Pre - Wedding troubles
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Originally posted by jacqn:
Once in a lifetime??? i thought divorce is even faster rate.
I think he wont have a divorce he seem to love his wife .If not why would he make a topic like tat
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Why get married?
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wo, marriage sounds scary..
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no money still wanna marry for wat
wats the rush ? wait until u got money la
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i not saying about TS, just a very general opinion of my own. Many a time, love is not the only thing in marriage. both will realise marriage involve many more things for consideration. other factors can contribute to a separation too..
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:)
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Originally posted by Karma88:
Lend money from parents lo .
LOL . I think wedding should be a grand event .
It`s once in a life time right ?
some ppl have it a couple of times in their lifetime...
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Originally posted by twenty47:
My wife to be and me are planning to get married. Rom this year and chinese wedding in 09. Both of us are fresh grads and don't really have much savings. Before I carry on further, my wife to be is someone who wants everything to be perfect and of high quality.
Few weeks ago, we went to look at some rings because I insist on buying her a solitaire as proposal ring because its a once in a lifetime thing and I want her to have it. We walked around and she saw the Destinee daimonds. True enough, Destinee diamonds are nice, but the price is even nicer. My friend recommended me a shop in orchard which also sells quality diamonds but at half the price... when I told her that I am considering buying from that shop, I can see the disappointment in her eyes. After I communicated with her and promised that I'll choose her a nice diamond, she slowly recovers and things got back to normal.
Today, she was flipping style wedding magazine and she saw this nice ROM, poolside or garden package from Sheraton Singapore. Sweat broke out as I was thinking if my savings (not alot), after paying for bridal package and buying the solitaire and wedding bands can handle that. She did mention that she has some savings as well and
she can pay for somethings too. I told her that maybe ROM at that place will not be such a good idea as we can always have our ROM and fort canning or a restaurant and invite the JP over. I again see that disappointment in her eyes. I know that she wants everything to be dreamy and princessy but from my point of view, I thought I would rather save the fancy stuff and put the money to better use since we, or rather I am running on a tight budget. I still have the flat and chinese wedding to handle in the near future.Suddenly I am feeling the strain from wedding plans. I have never bothered about how much I had in my bank until now. I do not want to disappoint my wife to be but at the same time, I want to remain sensible work within out budget... How....
both ur family rich ah...? jz grad wan to get married... how long both of u know each other liao? u last time duno she wans all tis? only solution is talk to her abt it..... and plan ur budget from A-Z 2gether... -
Originally posted by dibilo:
haha thanks for all the inputs. The reason why we are getting married now is because we are both mentally ready for it. As for money in the future, I am not too worried. We have both secured well paid and stable jobs. In 3 years time, I'll be getting a lump sum from my fixed deposit, which i plan to save it for our baby funds.
We'll be alright. We were talking just now and she herself brought up the topic... she asked for a simple ROM meal... which I am glad that she realised it after thinking through on her own.
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Originally posted by Karma88:
Lend money from parents lo .
LOL . I think wedding should be a grand event .
It`s once in a life time right ?
But some ppl marry more than once... -
one to one talk?
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I just hope both of u won't quarrel over monetary issues when both of u live together in the future. Just dun regret later.
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well, i understand TS the point. so this is what i suggest.
ask her to chose which is thing she like the most.
!. the ring ?
2 the rom venue ?
3 the expensive glown ?
4 the expensive photoshoot ?
5 you ?
well if she choses 5, then u kiss her and say , see everything else doesn't matter it is me you want most right ?
jokes aside, u tell her to chose and spent more on that thing, like : rom venue can be on the facy garden but she will have a normal ring normal photoshoot and glown.
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i wish u two a happy marriage =)
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Why must have customary wedding dinner.... invite many people u nvr see before
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I have seen a few genuine cases where the person gets ruin by their wedding event.
1) Wanted a perfect/nice/grand wedding. So finds ways and means to get the ideal wedding...needless to say it cost $$$. All credit cards was used. The wedding went through nice.
And she is now in debts of $35,000/- from all the credit cards she used for the wedding...including interest whuch is snowing balling non-stop. Husband tied down by renovation loan. The ideal wedding...the road to bankruptcy...
2) Wanted to be the most happiest woman in the world with the ultimate wedding. Ultimate wedding went though. End up in debts as no way the ang bao can recover the cost. Both ends up quarreling as accuses each other of not being to earn more. Both working only to make ends meet to pay wedding event debts. Both ends up clubbing seperately to forget troubles...now divorced.
3) Nice wedding, everything wife wants also can. After wedding, tells wife cannot tahan the expenses. Wife calls him useless and walks out on him. Divorced now.
3) Also a grand wedding to make meet wife and her parents requirements. Now paying minimum payment for his credit cards...with outstanding $10,000/-++.
Anymore you guys knows?
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Originally posted by gunner77:
no money still wanna marry for wat
wats the rush ? wait until u got money la
no money can marry, it's the wedding that is the problem.
Many look forward to the wedding, but not beyond.
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You can always pay for your wedding rings using credit card installment. If she insist on getting a Destinee, you can easily match hers with a lower range ring.
I think it is every ger's dream to have a dreamy and princess-like wedding. But than, there are many ways to plan your ROM within your budget and at the same time meaningful.
We did it at our new flat. We did the decoration ourselves. If you get other people to do, will cost ard $100+. Some expenses that might incur will include buffet, ang bao for JP, clothes for both parties.
The ang bao that we got that day cover everything.
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ppl i know >
wife wan big house..
husband buy big house...
both cant sustain the loan...
husband sell car...
both struggle to pay loan...
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I admit i poor guy cannot get married.
I admit you rich ppl buy marriage get divorce free
btw divorce papers need marnie? how much to get divorce har? clug=bbing some mor- i really need a joke to laff for the day man. this should be in jokes forum
if they dun noe how to use the calculator and the simulator in their brains, try to learn how to use the abacus like our ahgongma
u want to be princes and princesses? i paint an oil piecee free for u divorcees lah
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now she bite u .. married already she swallow u..
break with her la .. such wife u also want ... sad for u
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a happy marriage does not start with all those items.. tell her that u really can't afford those items, but promise her u will in the future when u earn. starting of marriage with debt is fine, but u will be carrying a big big rock on top of u in the mid marriage.. and it won't be a happy 1
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isnt wedding a thing of both people - isnt she supposed to share the costs too? I think you both need to go for pre-wedding counselling. its important! Nvr rush into a wedding! NEVER!
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now is pre-wedding troubles.
next is post-wedding troubles.
now here's the similarity, it's about money!!