Feeling Lost
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Hi... thks for your understanding... It seems that we share the same kind of thoughts...Originally posted by puppylove:it's normal for you to do wat you did, felt wat you felt, it's really wat most pple will do.. u like him rite.. i think this kind of things happen to many pple b4, me included
but.. wat decision you make will determine alot of things..
see if u decide to be with him, when the day his girlfren comes back, will he have second thought bout u, or is he really in love with you?
if u decide not to be with him, would it be an opportunity lost? a door that's wide open in front of you but u did not choose to enter? there are many otucomes, many consequences, many situations, it all interlinks.. so think and chose wisely girl
But I dun think he will give up his gf for me.
Although I hv not seen his gf before.. I guess she's stronger than me in many ways.. Firstly, my character is more to the shy and reserved type.. Conversely, (I guess) she must be a more confident lady. Secondly, she's a teacher and drives a car... while I am still jobless after graduation and currently still taking my driving lessons... So I guess which guy wouldn't choose her right?
So now, I guess the wise thing for me to do is to minimise my contact with him... Bcos if not, I will end up getting hurt even more. -
hai~ but some guys dun like too confident girls.. they might feel inferior.. and yah, u might end up getting hurt even more, i felt it, it cut like a blade, and there's nothin u can really do about itOriginally posted by autumn:Hi... thks for your understanding... It seems that we share the same kind of thoughts...
But I dun think he will give up his gf for me.
Although I hv not seen his gf before.. I guess she's stronger than me in many ways.. Firstly, my character is more to the shy and reserved type.. Conversely, (I guess) she must be a more confident lady. Secondly, she's a teacher and drives a car... while I am still jobless after graduation and currently still taking my driving lessons... So I guess which guy wouldn't choose her right?
So now, I guess the wise thing for me to do is to minimise my contact with him... Bcos if not, I will end up getting hurt even more. 
but i tell u it'll be hard, to minimise contact and everything.. but try to pull through yah? just hang on and it'll be over soon.. and if he becomes very 'initiative' be careful not to get blinded by his sweet words and everythin pple can be very sly sometimes.. -
Not necessarily true....Originally posted by jOhO:1. if a reln is healthy, one *should* not look elsewhere, becos if u do u will never be satisfied with ur "order". grass is greener attitude.
2. it's only when the reln is crumbling that pple succomb to such temptations. -
SIMPLE piece of ADVICE.... DON'T go for that guy... By SIMPLE SURFACE analysis, he don't sounds real enough... But of course, there're always chances for OTHERWISE.... Which.... You MOST probably ain't READY for.... IMAGINE if you really goes into a RELATIONSHIP with him, you'll have to CLASH with his gf... Maybe people around both of you... Risk the UNKNOWN fact of how true is his feelings for you... <- How well do you know him...? COMPLEXITY is BOUND to roll in.... DON'T FORGET, you still haven't get yourself a PROPER job...? SAVE your energy for better ultilisation...?Originally posted by autumn:Hi all,
I have a bgr problem which has been bothering me for several months
I like a guyÂ… but he already has a gf. Currently, his gf went overseas for holidays and will be back next weekÂ… Two days ago, he asked me out for a movie outing. I agreed cos I thought we were just friends and I really missed him.
In the cinema, he held my hands for a while during the early part of the show. I tried to pull off my hands initiallyÂ… but in the end I let him held my hands. We went for a drink after the show.
He offered to send me back home. All seems normal until the part when he kissed me in the lift. I was quite surprised by his action. After cooling down, he apologized to me. I guess he felt that what he did was wrong as he is already attached. He asked me whether he can still know other girls if heÂ’s attachedÂ…. I told him that he should ask his gf this question as I dun think I am in a position to answer the question. He also asked me how to remain faithful but I really dun know how to advise him on that matter. I guess his heart is still not very stable.
I felt really lost after that incident. Although he expressed to me before that he likes me when I asked him about his opinion of myself.... However, deep in my heart, my sixth sense keeps telling me that if he can kiss me behind his gfÂ’s back, he can do that to other gals tooÂ… so I kept asking myself why am I still so silly to continue liking him. I guess I should stop initiating SMS messages and minimize my contact with him, but I felt so difficult cos I really like him a lot. I am now trying to get over him but I really dun know how toÂ… I think I need time.
On the other hand, I am having problems with my job hunt as well. After graduating for several mths, I am still unable to find a suitable job. ThatÂ’s making me feel a little bit worried. I find that most jobs which I am interested in require related experience and relevant qualifications. I find that I am at a disadvantage as I am lacking experience in those areas and my degree is quite general.
Okie, gota end nowÂ… thanks for lending me your listening ear.. If possible, hope u could offer me some advice on the above matters.. I just hope that I can stop thinking about that guy and find a suitable job soon.... I apologise for my poor English.
YOUR JOB.... If I've not remember wrongly you've posted this before.... IN ADDITION, you've posted MANY more others... Economy is not exactly that great now.... SETTLE for something which you might not really long for but can make a living for you for now.... Being a FRESH GRAD you are, try to look out for relatively NEW POST which would rather long-term cultivation of personnel... They usually prefer FRESH GRADs... In this case, don't look for something which you virtually can't stand.... Something BALANCED so that Life would be easier on you at a later stage of your career.... -
Originally posted by autumn:Hi....This is the first time that we went out. I think most likely, it will be the last time too as his gf will be back latest next week... Actually, he did more than just giving me goodbye kiss.
I guess he cooled down his actions later on probably bcos he felt that what he was doing was not right.. as he's attached already.
First time going out he couldnt even control himself..sigh..if I were u, I would see him as being desperate..this kind of guy CMI (cant make it). -
actualy i tink he might be a flirt...cos in first meeting...oni flirts dare to do such tings..or hes desperate cos his gf nt around he feel lonely....n might treat u as substitute..
i wonder y u like him even u haven met him b4...don u know u cant trust someone so easy in online or whoever u know nt long...anyway but i can understand you.... it is hard to describe this kind of feelings u had for him....u have to be protective .....u told someone whom u nv met b4 u like him.. he may find tis a weakness of u and try flirtin wit u............
i tink someone wit gf wont do such tings to his gf unless hes tired of his gf and wana try someone new..or hes a flirt....as this is ur first meeting...he aso nv see u before...so i guess even if he likes u..is maybe a crush? (u mus be pretty)..anyway i tink u better dn tink so much and unless hes single then if u still like him then tink and sort out ur feelings properly b4 u choose him....
if not....better leave him a distance........u mention he did more than a kiss to u....i tink a gentleman wont do such tings to a girl he meet in first meeting...did u kiss him back? if no is still ok...bt if yes...i tink .....he might tink u dn mind....so i guess u better be careful..he might meet u out again....when hes lonely...
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and yes....99.999999% shows that he can do tis to u...he can also do tis to other girls aso........bt 6th sense told me this kinda guys goes for looks....??
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Hi puppylove:Originally posted by puppylove:yah, u might end up getting hurt even more, i felt it, it cut like a blade, and there's nothin u can really do about it but i tell u it'll be hard, to minimise contact and everything.. but try to pull through yah? just hang on and it'll be over soon.. and if he becomes very 'initiative' be careful not to get blinded by his sweet words and everythin pple can be very sly sometimes..
So u hv this feeling before too? Hmm, so how did u manage to get over this feeling? -
Hi Xiao Long Nu:Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:i wonder y u like him even u haven met him b4...don u know u cant trust someone so easy in online or whoever u know nt long...anyway but i can understand you.... it is hard to describe this kind of feelings u had for him....u have to be protective .....u told someone whom u nv met b4 u like him.. he may find tis a weakness of u and try flirtin wit u............
Hmm.....I didn't meet him online as I don't go irc. We got to know each other at my guy friend's dinner outing.
That time he kissed me was the forth time that I met him... which means that it was the first time that we went out on a solo movie outing.
Err... as to why I like him... I guess it's because during the first time that we talked at the dinner outing....he looked cute to me, and seemed to be a decent kind of guy... which attracted me to him in the first place... Hmm... but now... I really dun understand why I can continue to like him after that movie outing Something must be wrong with me -
Originally posted by autumn:Hi puppylove:
So u hv this feeling before too? Hmm, so how did u manage to get over this feeling? i'm not over it yet -
Fourth time met and first time outing... This is seriously something you need to ponder and consider.Originally posted by autumn:Hi Xiao Long Nu:
Hmm.....I didn't meet him online as I don't go irc. I met him at my guy friend's dinner outing. That guy is a subordinate of my guy friend.
After that outing, he came twice to my house to teach me some computing skills as I wanted to learn a new computer programme. My family members were around that time when he came over to my house to teach me the computing skills.
That time he kissed me was the forth time that I met him... which means that it was the first time that we went out on a solo movie outing.
Err... as to why I like him... I guess it's because during the first time that we talked at the dinner outing....he looked cute to me, and seemed to be a shy and decent kind of guy... which attracted me to him in the first place... Hmm... but now... I really dun understand why I can continue to like him after that movie outing Something must be wrong with me
Anyway liking is no fault - love is blind. Just that whatever decision you want to make, please consider twice if you decide to accept him.
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which part..?Originally posted by Devil1976:Not necessarily true....
anyway those were just two things the story tells. it's just a story that may help pple understand a couple of ways that these things happen. -
i think these kinda guys stay as frens still ok, provided he dun repeat wat he did.
but seriously, do u think he's suitable to be a bf.. imagine u are his gf, can u take it if he does these to other gals?
i have a similar encounter too, actually. tis guy also asked me can he still go for other gals even though attached...
at first my impression of him was still quite good, but then after tat, i got quite turned off.. i simply cant stand guys who do tis. and he's shown me he can be unfaithful in a relationship, how do u expect me to trust him if we really develop into something further?
infatuation is jus infatuation, think twice..