troublesome gf
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time to think through this r/s
she refuses to give and always takes. not healthy
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Originally posted by 00king00:
tis the "must-have" phase for a r/s after the honeymoon part, couples here either make it through or break
there's no right or wrong here (both gal n guy equally hypocritical), it's about whether the couple can learn to respect each other's personal space
u 2 need to talk and find out ways to reassure each other to get rid of the feelings of being neglected, uneasiness and jealousy
one way is to be completely honest about where u are going and with who. the person on the receiving end also should not criticise the choice of friends or be overly jealous. In this way both will be more willing to be honest. alternatively, wherever u go try to bring yr bf/gf along and incorporate him/her into yr personal life.
at the end of the day, u 2 are supposed to be a couple who should be part of each other's life. I'm not saying it's wrong to meet yr friends, but if you are meeting yr friends more than yr gf/bf (and not even honest about it), then something is very very wrong.
On a related note, I am of the opinion that sometimes being too honest in a relationship is a surefire way of destroying that relationship.
Certain things are probably meant NOT to be revealed to the other party. And don't give me that bullcrap that honesty is the best policy. Some people may have certain things about their past that they know will cause problems in their current relationship or might totally end it right there and then if revealed to the other party.
It is a choice that an individual must make. Revealing past boyfriends/girlfriends, previous gay/lesbian relationships (maybe a phase that a person went through during younger days), past lifestyles (wild boozing, partying) can be the final nail that is hammered into the relationship coffin.
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Originally posted by charlize:
On a related note, I am of the opinion that sometimes being too honest in a relationship is a surefire way of destroying that relationship.
Certain things are probably meant NOT to be revealed to the other party. And don't give me that bullcrap that honesty is the best policy. Some people may have certain things about their past that they know will cause problems in their current relationship or might totally end it right there and then if revealed to the other party.
It is a choice that an individual must make. Revealing past boyfriends/girlfriends, previous gay/lesbian relationships (maybe a phase that a person went through during younger days), past lifestyles (wild boozing, partying) can be the final nail that is hammered into the relationship coffin.
agree with you Charlize
Know what to reveal and what not to
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Originally posted by Lorry`:
agree with you Charlize
Know what to reveal and what not to
If that's the case, then would it be fair to surmise that there is never any TOTAL honesty in any relationship?"Does my butt look big to you?"
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Originally posted by charlize:
On a related note, I am of the opinion that sometimes being too honest in a relationship is a surefire way of destroying that relationship.
Certain things are probably meant NOT to be revealed to the other party. And don't give me that bullcrap that honesty is the best policy. Some people may have certain things about their past that they know will cause problems in their current relationship or might totally end it right there and then if revealed to the other party.
It is a choice that an individual must make. Revealing past boyfriends/girlfriends, previous gay/lesbian relationships (maybe a phase that a person went through during younger days), past lifestyles (wild boozing, partying) can be the final nail that is hammered into the relationship coffin.
juz to clarify, i'm not talking abt being honest abt yr past relationship
i meant being honest abt where and with whom you are going out wif >> so that u can dispel any suspicion of each other n avoid the conflict u mentioned in yr thread
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Originally posted by charlize:
If that's the case, then would it be fair to surmise that there is never any TOTAL honesty in any relationship?"Does my butt look big to you?"
1) Thats right.
2) Well.... I dont know.... But it just looks yummy to me. *slurp*
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at least change the topic name!