cant get over him

• iwishiwilliwould

  16 Aug 08, 23:28

  i liked guy A for very long. nothing blossomed. so i decided to give up and move on. so guy B is interested in me. i wanted to give both of us a chance but couldnt do it. i thought it was just cuz he was not my type. now i know its cuz of A. i think i still cant do it. how?
• DamonAng

  16 Aug 08, 23:37

  You very lost...

• iwishiwilliwould

  16 Aug 08, 23:45

  yes i am. thats why im here. cuz time and again i told myself to forget about A. i thought i did. B is just a friend. i wanted to open up to other guys. and i everyone can tell hes interested in me. i dont wanna give him false hope. but he does help me get over A. i feel so mean.
• DamonAng

  17 Aug 08, 02:22

  Find the honest/decent one. Use your 6th sense ma, most wives can tell if their husbands is lying. Females got this sense to judge things one lol

• iwishiwilliwould

  17 Aug 08, 13:16

  this has nothing to do with my judgement. i dont know B as well as A. i dont know if B is a decent guy. but that doesnt stop me from liking A. when my girlfriends tease me about B, i can feel that A is a little affected. how can i tell if hes affected or not?
• XxYaNxX

  17 Aug 08, 17:52

  If nothing happened with guy A , you need to move on ah , why waste time ?

• Evangel

  17 Aug 08, 18:44

  TS did you confess your feelings to A?

  Nothing blossomed means A didn't make any move?

• jacqn

  17 Aug 08, 18:49

  its always better to be loved than to love. take your time to get to know B better. if he is a good guy and really likes you, he will wait for you. 

• kenn3th

  17 Aug 08, 18:52

  Why hasnt it blossomed?

• iwishiwilliwould

  17 Aug 08, 19:01

  yea, i did confess to A, but that was more than a year ago. but he liked another girl then, he confessed to that girl and it didnt work out. we were very very close throughout this entire year. not to mention we were great friends since young. i didnt wanna confess another time because i didnt wanna jeopardise our friendship. so about 2 mths ago, i realised that i should just stop being stupid, and forget about him. and i almost did. until our clique of friends met up again the other day, and i found out i couldnt get over him at all. B appeared in the midst of me wanting to forget about A. he pays alot of attention to me, and always takes the initiative. i thought he could take my attention away from A. but it didnt happen.
• DownAndOut

  17 Aug 08, 19:40

  Youre just being selfish.

• wonderamazement

  17 Aug 08, 19:43

  are you still studying?

• gunner77

  17 Aug 08, 21:56

  this is a case of

  love the person u love OR love the person who love u.

   

• iwishiwilliwould

  17 Aug 08, 22:17

  i dont know if this is being selfish. cuz B hasnt told me anything yet, theres also a high chance that im just a friend to him. yep, university next year for A and me. i have been so stubborn because i know no matter how hard i try, no one can take the place of A. i can only keep waiting. im not trying to use B to replace A. he just happened to be there.
• Rednano

  17 Aug 08, 22:38

  Originally posted by iwishiwilliwould:

  i dont know if this is being selfish. cuz B hasnt told me anything yet, theres also a high chance that im just a friend to him.

  yep, university next year for A and me. i have been so stubborn because i know no matter how hard i try, no one can take the place of A. i can only keep waiting. im not trying to use B to replace A. he just happened to be there.

  
  go with B. see reaction of A.
  if A jealous, u noe some feelings of him for u.
  if A is boh chap, forget him. give a chance to B.
  
  
  taken from glenn frey "the one you love".
  Are you gonna stay with the one who loves you,
  or are you going back to the one you love.
  someone gonna cry when he knows he lost you,
  someone gonna thank the stars above...

• iwishiwilliwould

  17 Aug 08, 22:43

  yepp. i went out with B already. and when A knew about it, i realise he didnt laugh along with our clique at first, but after that he did. i dont know if he felt anything. i think he did, or i hope he did. i cant tell. i really cant tell. i didnt go out with B to make A jealous. i really wanted to give us a chance. but it really didnt work.
• dcx

  17 Aug 08, 22:45

  just go tell A again that you like him...

• Rednano

  17 Aug 08, 22:50

  Originally posted by dcx:

  just go tell A again that you like him...

  
  say... she should go tell A abt <how>, do A wish to keep TS by his side, or wish her luck in going further with B?

• iwishiwilliwould

  18 Aug 08, 15:31

  A is my friend of many years. its like super awakward to tell him again. B is not my kinda guy. he just made me realise how much i still like A. its such a complicated situation.
• Rednano

  18 Aug 08, 18:43

  Originally posted by iwishiwilliwould:

  A is my friend of many years. its like super awakward to tell him again.

  B is not my kinda guy. he just made me realise how much i still like A.

  its such a complicated situation.

  
  if like that, then u just go focus on ur studies lah. still young.
  
  like the song i quoted its chorus, the scenario is u may marry a guy whom u love wholeheartedly, but the guy's true love is not u. vice versa too.

• angel7030

  18 Aug 08, 18:47

  I think you wait for C to appear or choose  D: none of the above and go concentrate on yr study lah.

• Rulzgboi

  19 Aug 08, 23:47

  iwishiwilliwould, i truely understand how u feel.U feel torturing and deenergise everyday.feel very tiring and often have mood change.U have no energy to begin a new love relationship.I am right?

• iwishiwilliwould

  20 Aug 08, 13:43

  rulzgboi. yes yes yes. that is what i feel. cuz im right now vexed over my education issues, so i dont know if my mood changed cus of him or other matters. no matter how good B appears to be, he will never be able to replace A. so even if a C or D or E appears, it will still be the same. i tried so hard to get over him. but look at where i am now.
• Gosu.

  20 Aug 08, 14:33

  Originally posted by Rulzgboi:

  iwishiwilliwould, i truely understand how u feel.U feel torturing and deenergise everyday.feel very tiring and often have mood change.U have no energy to begin a new love relationship.I am right?

  
  GOOD DIAGNOSIS! But you missed out the most important part after diagnosis - Cure/Solution. So basically your diagnosis is like the government.

• 00king00

  20 Aug 08, 17:39

  since u hav alr confessed to him before, dun tink u shld confess a 2nd time

   but that doesn't mean u shld juz leave it hanging, rather than doing it yourself ,hint yr feelings to him through another friend