Should I relate my own experience?
Being accidentally in love with my best friend and realizing it abit too late.
We have had a grey-zone relationship of some years. It was not an obvious and clear-cut relationship which leads to a heap of problems and emotional frustration thereafter. It didn’t occur to me that she has feeling for me all this years and I, too have feeling for her. In my mind, I always see her as a friend but at the back of mind, I’m really, slowly falling in love with her. This scenario kind of reminds me of the agonizing story that I read in AA about guys slowly falling in love with their best friend but our fate is different. However, our destiny is meant to be different.
nana straight or otherwise?
so nana got get together? Got take any actions? What happened in the end?
wow nana78's story.. how i wish i am like her?.. to find that actually me and that girl have feelings before.. cos i last time previously felt as though she reali deep down kinda like me but tinks that she treat me as a best friend.. cos sometimes i do feel that way thru her actions.
and yeah i'm interested to know what happens after that, care to share with us?
Originally posted by motoway:nana straight or otherwise?
hmm isnt it obvious.
hey guys..
her birthday is apparently coming up.. and she's gonna hold a bbq over at her place to celebrate it..
any ideas to how to surprise her on that day?
Originally posted by j_dsowner:hey guys..
her birthday is apparently coming up.. and she's gonna hold a bbq over at her place to celebrate it..
any ideas to how to surprise her on that day?
haha but we arrive with the balloon? i was intending to hide something until the bbq nite.. den night time den surprise her.. i can get the help of her parents cos i know them and her other grp of friends.. any more ideas?
go there super early and hide it in the room. or get someone to deliver it at night lor...
Get a very big box and put a super big nice bear inside?
me n my friend thought of wearing shirts which bear happy birthday words.. seems nice n touching eh! can't wait for the birthday surprise lol.
lol. good one there. u guys go to orchard den walk in a grp together la.
haha cannot. cos we celebrating at her place.. but then i got try to ask her out personally on her actual bdae not.. cos the celebration is on a wkend. not her actual bdae. yep.. but she haven't agreed on going out with me yet..
anyway i sorta blew cold air to her again.
after my work, i msg her wads she's doing n stuffs. and then she mentioned that she's outside [ means she's with her bf ]
den i simply replied, " kk sry. "
i don't know? but i just feel that it's wad i wanna reply. i just wanna make her feel that i'm not happy with who she is with. and i just wanna let her know that i'm jealous and stuffs like that.........
help me help me i'm hurting again like mad.
normally her blog only have our cliques links. den today i found some extra links. den i saw one of the last link is actually her
help me help me i'm hurting again like mad.
normally her blog only have our cliques links. den today i found some extra links. den i saw one of the last link is actually her bf's
help me help me i'm hurting again like mad.
normally her blog only have our cliques links. den today i found some extra links. den i saw one of the last link is actually her bf's sis. den
help me help me i'm hurting again like mad.
normally her blog only have our cliques links. den today i found some extra links. den i saw one of the last link is actually her bf's sis. den i
sorry i accidently spammed the thread. din know pressing space enter the post..
help me help me i'm hurting again like mad.
normally her blog only have our cliques links. den today i found some extra links. den i saw one of the last link is actually her bf's sis. den i questioned her, " how come suddenly got links. " [ cos i was always the one helping her with the blog ] she dono how to put links.
den she just say " i put myself ytd one. " den i say who is ***** the link person name. den she say " a friend's sis " i don't know i don't know but i just went to read that particular blog and i saw extra info of them together and i'm veri angry . i just wanna hate her.
okay.. i tik no one cares abt this thread anymore.
stop torturing yourself la. Do you realise you're goin worse and worse?
I understand u might really love her. but this is not working, do u see it? She loves her bf and you know it.
I think the best is u stop loving her and move on. Waiting for some1 is very painful, why dont use that time to find more fren, who knows perhaps u know some1 who got the same thinking like u?
Trust me, for now just treat her like your normal best fren and not like some1 u really like, then get yourself busy with something and the best go out with some frens and get to know new frens. Life isnt that bad if u know how to use it.
U are really getting worse and worse. This will affect your personality and confidence in future whether u know it or not.
Ppl always make mistake if they only see one road to a destination. Without knowing which road is shortcut and more convinient, ppl will always use the same long torturing road to a destination , ended up making themself exhausted, no one to blame but themself. Think deep bout this everyday on how u wan to make your life colourful.
Dont be like my ex making herself so miserable for loving a virtual gal and affected studies or work
i know i am torturing myself.
but love is blind. it is not easy to stop.
i just nid to slowly remind myself. i must kip reminding myself.
i am just a friend. just a friend. only a friend in her life and no more than that.
and during this process, i will expect myself to cry, breakdown, emo, depressed, and restrain myself strongly not to tell anyone about it.
i'm trying veri hard. i know im a disappointment to myself. but still i'm trying.
don't know if anyone still bothers abt this thread..
but..
just wish to give an update..
Okay i've confirmed in my heart n mind she's a friend.
so i will NOT be looking to having any r/s at all with her.
but i am hoping to let her know that i ONCE loved her. and the present i am not.
however i smsed her if something shud ever break our friendship, shud i let it happen or shud i let it not happen?
she chose not to let it happen.
so i am troubled over telling her or not.
is it ok to tell her that i loved her once, and explained the reasons behind all the quarrels we had and all the unanswered questions?
will she understand?....
dun tell la. Why must tell? will it make u better?