Screw those chinese nationals
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The chinawoman is doing nothing wrong, its only that you do not like what she is doing. I think she is doing a good job enriching herself and benefiting her family. Your dad, on the other hand is the one who is not doing the right thing. So you should talk to you dad. If he is aware, he'll realise that he is in a major dilemma, of which he cannot get out of. That chinawoman got him trapped. His business, the house, the marriage, he is trapped good. The alternative for him is to deny his stupidity, and enjoy the flattery of the chinawoman while she skillfully milk him. Do you know the story of the frog and the scorpion? The frog was carrying the scorpion across a stream, and the scorpion stung the frog. The frog ask "Why did you sting me, I am helping you across the water?" The scorpion replied,"I am a scorpion, I do what scorpions do." What is the chinawoman doing? What is you dad doing?
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jaydunkfull,
I'm sorry to hear your grandma is in such a plight.
Unfortunately.. there is nothing much you can do to help her if she doesn't want to help herself.
Getting involved with a mistress and having her tear up his family is a common bane among businessmen. Yours is not the first case I know.
It is not a very good strategy to go drama mama on your dad.
If he is doing a peackeeper role..he's likely not willing to make a bold move divorcing his wife ..AGAIN.. As a businessman.. he has his face value.
Can you imagine a man.. getting divorce TWICE ?.. His friends and accquaintance will laugh at him for being such a FAILURE in his personal life.. and how is he going to gain credits in his field of work ?
Since you are working in his company. Here is what you need to do to ensure your father don;t get gobbled up and spat out like a piece of chewing gum.
BE INVOLVED , or if you can.. assume control of key departments in his company.
Financials..- accounts.. audits.. investments. etc. Shares
ALL planning and marketing aspect.
If you can secure yourself an important foothold.. you can help prevent her family from taking full control.
Keep him close to you as much as possible.. make him tote you around on his business trips, using the reason " Learning the ropes". Position yourself to BE his successor.
And you really need to . keep your cool..Observe..be rational and speak up when you need to.
If you go drama and emo.. your stepmom will use this opportunity to kick you out of the company for good.
Good luck.. and BE STRONG !
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Originally posted by mancha:
The chinawoman is doing nothing wrong, its only that you do not like what she is doing. I think she is doing a good job enriching herself and benefiting her family.
Your dad, on the other hand is the one who is not doing the right thing.
So you should talk to you dad. If he is aware, he’ll realise that he is in a major dilemma, of which he cannot get out of. That chinawoman got him trapped. His business, the house, the marriage, he is trapped good. The alternative for him is to deny his stupidity, and enjoy the flattery of the chinawoman while she skillfully milk him.Do you know the story of the frog and the scorpion?
The frog was carrying the scorpion across a stream, and the scorpion stung the frog. The frog ask “Why did you sting me, I am helping you across the water?” The scorpion replied,”I am a scorpion, I do what scorpions do.”What is the chinawoman doing? What is you dad doing?
I find your logic is kinda twisted. It's like saying that it's perfectly acceptable for a psychopath to go around raping girls simply because they are who they are and are just doing what they need to satisfy their own desires, whereas the blame gets pushed to girls who don't carry a pepper spray in their handbags or walk in dark alleys.
The analogy, "The Frog and the Scorpion", though interesting, but does not fit into the situation TS' father is in. Let me post two links here for those who wants to know more about it.
http://allaboutfrogs.org/stories/scorpion.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Scorpion_and_the_FrogThe objective of the whole story can be summarized as "to illustrate the purportedly insuppressible nature of one's self at its base level". I don't think "milking money out of SG men" is part of an insuprressible nature of PRC women, or any woman out there. It can be a motive, an intention, but definitely not something embedded in any human's genes.
And to TS, I don't have much advice for you, but tell your father what your grandmother had told you. If you do not wish to put her in a spot, you can always convey the events as a third party. Instead of saying "Po-po say that old bitch bullied and screamed at her", you say "Last night, I saw that old bitch builled and screamed at Po-po!" (you have to actually be there at that point of time, of course).
And you asked, "what if Po-po doesn't want to pour out her grievance to me after I spill the beans to Dad?" So be it. At least you gonna expect him to do something serious about it, because it's like, hello, she's your dad's mum? I won't say the same if he's an unfilial bastard though. And it's definitely better than knowing that she's suffering day after day yet doing nothing about it.
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basically the dude who wrote this story is trying to create tension between china ppl and singapore ppl...maybe some bad exp on his part with the china counterpart.....all in all even if this story is true, it still takes 2 hands to clap.....ur dad did marry her after all.....whatever this china lady mum or who did watever crap things....if u feel that there is ill treatment or any kind u should just file a police report...wat is the point u complain here.....if u want to blame....blame ur dad for leaving u and ur mum...!!!
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im sorry for ur dad, sorry for u, sorry for ur family
but this is 一竹竿打翻整船人 -
hopefully God can help tt old bitch....
who knows... maybe 1 day after come back from church then become guai guai liao
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Originally posted by maxsee:
basically the dude who wrote this story is trying to create tension between china ppl and singapore ppl...maybe some bad exp on his part with the china counterpart.....all in all even if this story is true, it still takes 2 hands to clap.....ur dad did marry her after all.....whatever this china lady mum or who did watever crap things....if u feel that there is ill treatment or any kind u should just file a police report...wat is the point u complain here.....if u want to blame....blame ur dad for leaving u and ur mum...!!!
sia la u dude. do you actually think someone would go through all that frucking trouble just to create tension b/w singaporeans and china pple ON A ONLINE FORUM. tell me wtf does he/she gain from it HAR?! besides, this is AUNTY AGONY ISNT? so we are here to complain and rant and hopefully get solutions. CANNOT? then aunty agony kam lan one? try not to treat everyone like stooky here please. it's really unkind.
anyway TS, i understand yr frustration. jiayou :D
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Originally posted by LatecomerX:
I find your logic is kinda twisted. It's like saying that it's perfectly acceptable for a psychopath to go around raping girls simply because they are who they are and are just doing what they need to satisfy their own desires, whereas the blame gets pushed to girls who don't carry a pepper spray in their handbags or walk in dark alleys.
The analogy, "The Frog and the Scorpion", though interesting, but does not fit into the situation TS' father is in. Let me post two links here for those who wants to know more about it.
http://allaboutfrogs.org/stories/scorpion.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Scorpion_and_the_FrogThe objective of the whole story can be summarized as "to illustrate the purportedly insuppressible nature of one's self at its base level". I don't think "milking money out of SG men" is part of an insuprressible nature of PRC women, or any woman out there. It can be a motive, an intention, but definitely not something embedded in any human's genes.
...That psychopath thingy, is kinda like putting a lot of words into my mouth, I'll let it pass.
My apologies for any generalisation to all PRC women. I only wish to draw the attention of the TS, that the chinawoman of this thread ( his step mother), is only acting in her own best interest, and he shouldn't be surprised. There is no intentent on my part to infer that all PRC women are like that.
One thing that most forumers is agreeable on, is that the TS should speak to the father. How and what to talk about, is TS's call.
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waaa...so serious?
frankly speaking, you will be at the losing end....they have children as well, which means your half-siblings....
not that i am being mean, but watch out for your dad's will...maybe yr step-mum might "poison" his mind, and leave u nothing...
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.............u are angry or what?
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TS dad just never see the damages...
TS do u even talk to ur dad bout what she did ? i bet u didnt
and im just wondering why is your dad couldnt see her true nature? perhaps step mom pretend like a cat in front of him?
You should tell your dad bout this even if he will be mad or not. its your family you concern. and daddy needs to know that
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Originally posted by mancha:
That psychopath thingy, is kinda like putting a lot of words into my mouth, I'll let it pass.
My apologies for any generalisation to all PRC women. I only wish to draw the attention of the TS, that the chinawoman of this thread ( his step mother), is only acting in her own best interest, and he shouldn't be surprised. There is no intentent on my part to infer that all PRC women are like that.
One thing that most forumers is agreeable on, is that the TS should speak to the father. How and what to talk about, is TS's call.
I don't put words in yours or anyone's mouth. I'm simply reasoning on the psychopath example based on your logic. The purpose of that example is to highlight to you how ridiculous your logic is when you said that bitch who just came in and broke up TS' family is only acting in her own interests and is doing nothing wrong, and instead, the blame goes to TS' father.
When a psychopath preys on a victim, isn't he/she acting in his/her own interests as well? So, tell me, would he/she be doing nothing wrong, or not?
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Can you all don't teach the wrong things to the threadstarter please?Do you know that in ancient times when people are so morally righteous to the point of treating those who hurt them with kindness?Remember The 24 Stories of Filial Piety?We should promote this classic in our modern age.
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Originally posted by LatecomerX:
I don't put words in yours or anyone's mouth. I'm simply reasoning on the psychopath example based on your logic. The purpose of that example is to highlight to you how ridiculous your logic is when you said that bitch who just came in and broke up TS' family is only acting in her own interests and is doing nothing wrong, and instead, the blame goes to TS' father.
When a psychopath preys on a victim, isn't he/she acting in his/her own interests as well? So, tell me, would he/she be doing nothing wrong, or not?
This is a digression from the thread, well anyway briefly here goes.
What the TS step mother is doing is distasteful, bullying the grandma and hustling the father. and behaving abnoxiously (abnoxious as we define it ourselves). I clearly said what she is doing is not liked. She has not crossed the line into insanity.
How can that domestic situation compare with that of a psychopath, who prey on people, due to a disease of the mind.
The TS father, is not entirely blameless.
I am not surprised by the chinawoman actions, neither am I by the father's "peacekeeping" role. Both are not out of the ordinary. Both are not anywhere near a psychopath situation.
The father is pivotal in any conciliatory actions.
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Originally posted by Ongsoosiang:
Can you all don't teach the wrong things to the threadstarter please?Do you know that in ancient times when people are so morally righteous to the point of treating those who hurt them with kindness?Remember The 24 Stories of Filial Piety?We should promote this classic in our modern age.
Wow.. I sure wish you'd tell this to the stepmom instead .Some people don't like to be at the shorter end of the stick.
Obviously, not TS.
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I understand what is happening within your family, I have an uncle who has the exact same problem.
Mummy once told me not to marry a China woman, she said, marry the woman, marry the whole family.
It's probably the one-child policy that has led the people to be so aggresive.
+oil, I think the best way to control this problem is to grasp the financial holdings of your father's company, and to withdraw(or request for him to invest in you) as much funds as possible, placing them under your own name. By doing so, the assets will be under you and no longer under him.
Furthermore with your property not being under your father's name, you're on the losing end no matter what. Chances are the woman is going to will her assets within her own family.
However, there are really nice China Chinese Woman, regardless of these stereotypes, but no matter what, marriage is never about 2 people. Factor in her family and WHAMP! The woman might be diamond! But her family is gonna be hot coal you have to walk over.
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The least you can do is to go spy on the Cheena woman and with luck and strategy, try to get another guy to pose as a lure to be her lover..Get someone you know to lure her as a target for her scams..get photos of her and "that lover" to go into a hotel and exiting the hotel a few hours later..and get records of that hotel visit from "that lover"..enuff to grant a divorce sans alimony on the grounds of adultery...
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Maybe you should pour sulphuric acid on her while she's sleeping. Use more like a 2 M solution where it is sort of corrosive but not enough to do really extensive skin damage but it irritates her. Nah, that's too mean. Depends on you but dont go for 18.47 M H2SO4. That oxidizes and combusts a lot of stuff.
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try talking to your dad when those outsiders are not around.
else if your dad let her inherit his assets,you and your sis gone case in future already.
do it asap.before that china step mother of yours take action earlier than you do.
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Originally posted by Science dude:
Maybe you should pour sulphuric acid on her while she's sleeping. Use more like a 2 M solution where it is sort of corrosive but not enough to do really extensive skin damage but it irritates her. Nah, that's too mean. Depends on you but dont go for 18.47 M H2SO4. That oxidizes and combusts a lot of stuff.
Fark the PRCs... They are nothing but here for $$$$$.Our country is flooding with PRCs. Esp at coffeeshop.
We are soon losing our identity.
They even bypass the Olympics Fire Baton from our country.
We need to form a group call SOSI (Save Our Singapore Identity)!!!
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Originally posted by Master -_-:
The least you can do is to go spy on the Cheena woman and with luck and strategy, try to get another guy to pose as a lure to be her lover..Get someone you know to lure her as a target for her scams..get photos of her and "that lover" to go into a hotel and exiting the hotel a few hours later..and get records of that hotel visit from "that lover"..enuff to grant a divorce sans alimony on the grounds of adultery...
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Originally posted by xaih:
good try.this should be useful.
I think PRCs and Thais are fantastic liars!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! -
Seriously fark those cheena people... Whats the percentage of singaporeans compared to foreigners are in the national team? Can it still be called national team? Or cheena team? Or foreign talent (FT) team?
I rather singapore not win any medals in sports, than having cheena people winning medals for us...
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If your dad divorce her ... she's going to wipe him clean. Either way, its a very hard lesson for your dad and family.
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RIP.
TS. I personally hate ah tiongs.