Originally posted by Thysecrets:okay so here's my story..
i dated this senior of mine for half a year before he asked me to be his gf and i of course, agreed..our journey of love together lasted for about two and a half years before we went separate ways due to a stupid and childish misunderstanding...it wasnt actually this misunderstanding that caused the whole break up but probably accumulated anger and resentment towards each other. he deleted me off his msn list and we never actually stayed in contact ever since then.
after the break up, he still reads my blog everyday but i dont know if this was because my blog was 'nice to read' or that he wanted to be updated on my life..for me, i thought of him everyday and ways on salvaging this relationship....till now, after 9 months, i havent fully gotten over him...all i wish is that one day, he would be back by my side again...
then a miracle happened, recently..he contacted me again, saying that he misses me and realised that he still loves me after so many things happened..
we eventually patched and went out together, on the same day.
we held hands, we hugged, we kissed, we displayed our affection for one another almost like nothing happened and that we have never left each other for 9 months. we were just like any other loving couple on the streets of orchard road. but after we went home that day, he told me that his feelings for me arent as strong as before..
the next day, he said that its better for us to stay as friends as it would be very unfair to me....i appreciate his understanding towards my feelings but i really hoped that we would be together once more, i believe that this is just a temporary feeling and if we were given more time, we would definitely be like in the past..afterall, for an ex-couple to be together again after 8 months without contact and still claiming that they love each other is quite miraculous..
personally, i feel that a love like ours should have never ended..
so whats your take on this? is it just wishful thinking on my part? any suggestions what i should do? thanks a lot.
To you it is still good but to him it is rotten. So I suggest that you drop it.
Does he really love you? Or is he just bored and want a partner?
I am sure you can feel it whether it is love or not...
If it's love, go on...
If it's not, let it go...
Another advice, some guys can make a girl fell in love with them and making the girl feel that the guy love her but in fact the guy just want a partner...
So ask your heart carefully... Is it love? Or are you manipulated instead?
Time tells, leave things to fate.
If you both ain't for each other, you'll never be together...
If you both are for each other, you both will be together naturally...
^^
Originally posted by Thysecrets:okay so here's my story..
i dated this senior of mine for half a year before he asked me to be his gf and i of course, agreed..our journey of love together lasted for about two and a half years before we went separate ways due to a stupid and childish misunderstanding...it wasnt actually this misunderstanding that caused the whole break up but probably accumulated anger and resentment towards each other. he deleted me off his msn list and we never actually stayed in contact ever since then.
after the break up, he still reads my blog everyday but i dont know if this was because my blog was 'nice to read' or that he wanted to be updated on my life..for me, i thought of him everyday and ways on salvaging this relationship....till now, after 9 months, i havent fully gotten over him...all i wish is that one day, he would be back by my side again...
then a miracle happened, recently..he contacted me again, saying that he misses me and realised that he still loves me after so many things happened..
we eventually patched and went out together, on the same day.
we held hands, we hugged, we kissed, we displayed our affection for one another almost like nothing happened and that we have never left each other for 9 months. we were just like any other loving couple on the streets of orchard road. but after we went home that day, he told me that his feelings for me arent as strong as before..
the next day, he said that its better for us to stay as friends as it would be very unfair to me....i appreciate his understanding towards my feelings but i really hoped that we would be together once more, i believe that this is just a temporary feeling and if we were given more time, we would definitely be like in the past..afterall, for an ex-couple to be together again after 8 months without contact and still claiming that they love each other is quite miraculous..
personally, i feel that a love like ours should have never ended..
so whats your take on this? is it just wishful thinking on my part? any suggestions what i should do? thanks a lot.
Do let him know that you wish to be together with him again and let him make the decision.
If he gave you certain terms and conditions in order to be together with him again, it is up to you if you want to agree to it or not. For me, I would imagined love is never about placing restrictions, terms and conditions or even promises. So I won't accept even if I still love him, if I were you.
Love was free before both of you were together and it should still be free when both of you were together and it should still be free if both of you are to be together again.
Do not wait for miracle to happen to you, instead take many initiatives to allow many miracles to work for you.
Originally posted by Thysecrets:okay so here's my story..
i dated this senior of mine for half a year before he asked me to be his gf and i of course, agreed..our journey of love together lasted for about two and a half years before we went separate ways due to a stupid and childish misunderstanding...it wasnt actually this misunderstanding that caused the whole break up but probably accumulated anger and resentment towards each other. he deleted me off his msn list and we never actually stayed in contact ever since then.
after the break up, he still reads my blog everyday but i dont know if this was because my blog was 'nice to read' or that he wanted to be updated on my life..for me, i thought of him everyday and ways on salvaging this relationship....till now, after 9 months, i havent fully gotten over him...all i wish is that one day, he would be back by my side again...
then a miracle happened, recently..he contacted me again, saying that he misses me and realised that he still loves me after so many things happened..
we eventually patched and went out together, on the same day.
we held hands, we hugged, we kissed, we displayed our affection for one another almost like nothing happened and that we have never left each other for 9 months. we were just like any other loving couple on the streets of orchard road. but after we went home that day, he told me that his feelings for me arent as strong as before..
the next day, he said that its better for us to stay as friends as it would be very unfair to me....i appreciate his understanding towards my feelings but i really hoped that we would be together once more, i believe that this is just a temporary feeling and if we were given more time, we would definitely be like in the past..afterall, for an ex-couple to be together again after 8 months without contact and still claiming that they love each other is quite miraculous..
personally, i feel that a love like ours should have never ended..
so whats your take on this? is it just wishful thinking on my part? any suggestions what i should do? thanks a lot.
pardon my lack of tactness... but he was just being horny that day.. sorry..
LOL!! JOKE!!
from a guys point of view (me), the problem is not with him but you. the answer is simple, but you choose to cling to this "relationship". BGR is between 2 person not one.
the guy wont care if u really love him or what when he has no interest in you anymore. you can cry you can scream or hang urself but i believe he wont care for the 1st 2, but if u try hanging he might. juz kidding~~ =x
but isnt it kind of logical too if he says that he loves me, but when he went out with me, he feels that the feeling is different from the past and thus in order not to continue any further sufferings, he chooses to stay as friends first..
it does makes sense? enlighten me..
Actually it all comes down to what kind of a guy he is, his sincerity, and how much you trust him. Anyone here could be giving the wrong advice so its always more important to trust your own instincts.
If he was one of the 8/10 Singaporean guys (just a rough estimate based on my group of friends aged 20-25) I would say he's just feeling empty/lonely and decided to look you up again. Do you know if in the past 9 months he had another girlfriend? Or if he went after another girl or got rejected? Maybe he's comparing his previous relationship with a new girl he likes and he asked you out to confirm his feelings?
But of course he could also be the other 2/10 guys who genuinely meant it when he said he couldn't get over you and he really loved you and he really did care for your feelings when he said its not fair to you.
Just my 2 cents. Good luck
1st u have to think like he think !!
yes he might tell u he loves you and so.. i can tell it to you too !!
I love you!!!!
the situation now is he had already said we are can not be together !! he told you off !! you get it ?
i think he was asking himself whether he he still loves you anot before he ask u out again, and i believe he hasn't found it yet until he tell u "no we cant be together". he might wanna feel the good old times again you see. aiyoh~~
um..correction, he didnt ''tell me off''. he just said that he thinks its better we stay as friends in a very tactful manner..
Originally posted by Thysecrets:will still appreciate comments which seek a different opinion...thanks!
there is one slim small tiny little chance that he's really really genuinely feeling that it's unfair to u..
and when u do an approximation, equates to zero..
if he thinks he still loves u.. especially after that outing, do u think he will be so caring and thoughtful and think "wah i want her back, but like that unfair to her leh.." meh?
of course not.. just put urself in his shoes! now that YOU are wanting him back, did u for a moment think that it's unfair to him? unfair to him that after nine months, u want to be with him? i doubt so.. so why on earth do u think he will be feeling guilty and understanding?
there are two reasons why he is saying it's unfair to u..
1) he's not certain how he's going to treat u in the future, good or bad..
2) he's just lying thru his teeth and just wants u to accompany him when he needs it..
either ways, it's bad.
yeah that's what i meant!