wake up from this delusion.
but the above quote rox man! -
jus forget abt her and move on.. she's probably treating u like one of her flirts.. call u when she likes and brush u off when she don..
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Correct FBI. She calls you when she feels like it ? What are you? Chopped liver? Second choice?Originally posted by FBI:jus forget abt her and move on.. she's probably treating u like one of her flirts.. call u when she likes and brush u off when she don..
find another one, dude.
I don't really suscribe to the idea of unconditional love unless it's last time. I think this where many guys make this mistake. I don't believe one girl is more special than another. There is something special to everyone. Look, just because the girl has looks and is physically more attractive than another doesnt give her the right to diss another human being like a bad habit.
Thus, I prefer to date a few girls at a time. You won't feel desperate for love and you can evaluate your choices one at a time like you are shopping for a car. You won't just jump into any car right ? Best of all, you won't feel hurt. She has options and so do you.
Another thing is when a girl doesn't like you, she will not even care about you, so don't lie to yourself about unconditional love. It doesn't work in real life now unless it's in our parents' generation. The only unconditional love you should always shower upon is yourself. You want unconditional love because you actually hope she will like you. Guess what? She will not once she has made up her mind.
If she can treat you like a chopped liver, it's best you have the balls and be a man. Be firm with her. Cut her off. Have your stand, that's what we guys lack.
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Look forward and move...
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Hi all,
Thanks for all the advices offered.
I think that we guys or should I say the more conservative, passionate ones will be at the losing side. We need time to readjust our mindset that dating a few girls at time is normal and we shouldn't be restricted to only one.
Somehow, I do hate the idea of being unfaithful but then we aren't even in a relationship. She encouraged me to look around as well, I shouldn't be restricted to one.
Since I started this thread, it seems that there are a lot of guys out there suffering the same fate as me. We should really meet up one day and start a new lifestyle. -
Wad has the title of your thread got to do with your story?
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I think you should not really really focus on one and just go after her.Originally posted by justaname:Lastly, do you all think that when you are after a girl or a guy, one should remain consistent in his/her target and not be distracted by other choices?
When I'm dating a girl, I will choose to think in a way that I will not go out with other girls except her and if it work out. I doubt anyone will like the feeling of seeing the person you like to go out with another suitor.
Yes you can focus on her but I think you should also keep your other options open.
look.. How many attached gals are actually guilty of looking at other guys.. -
wow you all got full of determination.
But I think there should have a time limit to judge.
Have to face the reality.
Shouldnt wait forever for someone who dont feel the same as you do
If its really love then it should a mutual thing.
one sided love is torturing.
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The F Rules-
Find her
Friends with her
Flirt with her
French kiss her
Finger her
Fark her
Forget her
Find another one -
Looks familiar.Originally posted by Ferguson:The F Rules-
Find her
Friends with her
Flirt with her
French kiss her
Finger her
Fark her
Forget her
Find another one
yeah i agree with a few points here. I absolutely HATE it when a girl whom i used to like (and she knows it) calls me to "pour her heart out" to me about ANOTHER guy. Sometimes lagi best. At first can tell me not ready, why not we go out more often and see how it goes. Ok lor. Go out. Few months later can call me and complain about her new BOYFRIEND, who neglects her lah simi lan simi lan. Suck thumb be a nice guy, console her, give her some tips. Next week sms me "you are such a good friend, i don't know what to do if i have problems and you're not around. Meet up soon for coffee okay?"
ni na buay......gek tio arh....
Got one time also, ask me go out with her. Went Wala Wala. Saw her stupid pharking dragonboat friend and invite him to sit down. Then those 2 down there hee hee ha ha i alone like one cocck. Next time when she asked if i mind her friends joining us i straightforward tell her "Yes i mind. Why not you meet them instead."