my ex came back. im lost abt what i shld do
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Originally posted by steph09:
we broke up 1 year back. the reason why we broke up was becos he confessed that he had a gf all along (i was still unaware of the situation den) and i couldn't be accepting being "the other woman". many times, he asked me to stay with him but he had no plans to break up with her. During this 1 year after breaking up, there are a couple of times that he called and mentioned he saw me with guys, and he was jealous over that. He feels as though he had given me away. of cos, during this period after breaking up, he did, on a few occasions, asked me back but i rejected.
Now, he has broken up with the gf, and has been asking me out. Did only went out once and afterwhich we had been talking over the phone frequently. he had been hinting abt getting back, but i ignore that. now the hint has become obvious and he wants me back. I'm afraid that history will repeat itself and one thing that's for sure, i no longer have the trust and confidence in him. i told him that i hope we can remain as friends now, and any other things, we shall talk abt it later.
I'm kinda lost now, apparently he did told me that he's quite disappointed over my response.
Could anyone give some suggestions on my situation?
There can never be a better reason than this (in red) to ditch him.
Let him be dissapointed. You have more valid reasons to be dissapointed in him. He treated you as a backup girl, and has the gall to say he is dissapointed over your response.
Your attitude is correct, do not lose sleep over him, he is not worth it, treat him just as an acquaintance.
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Originally posted by mancha:
There can never be a better reason than this (in red) to ditch him.
Let him be dissapointed. You have more valid reasons to be dissapointed in him. He treated you as a backup girl, and has the gall to say he is dissapointed over your response.
Your attitude is correct, do not lose sleep over him, he is not worth it, treat him just as an acquaintance.
Yep. This is spot on Mancha.
steph, why should you be worried about him being "dissapointed" in you ?
If he dares say such thing again, you should tell him off .
" I'm MORE dissapointed in you.. now get outa my face !".
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the answer is obvious right
don't be a sentimental fool
look straight, don't look back
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jojo, i agree with u. In fact, all these things had been floating on my mind and they are all in bits and pieces. i know what i shld do. :)
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Originally posted by steph09:
jojo, i agree with u. In fact, all these things had been floating on my mind and they are all in bits and pieces. i know what i shld do.
Please do the right thing , ok? Good.
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alright, let me sort out my thoughts ya? really appreciate everyone's help in contributing ideas. I shld learn to be hardhearted! :)
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Originally posted by steph09:
jojo, i agree with u. In fact, all these things had been floating on my mind and they are all in bits and pieces. i know what i shld do.
Get a piece of paper and jot the things floating in you mind.
You will be amaze that there are not many items actually.
The mind tend to blow up problems out of proportion.
Take care, you are responsible for your own happiness. You have no obligation to that guy.
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thanks mancha! that's a good suggestion!
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you're not confused.
You're just too stupid to know that this guy just cheating on u..
conclusion: you're just stupid for being a spare tyre.
Stupid ppl like u will only make their life more miserable for not realising the real fact.
Go ahead and be with him again. Later on, he will cheat u again, and u will think how stupid u are.
And again.. he breaks up with the gal, again he called u with stupid sweetening words to get u stupid gal back to him.
Wow i love how he treated stupid gal.
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ZARKS. I'LL REM YOUR TOUCHING COMMENT. BUT WHATEVER IT IS, IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! FARK OFF!
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yea , thks for remembering.
Its always none of my business if u want to continue this stupidity ya.
You can be so hard-hearted on me but cant on him.. wow , im impressed.. i will remember that too.
How i wish to see u use this anger and said these Fuck off to him, and not me. Think bout it.
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Originally posted by steph09:
we broke up 1 year back. the reason why we broke up was becos he confessed that he had a gf all along (i was still unaware of the situation den) and i couldn't be accepting being "the other woman". many times, he asked me to stay with him but he had no plans to break up with her. During this 1 year after breaking up, there are a couple of times that he called and mentioned he saw me with guys, and he was jealous over that. He feels as though he had given me away. of cos, during this period after breaking up, he did, on a few occasions, asked me back but i rejected.
Now, he has broken up with the gf, and has been asking me out. Did only went out once and afterwhich we had been talking over the phone frequently. he had been hinting abt getting back, but i ignore that. now the hint has become obvious and he wants me back. I'm afraid that history will repeat itself and one thing that's for sure, i no longer have the trust and confidence in him. i told him that i hope we can remain as friends now, and any other things, we shall talk abt it later.
I'm kinda lost now, apparently he did told me that he's quite disappointed over my response.
Could anyone give some suggestions on my situation?
r u reali TAT desperate? theres so many guys out there lo... ur guy even hv the guts to ask u b small wife... u tink he wun hv many others out there meh? disappointed over ur response? tell him wake up his idea... u should jz simply change ur contacts n leave him behind in ur life... u how old?
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Originally posted by BrUtUs:
r u reali TAT desperate? theres so many guys out there lo... ur guy even hv the guts to ask u b small wife... u tink he wun hv many others out there meh? disappointed over ur response? tell him wake up his idea... u should jz simply change ur contacts n leave him behind in ur life... u how old?
Not desperate. Just stupid.
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Originally posted by steph09:
alright, let me sort out my thoughts ya? really appreciate everyone’s help in contributing ideas. I shld learn to be hardhearted!
its not e case of being hardhearted...its a clear mind -
thanks alfagal. as for zarks, i think you're damn childish. i dont see a point or even welcome u in this thread. oh well, u may perhaps dont even understand what im trying to say cos you're just an insensitive and sarcastic ass! opps. well, and any comments from u, they are just rubbish. for the rest, appreciate your advices. sincerely.
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if i were a girl and my bf tells me he was two-timing, made her pregnant and couldn't get along with her and left her, now what kind of man would do that?
imagine if you were in her shoes?
you know what to do, rite?
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Originally posted by steph09:
thanks alfagal.
as for zarks, i think you’re damn childish. i dont see a point or even welcome u in this thread. oh well, u may perhaps dont even understand what im trying to say cos you’re just an insensitive and sarcastic ass! opps. well, and any comments from u, they are just rubbish.
for the rest, appreciate your advices. sincerely.
actually zarks has a point but its jus too harsh... -
most impt now is u know wat to do next
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they say that women all have masochistic tendencies ......
they tend to love those who treat them badly more ......
haiz ....
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ya,. i prefer ppl call me childish than some1 call me stupid like u.
its just too funny for me when u even think bout this guy after what he had done.
Thats what i call stupid.
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Originally posted by Fatum:
they say that women all have masochistic tendencies ......
they tend to love those who treat them badly more ......
haiz ....
Yea. that is what i call stupid also. Love some1 who treated them badly. So blindly stupid -
I even wonder, u can reply to me with such words. Do you even reply to your stupid ex with these?
Tell me .. lol.. If its a No. then you're really stupid. If Yes, Bravo !
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Originally posted by alfagal:
actually zarks has a point but its jus too harsh...
Sometimes its just hard for ppl to listen even when u advice them politely or the harsh way. Only she never knew what im trying to say here. Or mayb only me enjoying here.Speaking of childish, i read that those who are easily angry always show lack of intelligence. I can see that anger from your words, TS.
Ts perhaps still stay in wonderland. She cant even take a critism the harsh way, all she wanted are some good polite advices without anyone critising her the harsh way. Since u post a thread here, its Sgf's members business to reply to your thread. Its only up to you how to take critism or advice in any form.
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Originally posted by Fatum:
they say that women all have masochistic tendencies ......
they tend to love those who treat them badly more ......
haiz ....
haha not tat..its cos...they put in more effort into such a rs...so all e more they wan this rs to work...hoping tat one day, e guy will turn ard and return to e side of hers..
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some ppl use their brain too much and dun use their heart and feelings...