Why my husband never say "I Love you"?
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Please please, if no love, having a baby will not make love out of nothing.Originally posted by caleb_chiang:I
Perhaps you guys should try something new to spice up your lives... like having a baby or something.
Then you will see his afflection re-enlighted in a whole new way.
Having a baby when the marriage is on the rocks, only create disaster.
I don't want to see another child from a broken family.
A baby is good only when the relationship is strong and the future is bright. -
Yes... it is normal... Guys especially rational or mature ones, usually seldom say "I love u"... They usually keep it to themself and express it thru action... But in some situation, they do will say when they r really touched...
Oh btw TS, just my curious question so that I wont follow yr husband footstep... How many times do u need yr husband to say "I love you" a day or how many times do u need yr husband to kiss u a day ? I will make sure I will do tat in order to keep my wife in future... -
Dear Ispyyy,Originally posted by ispyyy:Yes... it is normal... Guys especially rational or mature ones, usually seldom say "I love u"... They usually keep it to themself and express it thru action... But in some situation, they do will say when they r really touched...
Oh btw TS, just my curious question so that I wont follow yr husband footstep... How many times do u need yr husband to say "I love you" a day or how many times do u need yr husband to kiss u a day ? I will make sure I will do tat in order to keep my wife in future...
Please be reminded that when it comes to treating your woman, there's no one size fits all solution.
So, how much a man should shower their love with affection also no manuals/fixed equation to make her happy.
You must understand your woman, in order for you to fulfill her needs. -
Ya... I noe... I wish there is a one size fits all solution too... But in reality, there is "no"Originally posted by jojobeach:Dear Ispyyy,
Please be reminded that when it comes to treating your woman, there's no one size fits all solution.
So, how much a man should shower their love with affection also no manuals/fixed equation to make her happy.
You must understand your woman, in order for you to fulfill her needs.
But however, I just asking those questions to widen my understanding. I m not asking for a definite n exact answer or any equations/manuals for generalised statement... I m asking if such circumstances comes in my life, I would like to have the other side party point of views tat is if TS is willing to share... So tat, problems or misunderstandings could be solved... -
Originally posted by jojobeach:
Precisely ! since there is no one fixed equation, it's depend on individuals.. I had stated mine.. I know my wife loves me and still do, only thing is she don't say it out loud .. If I am TS's husband and I supposed she will be thrilled as I will always say the 3 magical words, but will I be faithful? that's another issue ... . . I think it best to go along with your heart. Listen carefully what it tells you and not go round asking, just because the husband do not say the 3 words, he loves her no more .. I am saying through experience ... I am ashamed now I ever doubted my wife ....
Dear Ispyyy,
Please be reminded that when it comes to treating your woman, there's no one size fits all solution.
[b]So, how much a man should shower their love with affection also no manuals/fixed equation to make her happy.
You must understand your woman, in order for you to fulfill her needs.
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men are like power switch - Turn on have sex. Turn off sleep
women are like iron - takes time to warm up and cool down and need intimacy to want to have sex and feel loved and belonging to guy
I know what TS is saying when she say she feel like a pros. When people get married, they only change for the worse. -
Situations like this makes the heart just freeze up and give up on the r/s
because r/s is like a bank account. If the man keep taking withdrawals, and not put in any savings. The account will empty out one day. the woman will just pick up and leave - because there is nothing, no reason at all to stay around and take more years of such a kind of r/s. -
ORIGAMIST,
This is what I posted to TS.
I think it applies to you too.
A woman's need is different from a man.
While it is ok for a woman to not show affection to a man. It is not ok for a man to not show affection to a woman.Originally posted by jojobeach:Mona Lisa,
In a man-woman relationship.
Love is paid in different currency.
A woman feels love when her man shows her affection.
A man feels love when his woman gives him sex.
Now, there are many here who claims that just because a man don't give you affection, does not means he don't love you.
BUT, what happens when you don't give your man sex ? He will say you don't love him anymore.
I am a very fair person.
When my man stop giving me affection. I stop giving him sex.
When he ask, I'll just answer him " Just because I stop giving you sex, doesn't mean I don't love you."
So mona, now you know what to do . -
try to use your mouth and suck his kkj everyday
guys love girls to pamper their kkj... i bet he will say i love you to you everyday from now onwards
baby, come on, suck me
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Any which way but lose ?? anyway, when I wrote, I meant to tell TS that all may not be wrong ... don't go round making wild guesses and in the end found that there is actually nothing wrong, like in my case ... I was suspicious, I did silly things... in the end, reaslised my wife was truthful and I was just over-suspicious ... what if I did something terrible, my marriage would have gone by now ... so I say, go with the heart....Originally posted by jojobeach:ORIGAMIST,
This is what I posted to TS.
I think it applies to you too.
A woman's need is different from a man.
While it is ok for a woman to not show affection to a man. It is not ok for a man to not show affection to a woman. -
Hmm I suppose this can be rather subjective.Originally posted by ORIGAMIST:Any which way but lose ?? anyway, when I wrote, I meant to tell TS that all may not be wrong ... don't go round making wild guesses and in the end found that there is actually nothing wrong, like in my case ... I was suspicious, I did silly things... in the end, reaslised my wife was truthful and I was just over-suspicious ... what if I did something terrible, my marriage would have gone by now ... so I say, go with the heart....
What happens if your hunches had been right all these time, but you had refused to check it out ?
Like, my friend of many years, who thought she married a really decent guy ( including his looks).
For the past 3 years, he's been cheating behind her back with one of his colleague, while she was pregnant with their third child.
There were already tell tale signs that he was behaving "different", but she refused to believe he would ever do that to her.
She finally confirmed the truth when one of her relative saw the two together shopping and holding hands.
That day, she almost committed suicide and wanted to throw the children to their deaths.
I suppose, it's better to just try to seek the truth and err on the safe side. Rather than trying to convince yourself that everything is OK.
If she had confronted her husband earlier, they probably wouldn't be in a deeper mess.
However, I feel that it is better to conduct the investigations discreetly. -
Har??? Why its ok for a woman to not show affection to a man but not ok for a man to not show affection to a woman ????Originally posted by jojobeach:ORIGAMIST,
This is what I posted to TS.
I think it applies to you too.
A woman's need is different from a man.
While it is ok for a woman to not show affection to a man. It is not ok for a man to not show affection to a woman. -
Jie hun shi ai qing de fen mu.Originally posted by mona_lisa:Is it normal? From the 2 year on...he never say "I love you". Never sweet talk. We acted like strangers at home. Only talked or asked question necessarily. Is he tired of me? I don't think that he is having an affair.
He said that we have passed that stage so no need to say "I love you" anymore. I don't feel love anymore. I have to tell myself everyday that he loves me so as to keep me going on staying by his side and not to give myself any chance to stray.
Marriage will put an end to the romancing. -
maybe there is something nice u stop doing to him also?Originally posted by mona_lisa:Is it normal? From the 2 year on...he never say "I love you". Never sweet talk. We acted like strangers at home. Only talked or asked question necessarily. Is he tired of me? I don't think that he is having an affair.
He said that we have passed that stage so no need to say "I love you" anymore. I don't feel love anymore. I have to tell myself everyday that he loves me so as to keep me going on staying by his side and not to give myself any chance to stray.
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Zarks,Originally posted by Zarks:Har??? Why its ok for a woman to not show affection to a man but not ok for a man to not show affection to a woman ????
Why you talk so much one ?
Can you please read the whole thread instead of zeroing at my replies ?
These people , ESPECIALLY MEN, keep telling us that there is nothing wrong when the men don't show affection to their wifey or GF.
They claim that " Just because the men don't show affection, doesn't mean he don't love her."
Then if that's really how men think, then isn't it logical that men DON'T NEED affection from their wives to be assured that she still love him??????
Duh ? -
Originally posted by jojobeach:Zarks,
Why you talk so much one ?
Can you please read the whole thread instead of zeroing at my replies ? -
..Originally posted by mona_lisa:Is it normal? From the 2 year on...he never say "I love you". Never sweet talk. We acted like strangers at home. Only talked or asked question necessarily. Is he tired of me? I don't think that he is having an affair.
He said that we have passed that stage so no need to say "I love you" anymore. I don't feel love anymore. I have to tell myself everyday that he loves me so as to keep me going on staying by his side and not to give myself any chance to stray.
Woman and man react and behave differently..he may feel mushy after marriage to say"ILY" after marriage but that doesn't mean he dosen't love you anymore.Why wait for him to utter the 3 letter words..U yourself can say to him and see how he reacts..as long as he still shares and care for U and family..that's is LOVE..naturally the fire of passion will die down but it takes 2 to ignite the flame again...gd for couples to go for stroll,catch a show,shop or even choose a hobby to do together..woman just want the relentless assurance from her man but unfortunatley innate system is normally not romantic and hence he may want to dispense with words like ILY but his actions may show he still loves and care for U..stop being pessimistic but treasure the relationships -
Quite sad leh, not to say 'I Love You' to wife.
I always sms my wife to tell her I love her. -
Dump him. He's getting tired of you.Originally posted by mona_lisa:Is it normal? From the 2 year on...he never say "I love you". Never sweet talk. We acted like strangers at home. Only talked or asked question necessarily. Is he tired of me? I don't think that he is having an affair.
He said that we have passed that stage so no need to say "I love you" anymore. I don't feel love anymore. I have to tell myself everyday that he loves me so as to keep me going on staying by his side and not to give myself any chance to stray. -
To be fair.Originally posted by jojobeach:Zarks,
Why you talk so much one ?
Can you please read the whole thread instead of zeroing at my replies ?
These people , ESPECIALLY MEN, keep telling us that there is nothing wrong when the men don't show affection to their wifey or GF.
They claim that " Just because the men don't show affection, doesn't mean he don't love her."
Then if that's really how men think, then isn't it logical that men DON'T NEED affection from their wives to be assured that she still love him??????
Duh ?
both side need to show affection to each other.
I do not agree with the fact that is a one side effort. -
Recently, my wife has become more open and intimate with me. ( don't know if she read my posting ) ... it feels so good, like I just fall in love all over again. I'm enjoying it. Like what the Chinese saying , "Koo Chin Kan Lai "... so after twenty five years, it is the best thing in my marriage life.
Then of course there are those will say, " watch it, wife/ husband suddenly change, must be having affair etc " .... while it is for you to judge, to me I had my share of agony, suspicion and anxiety ... right now I am over the moon.. -
...jojo stop yr frivolous comments....U're not fit with yr stupid suggestionsOriginally posted by jojobeach:He is in love with another woman.
..a man hater can never offer objective views -
Are you serious? If you are, you should be treating us P-membership for re-igniting the love between you and your wife after 25 years of marriage.Originally posted by ORIGAMIST:Recently, my wife has become more open and intimate with me. ( don't know if she read my posting ) ... it feels so good, like I just fall in love all over again. I'm enjoying it. Like what the Chinese saying , "Koo Chin Kan Lai "... so after twenty five years, it is the best thing in my marriage life.
Then of course there are those will say, " watch it, wife/ husband suddenly change, must be having affair etc " .... while it is for you to judge, to me I had my share of agony, suspicion and anxiety ... right now I am over the moon.. -
LOL! ya, agree!Originally posted by LatecomerX:Are you serious? If you are, you should be treating us P-membership for re-igniting the love between you and your wife after 25 years of marriage. -
sure no problem with the treat ... but I must say there wasn't anything wrong with my relationship, only now it is getting better and sweeter ...Originally posted by LatecomerX:Are you serious? If you are, you should be treating us P-membership for re-igniting the love between you and your wife after 25 years of marriage.