Problem getting a steady girlfriend
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I'm 21 and just returned to Singapore after graduating overseas. For the past 5-6 years i've played around alot. I flirt around alot, dated many girls, had many girlfriends/flings and slept around a fair bit too. Yeah, probably the typical guy most girls will call a jerk.
Lately, i'm starting to get sick of all the booze and partying, and i've been looking for a steady girlfriend to sorta settle down with. Not exactly thinking of getting married, but seeking someone that I can click with and take care of (and vice versa).
A while back, there was this girl that I really liked. She liked me too but she would not accept me as her partner because she said she cannot afford another heartbreak. I've tried countless of times to convince her that I'm serious but she would always end up crying and telling me to leave her alone as I will just end up breaking her heart. We're now over each other and we're good friends.
I met another girl 2 weeks ago, and i'm kinda facing the same problem. My expectations are quite high and these 2 girls both fall in the pretty/smart/mature/understanding category and are great girls who are not easy to come by.
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I'd just like some advice from the girls out here for tips on how I can get this girl to trust me that I am no longer the guy I used to be.
Thanks in advance
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Sick of booze ?
Try drugs then .
Then u`ll get caught and go to jail and save those girls a heartbreak LOL .
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when u promise something to them, don't break it no matter what
there, settled
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Uh huh... so you got sick of the party and the booze ?
Good for you... now.. when are you gonna get sick of that sweet innocent girl too ?
If you want to find someone who wants to keep you.
You gota source from the outside circle.
Girls who has insider information about your tainted past... will not be blinded by your pretense.
So .. go where you've never been before.. where nobody knows your past... and seek your soul mate from there.
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21... 5 - 6 yrs??
no NS???
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Originally posted by Sydney:
I'm 21 and just returned to Singapore after graduating overseas. For the past 5-6 years i've played around alot. I flirt around alot, dated many girls, had many girlfriends/flings and slept around a fair bit too. Yeah, probably the typical guy most girls will call a jerk.
Lately, i'm starting to get sick of all the booze and partying, and i've been looking for a steady girlfriend to sorta settle down with. Not exactly thinking of getting married, but seeking someone that I can click with and take care of (and vice versa).
A while back, there was this girl that I really liked. She liked me too but she would not accept me as her partner because she said she cannot afford another heartbreak. I've tried countless of times to convince her that I'm serious but she would always end up crying and telling me to leave her alone as I will just end up breaking her heart. We're now over each other and we're good friends.
I met another girl 2 weeks ago, and i'm kinda facing the same problem. My expectations are quite high and these 2 girls both fall in the pretty/smart/mature/understanding category and are great girls who are not easy to come by.
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if u reali serious then show ur not a heartbreaker... be loyal to them n they will see it...... -
I gotta agree with Jojo. By association it can be hard to woo certain girls, especially if u have a certain history.
Damn, sometimes you only realise that the one that really loved u was the one. Sometimes its hard to go back to before as they have spent thier time and love on you and we took it for granted , that hurt will still remain and they wont just forget it so easily because they would have known you quite intimately to know what kind of person you really are , regardless of the fact that they use to like you.
I think you may have better chances with the girl you just met few weeks ago. But then again, the girl that u liked before may be.. the one you really want. lol.
Its quite a retarded situation that i think , when it reaches this point got no one to blame but urself la. damn..i also in this situation before n in the end have to accept the fact. But i think my karma better then u..
i hope. hahaha.. anyways la. U 21... u really sure ? About all the calming down, the true love stuff. cause i thought like you when i was around 21 also. haha look where am i now.
Good luck
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How can anyone get sick of booze. haha.
Well the only way to get girls, not just those 2, to trust you again is to genuinely BE sincere and trustworthy. Not just in your mind, but in your heart too. And time'll do the rest to help you prove yourself.
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Originally posted by BadzMaro:
I gotta agree with Jojo. By association it can be hard to woo certain girls, especially if u have a certain history.
Damn, sometimes you only realise that the one that really loved u was the one. Sometimes its hard to go back to before as they have spent thier time and love on you and we took it for granted , that hurt will still remain and they wont just forget it so easily because they would have known you quite intimately to know what kind of person you really are , regardless of the fact that they use to like you.
I think you may have better chances with the girl you just met few weeks ago. But then again, the girl that u liked before may be.. the one you really want. lol.
Its quite a retarded situation that i think , when it reaches this point got no one to blame but urself la. damn..i also in this situation before n in the end have to accept the fact. But i think my karma better then u..
i hope. hahaha.. anyways la. U 21... u really sure ? About all the calming down, the true love stuff. cause i thought like you when i was around 21 also. haha look where am i now.
Good luck
So where are you now ?
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
So where are you now ?
I am where i am still.
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I keep walking in circles. And i have a problem.
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Originally posted by BadzMaro:
I keep walking in circles. And i have a problem.
wat kind of problem ?
why you keep walking in circles?.. I send you a compass.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
wat kind of problem ?
why you keep walking in circles?.. I send you a compass.
Where does ur compass lead me to ? Ur North or my North .
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Originally posted by BadzMaro:
Where does ur compass lead me to ? Ur North or my North .
Looks like ur problem is directional. Hmmm~U need a map as well.
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Originally posted by RedizAlertz:
Looks like ur problem is directional. Hmmm~U need a map as well.
If only things were so simple. With maps and a clear purpose. No wonder ppl need religion.
What does this all have to do with the overall problem with this topic ? Everything. -
A ring....try it out with a ring...buddy...!! Only a marriage promise would make them believe u....!! But....U must actually arm down ur....techniques how to make a girl fall...!! ok..?? N watever u do....just do by heart not by ur head...!! I think u pick one up first before u r doin sth...!!
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you really do keep your options wide don't you sydney
i guess with your 'history', lets wisen up and not be so picky shall we
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Originally posted by Dukedas:
A ring....try it out with a ring...buddy...!! Only a marriage promise would make them believe u....!! But....U must actually arm down ur....techniques how to make a girl fall...!! ok..?? N watever u do....just do by heart not by ur head...!! I think u pick one up first before u r doin sth...!!
Eh..buddy..u r being naive, too naive..
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Originally posted by Sydney:
I'm 21 and just returned to Singapore after graduating overseas. For the past 5-6 years i've played around alot. I flirt around alot, dated many girls, had many girlfriends/flings and slept around a fair bit too. Yeah, probably the typical guy most girls will call a jerk.
Lately, i'm starting to get sick of all the booze and partying, and i've been looking for a steady girlfriend to sorta settle down with. Not exactly thinking of getting married, but seeking someone that I can click with and take care of (and vice versa).
A while back, there was this girl that I really liked. She liked me too but she would not accept me as her partner because she said she cannot afford another heartbreak. I've tried countless of times to convince her that I'm serious but she would always end up crying and telling me to leave her alone as I will just end up breaking her heart. We're now over each other and we're good friends.
I met another girl 2 weeks ago, and i'm kinda facing the same problem. My expectations are quite high and these 2 girls both fall in the pretty/smart/mature/understanding category and are great girls who are not easy to come by.
I
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To Gigabyte:
when u promise something to them, don't break it no matter what
there, settled
I don't break my promises, cos i hardly ever make any.
To Killtheink:
How can anyone get sick of booze. haha.
Well the only way to get girls, not just those 2, to trust you again is to genuinely BE sincere and trustworthy. Not just in your mind, but in your heart too. And time'll do the rest to help you prove yourself.
I don't really mean to boast but I have no problem getting girls; wild ones and decent ones. I guess i'm kinda a flirt by nature and they know that too. The problem here is the girl assumes i'm a jerk, can't help liking me, but then restrains herself from getting too deep. It seems to me now that even the decent girls are just looking for a fling. A girl kisses me then tells me that she doesn't deserve me. Well, at least that's what she said.
To Jojo:
You gota source from the outside circle.
Both girls were from the outside circle. Somehow, they can still tell.
To SBST:
21... 5 - 6 yrs??
no NS???
I deferred from NS. Was the last batch to be able to go overseas provided you enter Uni before 17 and 6 months. Will go ns in March next year.
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If all fails.. still got some other way la.. ultimately it depends on whether u really want to b with her or not.Fix a broken women , and she will love you forever.
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lol BadzMaro u sure reply quick enough.
I'm not sure, I might be wrong but somehow I feel its just that Singaporean girls are a little protective over their feelings, especially to guys like me who spent their teenage years overseas. Any girls can comment on this?
The first girl I mentioned, we never got together, but we had sex and it was her first time too. A few days later, she told me she cannot fall for me. Sometimes I really don't understand how girls think. This current girl, a few nights ago she kissed me while crying then told me she doesn't deserve me.
I'm so confused. Maybe you're right, its karma.
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Originally posted by Sydney:
To Killtheink:
I don't really mean to boast but I have no problem getting girls; wild ones and decent ones. I guess i'm kinda a flirt by nature and they know that too. The problem here is the girl assumes i'm a jerk, can't help liking me, but then restrains herself from getting too deep. It seems to me now that even the decent girls are just looking for a fling. A girl kisses me then tells me that she doesn't deserve me. Well, at least that's what she said.
That's understandable, I don't think you're boasting or being a BHB. After awhile of being a so-called flirt, you probably carry yourself in that way w/o realizing it. How about doing a self-check. Like the way you behave that's probably sending the message to girls that you're a flirt? Or you could try like 2 months of not hooking up with any girl, smth like a cold turkey method. I don't know if you get what I'm saying.
Haha if its decent girls who look for flings, then beneath that exterior they're probably NOT that decent. really decent girls generally don't end up with flings but long term, steady relationships.