Problem getting a steady girlfriend
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Girls protective of their feelings? probably they've been hurt a couple of times before so they're more cautious this time around.
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I reply quick.. when u are not eve replying me. Means i very eng now. LoL..me overseas also. You are like the younger version of me. But i have started to pay off my karma points .. have u started urs ?
Not just Singaporean girls feel protective over thier feelings. Many girls do. lol wtf u talking about. hahaha
Damn u popped a virgin. Did u string the first chick along for sometime ? Because for a girl to give it up.. and actually come to decide to give it up to you , and knowing full well ur character and chose not to be with u after it is just so.. Its so DEEP man.. DEEP!!! Fuk! Reminds me of someone. Anyways, In my opnion , u should go for that girl. Cause she really knows u well enough.
For the second chick.. rebound guy ? RIght time right moment for a guy who do not want a serious relationship at that moment of tim. Tears , hugs n kisses. I wonder why she was crying. It wont be just because she thinsk she doesnt deserve u.Trust me man.. lol.
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Thanks. Actually I think i'll try the cold turkey
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HAHA popped a virgin. nice one.
well Sydney at least you're aware of your situation. Some "flirts" don't even realize what they're doing.
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I guess they will realise it when they face problems like I do. I don't really consider myself as a 'flirt' actually, I'm just more open-minded having spent some time overseas. But everyone else says I am so I just accept it.
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Yes, that's why i used "flirt" and not flirt. heh.
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'I'm not a flirt !!! I am just open - minded!'
I used it before. And it didnt work. hahaha
Works on ppl with the same level as you. same 'open minded flirts'
At least u didnt get called a Spanar King. hahaha
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ahahhaahahah spanar king.
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BadzMaro
Yeah the first chick been quite a while. Met her last november when I was back in Singapore for my holidays. The second girl, I assumed she was crying because she was about to reject me and let me go and she was sad about it. But now that you mentioned, maybe I was wrong.
How are u paying off your karma points?
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Originally posted by Sydney:
BadzMaro
Yeah the first chick been quite a while. Met her last november when I was back in Singapore for my holidays. The second girl, I assumed she was crying because she was about to reject me and let me go and she was sad about it. But now that you mentioned, maybe I was wrong.
How are u paying off your karma points?
K la.. honestly , i dun even know am i paying off my karma points. But i do admit that some stuffs.. what goes around comes around is quite true. And it sucks.. mega sucks.
And not being reckless be it in our behaviour or in relationships. I admit.. i fuked up many times before. lol... its like knowing love only when you have lost it. But fuk the past man.. we gotta look to the future!Learn from the mistakes, adapt to your goals and ur dream catch . And our character will determine the kind of girls we attract. Forcing ourselves to be someone else we are not also ... stress.
But then again.. u 21. lol.. plenty of time to do lots of self-help-learning. hahaha and know how to repay karma points. Go church ? lol!
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eerrrr i find it hard t o believe u are getting serious
cause u meet 1 girl and u tell yrself u love her and u wan to be serious
but when u meet another new pretty gal , u end up telling yrself the same things again (- -)
so most propely when u meet another gal. u will end up doing the same .....
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Tsk..I still cant imagine a guy who used to flirt alot can change for the better..Sorry for being bias..but, convince me, pple. & I'll tell u how gals work.
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Hwaimeng, its not because I meet 1 girl and I want to be serious. I'm not saying I wanna get married, but I am seeking a healthy relationship. None of my previous girlfriends lasted more than 6 months and its partly because of my attitude towards relationships in general. I didn't want to be tied down or to commit. But now I think with a new environment and having turned 21, I should start to change.
And to Rediz, I won't be able to convince you. With my 100% sincerity I couldn't convince a girl whom I like and likes me too. I won't even bother trying to convince you.
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Originally posted by Sydney:
Hwaimeng, its not because I meet 1 girl and I want to be serious. I'm not saying I wanna get married, but I am seeking a healthy relationship. None of my previous girlfriends lasted more than 6 months and its partly because of my attitude towards relationships in general. I didn't want to be tied down or to commit. But now I think with a new environment and having turned 21, I should start to change.
And to Rediz, I won't be able to convince you. With my 100% sincerity I couldn't convince a girl whom I like and likes me too. I won't even bother trying to convince you.
Cos I hav jus met someone who is exactly like ur case, 'cept ur age difference. My frenz (given tat all are sg chinese gals) all find tat person advances too fast.
Would you consider the gal on ur first date?
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Consider in what sense?
If i initiated the date I probably do have a liking for her. So yes, i guess i will consider her if I haven't done so already. But no, I won't jump right in to commit anything, and i believe neither would she.
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maybe dun look for Singapore gf...look for one in Australia or where you studied.
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Any girls who knows your past relationships will probably not get attatched to you, i know i wouldn't, even if you have "changed" . Change your attitude towards relationships.
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TS, you are still young. Take time to get to know people, don't rush. You can't hurry love.
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Don't worry, you're still very young. Why rush into a relationship when you're going into NS next March? Honestly, a few months' commitment isn't considered a serious relationship.
I understand what you're going through. I myself, studied in the States for 3 years and came back to Singapore for NS. While I was there since the age of 17, I experienced that in their culture, sex and commitment doesn't go together at all. A more appropriate association with sex would be partying, booze and skinny dipping. And I partied so hard I flunked my studies. Naturally, I came back to Singapore, had quite a number of short-term relationships, and a lot of fun with my friends. National service was what changed me...I began to accept authority, think about my future and understand the consequences of my actions. After NS, I went back to studies while working part-time and got my honours degree shortly after.. I'm proud of what I have achieved today through hard work, and have matured a lot through the years.
Well, the morale of the story is, take your time! I feel that in order to appreciate love, one must learn to respect the opposite sex. You might desire to have a steady long-term relationship, but ask yourself, are you ready for it? If you have no intention to marry the girl, would it be fair to commit to a relationship and make her wait 2 years for you while you serve NS?
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Point taken. But now you started me worrying about NS. lol
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you are too impatient sydney...
to make a girl really fall in love with you takes time, years and not months...especially if she is the the other half you seek.
a good guy friend mentioned this to me before 'make the girl fall in love with you instead of you wooing the girl'. I know this sounds contradicting, but it doesnt.
