Why my husband never say "I Love you"?
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but I really cannot feel any love from him. I tried kissing him in the morning and told him must kiss me when he sees me in the morning. After few weeks of morning kiss, I gave up. He never initiate. It's a simple expression but he just couldn't do it.
He did nothing that I feel is love for me.
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He is in love with another woman.Originally posted by mona_lisa:but I really cannot feel any love from him. I tried kissing him in the morning and told him must kiss me when he sees me in the morning. After few weeks of morning kiss, I gave up. He never initiate. It's a simple expression but he just couldn't do it.
He did nothing that I feel is love for me. -
But he's a decent man. Pick the children home everyday. Seldom go out type. Where got time for another woman?Originally posted by jojobeach:He is in love with another woman.
Or the body is with me but the heart is somewhere else?
No lah don't think there another woman cos neber see him sms nor talk on the phone secretly. -
easy to tell...that he lost interest in u liao...ya.change urself...so he will love u more.
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A seemingly decent man, does not means his heart will not stray.Originally posted by mona_lisa:But he's a decent man. Pick the children home everyday. Seldom go out type. Where got time for another woman?
Or the body is with me but the heart is somewhere else? No lah don't think there another woman cos neber see him sms nor talk on the phone secretly.
He does not have to be physically with another woman to be attracted to her.
I think you really need to do something to spice up your marriage, or go for marriage counseling.
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If you really wish to put in the sparks in the relationship... you can try maybe things that are more 'spontaneous'. Don't let it become a habit like 'must kiss in the morning' or else end up next time u will post in the forum "my hubby kiss me every day in the morning, but no feeling one."Originally posted by mona_lisa:but I really cannot feel any love from him. I tried kissing him in the morning and told him must kiss me when he sees me in the morning. After few weeks of morning kiss, I gave up. He never initiate. It's a simple expression but he just couldn't do it.
He did nothing that I feel is love for me.
You cannot 'force' him to feel romantic but you can create a conducive environment where he will feel more compelled to want to show his affection. Unfortunately, it means patient initiative, and not demands.
Do you compliment him? Sometimes adults, like children, need encouragement to do things and a lot of motivation. If he kisses you just once, do you just feel quietly happy, or do you tell him "u know I really find it very touching when you do that." THEN DON'T EXPECT HIM TO DO IT again. (read above paragraph about habits.)
Also, sometimes certain things might be easy for him to do, but certain things he just don't like to do, then cannot force him to do these to 'show' his love also. Try and find sometihng he is good at that you like, then show him your appreciation of it.
Hope things works out better for you and your hubby
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Huh! no kisses, liao liao lah. Yo, auntie, start to look out for any clues in his car, shirt, h/p, or whatever. Decent family men are the most dangerous men, i hv been approach by them so many times, but i knew i can never hurt another woman heart, no good.Originally posted by mona_lisa:but I really cannot feel any love from him. I tried kissing him in the morning and told him must kiss me when he sees me in the morning. After few weeks of morning kiss, I gave up. He never initiate. It's a simple expression but he just couldn't do it.
He did nothing that I feel is love for me.
It is because of being decent, responsible with abit of dignity left, he become quiet, silent and even harboured self guiltness, so he just go thru the motion as a family man, take care of childrens and sex with u, but sex with u is the only thin line you are walking with him.
Check it out, you can also trace him or call in a PI, but be prepare, I hope u can handle the truth, some wifeys just couldn't believe it when photos shown hubby with beautiful gal, that they still believe it a mistake or just a colleague, dun be blind by love ya. Some wifey are so good that they just let it go for the sake of the family and childrens because to make a hell out of it or divorce, is a disgrace especially to some traditional asiatic culture. -
that's why dun wan to get married
how not to get tired of each other for 40 years?
2 years oredi buey tahan liaos -
Action Speak Louder than words
does his action show that he love you if yes no worries
if no then you have to start worrying -
He regretted marrying you -
Is there anything we can do for you?Originally posted by mona_lisa:We never have good nite / good morning kisses and we only kiss during sex. What is this??? Feeling like a free pros. -
Man r born to be like that, wat to do ?Originally posted by mona_lisa:But he's a decent man. Pick the children home everyday. Seldom go out type. Where got time for another woman?
Or the body is with me but the heart is somewhere else? No lah don't think there another woman cos neber see him sms nor talk on the phone secretly.
They don't believe in public intimacy after marriage
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i tink guys realli not good at expressing themselves sometimes..
haha find some ways to spice up marriage?
u ask him to kiss u every morning sounds like a chore lehs..u kiss him he oso bo push u away rites?
so its ok la 
maybe he just dun wanna initiate(sp) nia..
hmm could it be his work stress? -
don't know. This one you have to trust ur gut.. does he love u anot ?
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doing all the simple thing in life is the love which you do not see.Originally posted by mona_lisa:but I really cannot feel any love from him. I tried kissing him in the morning and told him must kiss me when he sees me in the morning. After few weeks of morning kiss, I gave up. He never initiate. It's a simple expression but he just couldn't do it.
He did nothing that I feel is love for me.
Woman always want more and more....
Do you seriously want him to kiss and love you all the time? but kiss and make love to another behind your back. -
you still got lots to learn.Originally posted by angel7030:Huh! no kisses, liao liao lah. Yo, auntie, start to look out for any clues in his car, shirt, h/p, or whatever. Decent family men are the most dangerous men, i hv been approach by them so many times, but i knew i can never hurt another woman heart, no good.
It is because of being decent, responsible with abit of dignity left, he become quiet, silent and even harboured self guiltness, so he just go thru the motion as a family man, take care of childrens and sex with u, but sex with u is the only thin line you are walking with him.
Check it out, you can also trace him or call in a PI, but be prepare, I hope u can handle the truth, some wifeys just couldn't believe it when photos shown hubby with beautiful gal, that they still believe it a mistake or just a colleague, dun be blind by love ya. Some wifey are so good that they just let it go for the sake of the family and childrens because to make a hell out of it or divorce, is a disgrace especially to some traditional asiatic culture. -
u don't feel love but does not mean your husband does not love u. Different people have different expression of love.
Think u should judge it for yourself. Maybe he finds ur idea of love mushy.
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You need to find some common interests. Pull him to go grocery shopping with you, or develop a common hobby eg karaoke. Good luck!
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So I suppose you do not mind your gf/spouse not showing any love ?Originally posted by Guardx:doing all the simple thing in life is the love which you do not see.
Woman always want more and more....
Do you seriously want him to kiss and love you all the time? but kiss and make love to another behind your back.
You mean men who shows love to his wife is also cheating behind her back ?
Flawed logic. -
i dont see a reason why this " I love you" cant be continued till you die
saying alreayd pass the age of saying " I love YOu" is just a lame excuse..
A guys should know this 3 words are extremely important to gal to hear it..
Ok, even if the guy never say it. but the action speaks louder than words?
Not really in TS case.. wth talk like strangers at home ? that is the LOVE action ? wow..
Even if there is some actions by her hubby, TS wont feel insecure bout it at all if her hubby never say i love u..
Yea action speaks louder than words.. in TS case. her hubby just duno what to do to improve relationship and after married, he might think already together so no need to do many things.. that is wat i think
NOrmally not many ppl wil say i love u when reach certain old age 40 - 50++
.. but TS case.. after 2 years and not even I love you ? weird
But doesnt mean TS hubby doesnt love TS la.. u guys just need to go spend some romantic time together.. perhaps hubby just too tired after whole day work and no mood to talk so much.. go out together some weekend and cheer him up -
TS, I am just the opposite. I am married for 25 years leow ... all these years I am the one who say "I love you" to my wife, she doesn't response ... She don't even liked to be kissed. !! initially, I thought she might not love me any more or there is someone else ... then I began to do stupid things - you know - the jealous husband do, check this check that .... but there wasn't any evidents and it lead to alot of un-happiness ... I realised I was too sensitive .. well these days, I still say it and she still don't response ... sigh ... what to do ... so beside these, we are living happily ... occasionally she will come very close to me and still don't say the magic word ..... but it felt very good... so I take it as re-inforcement of our love .... I hope those guy out there don't flame me for being so un-manly ... bottom line is I know she loves me, that is the most important thing in our live.
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i couldnt live like that. hope i never have to
i know a lot of guys dont like saying 'i love you' but they still hug or kiss or try to show it somehow. -
does he say that often last time? Just recall when he said 'I love you' and under what circumstances he said it. Dont think negatively, be positive.
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Mona Lisa,
In a man-woman relationship.
Love is paid in different currency.
A woman feels love when her man shows her affection.
A man feels love when his woman gives him sex.
Now, there are many here who claims that just because a man don't give you affection, does not means he don't love you.
BUT, what happens when you don't give your man sex ? He will say you don't love him anymore.
I am a very fair person.
When my man stop giving me affection. I stop giving him sex.
When he ask, I'll just answer him " Just because I stop giving you sex, doesn't mean I don't love you."
So mona, now you know what to do . -
If no actions and no words...
I guess you're never loved...
Just kidding, some people do not really express their love through love and actions. Perhaps, as time goes by, he is getting more and more used to having someone such as his wife by his side that he had forgotten to say the 3 words.
Perhaps his actions of afflection are too used by you that you do not realise that you are actually loved. Sometime, bringing bread to the table is one person's way of saying that he love you.
Perhaps you guys should try something new to spice up your lives... like having a baby or something.
Then you will see his afflection re-enlighted in a whole new way.