True Love
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Originally posted by Beaten_And_Damned:
i cant be bothered when females ask laogong can give me some marnie?
puts me off marriage
U are still way too young to think abt marriage...... -
Originally posted by cherrycola:
U are still way too young to think abt marriage......but when i grow older i wont get married though.
And ridiculous the way the PM gets the Parents to matchmake for thier sons/daughters.
I'd probably scream at my parents if they ever matchmade me and move out -_-"
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Originally posted by Beaten_And_Damned:
but when i grow older i wont get married though.
And ridiculous the way the PM gets the Parents to matchmake for thier sons/daughters.
I'd probably scream at my parents if they ever matchmade me and move out -_-"
That's too early too say, boy. your perception is bound to change as you get older..... or when u fall head over heels for the one.....It is actually sad to know that someone as young as you is already so cynical abt love....
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Originally posted by cherrycola:
That's too early too say, boy. your perception is bound to change as you get older..... or when u fall head over heels for the one.....It is actually sad to know that someone as young as you is already so cynical abt love....
more and more young ppl like me already swore not to fall in love and concentrate on careers.
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Originally posted by Beaten_And_Damned:
more and more young ppl like me already swore not to fall in love and concentrate on careers.
Watch what you swear...... -
Originally posted by cherrycola:
Watch what you swear......You sound like a believer in love leh
dont tell me true love exists?
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Originally posted by Beaten_And_Damned:
You sound like a believer in love leh
dont tell me true love exists?
I will tell you true love exists but it is rare. So keep your eyes and heart open.
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True love.. Hmm..
I believe fate (for the lack of better word) brings two people together, and from there, it's up to the couple how they handle their relationship..
Unfortunately, people are often better at starting than ending..
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Originally posted by cherrycola:
People say that the road to true love is filled with obstacles and challenges and it is never a bed of roses. Do you agree? Can anyone share their thorny path towards finding the one and the destination of happily ever after?
People, these days, are overly obsessed with the notion of True Love that they, very often, built false imagery about what's Love onto this ideal. The concept of True Love is so distorted that people justify its existence and rationalize foolish behaviour as acceptable just because they reckon that it's true love. Wtf is true? Can one True Love be any 'Trurer' than another? Or can it only be ONE True Love?
People should phucking wake up one day to the fact that their Love is true until the day they are proven false. That should only be the reality that must consider and believe in. Why should any good relationship be labelled as 'untrue' just because you reckon that something is amiss? And yet you know not of this 'something'? I can have someone who is married to a good wife, yet feeling dissatisfied just because he is missing the 'soul mate' feeling.
Totally wtf.
Most of the time, the concept of True Love is but a facade for the operation of karmic relationship. 'Blindness' and 'selective perception' are common 'symptom'.
The entity of a relationship leading to fulfillment is achieved through the blessing of both nature and nurture aspects of Love. True Love is not granted by the stars, neither can hardwork alone succeed in constructing the most beautiful relationship - both are equally important.
Thus Love is always true, until proven false.
Cheers
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
People should phucking wake up one day to the fact that their Love is true until the day they are proven false. That should only be the reality that must consider and believe in. Why should any good relationship be labelled as 'untrue' just because you reckon that something is amiss? And yet you know not of this 'something'? I can have someone who is married to a good wife, yet feeling dissatisfied just because he is missing the 'soul mate' feeling.
Thus Love is always true, until proven false.
Cheers
I agree with this, I actually think you can only truly know that you have found true love on the day you die...
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Originally posted by Yunhaier: People, these days, are overly obsessed with the notion of True Love that they, very often, built false imagery about what's Love onto this ideal. The concept of True Love is so distorted that people justify its existence and rationalize foolish behaviour as acceptable just because they reckon that it's true love.
Wtf is true? Can one True Love be any 'Trurer' than another? Or can it only be ONE True Love?
People should phucking wake up one day to the fact that their Love is true until the day they are proven false. That should only be the reality that must consider and believe in. Why should any good relationship be labelled as 'untrue' just because you reckon that something is amiss? And yet you know not of this 'something'? I can have someone who is married to a good wife, yet feeling dissatisfied just because he is missing the 'soul mate' feeling.
Totally wtf.
Most of the time, the concept of True Love is but a facade for the operation of karmic relationship. 'Blindness' and 'selective perception' are common 'symptom'.
The entity of a relationship leading to fulfillment is achieved through the blessing of both nature and nurture aspects of Love. True Love is not granted by the stars, neither can hardwork alone succeed in constructing the most beautiful relationship - both are equally important.
Thus Love is always true, until proven false.
Cheers
Love is always true, until proven false.....
How then do we know it when t is proven false? Hmmmm.....
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Originally posted by cherrycola:
Love is always true, until proven false.....
How then do we know it when t is proven false? Hmmmm.....
You will know...like when the guy betrayed you, cheated on you with another person, etc...basically when he hurt you.
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Originally posted by rainee:
You will know...like when the guy betrayed you, cheated on you with another person, etc...basically when he hurt you.
But sometimes, you get hurt over certain issues like high expectations of the other party..... would that also be false love?
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Originally posted by cherrycola:
But sometimes, you get hurt over certain issues like high expectations of the other party..... would that also be false love?
Elaborate on the high expectations part. Do you mean he can't accept you the way you are and reject you?
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Originally posted by cherrycola:
Love is always true, until proven false.....
How then do we know it when t is proven false? Hmmmm.....
You know it is false when the bastard that impregnanted your 16year old best friend and then ran off, throwing aside all responsibilities by blaming a moment of heat. Alright, that's too harsh, but you get the point. -
Originally posted by cherrycola:
But sometimes, you get hurt over certain issues like high expectations of the other party..... would that also be false love?
Quoting myself in some other threadthose problem is your misguided expectations that led to many disappointments, also frustration. Whenever we become disappointed with our relationships and partners, we are guilty of allowing ourselves to become so caught up with our expectations, that we forget that it takes 2 different people, with 2 different sets of expectations to create a relationship.
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Originally posted by rainee:
Elaborate on the high expectations part. Do you mean he can't accept you the way you are and reject you?
Elaborated perfectly by Detached.When we love someone, we somehow expect them to behave in a certain way to prove their love for us. Unfortunately when being blinded by love, we forget that we are ultimately 2 different persons with different attitudes, behaviors, etc. This is where disappointments set in and hurt occurs....... Is this not true love then?
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Originally posted by cherrycola:
Elaborated perfectly by Detached.When we love someone, we somehow expect them to behave in a certain way to prove their love for us. Unfortunately when being blinded by love, we forget that we are ultimately 2 different persons with different attitudes, behaviors, etc. This is where disappointments set in and hurt occurs....... Is this not true love then?
If you can solve it and accept each other's strengths and flaws, and compromise with each other's weaknesses and manage to live peacefully together, then that is one example of true love ;)
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Originally posted by cherrycola:
Love is always true, until proven false.....
How then do we know it when t is proven false? Hmmmm.....
Time will tell pretty fast: you don't need a guru to tell you that when a relationship fails outrageously, you break up.The main problem is that you can't judge every relationship by putting them on one equal grand scale, measuring them as if they are made from the same shit because there is still the component of time.
I knew my first love when I was fourteen - the most amazing person I ever knew. Many people came later - but did that mean that my first love was still as amazing? Or has that feeling taken a backseat?
What's critical is that at that moment in time... in that distant past... that developmental stage... that particular cosmic lesson... everything was real as it could possibly be. However, as time passed by, certain variables are altered, thus things changed. But does that mean that my first love is any 'lesser' than the ones that I have adopted later on in life? Or are later relationships any 'truer' than the one I began with?
Hell no.
Cheers
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Originally posted by cherrycola:
Elaborated perfectly by Detached.When we love someone, we somehow expect them to behave in a certain way to prove their love for us. Unfortunately when being blinded by love, we forget that we are ultimately 2 different persons with different attitudes, behaviors, etc. This is where disappointments set in and hurt occurs....... Is this not true love then?
Thank you
I disgree that 'when being blinded by love, we forget that we are....." part. Whatever that 'element' is, that blinds people... It isn't love...
For that lack of better word, let that element be expressed as "emotional vanity"
Hmm, perhaps.. You may think that it is when the couple set their differences aside to work together on the disappointment, hurt and misguided expectations.. That is the first step to love.. or may already be love itself
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Pls all go and be monks
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Originally posted by Detached:
Thank youI disgree that 'when being blinded by love, we forget that we are....." part. Whatever that 'element' is, that blinds people... It isn't love...
For that lack of better word, let that element be expressed as "emotional vanity"
Hmm, perhaps.. You may think that it is when the couple set their differences aside to work together on the disappointment, hurt and misguided expectations.. That is the first step to love.. or may already be love itself
I have a lot more to learn..... sigh....
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Originally posted by Yunhaier: People, these days, are overly obsessed with the notion of True Love that they, very often, built false imagery about what's Love onto this ideal. The concept of True Love is so distorted that people justify its existence and rationalize foolish behaviour as acceptable just because they reckon that it's true love.
Wtf is true? Can one True Love be any 'Trurer' than another? Or can it only be ONE True Love?
People should phucking wake up one day to the fact that their Love is true until the day they are proven false. That should only be the reality that must consider and believe in. Why should any good relationship be labelled as 'untrue' just because you reckon that something is amiss? And yet you know not of this 'something'? I can have someone who is married to a good wife, yet feeling dissatisfied just because he is missing the 'soul mate' feeling.
Totally wtf.
Most of the time, the concept of True Love is but a facade for the operation of karmic relationship. 'Blindness' and 'selective perception' are common 'symptom'.
The entity of a relationship leading to fulfillment is achieved through the blessing of both nature and nurture aspects of Love. True Love is not granted by the stars, neither can hardwork alone succeed in constructing the most beautiful relationship - both are equally important.
Thus Love is always true, until proven false.
Cheers
yun, u ok? sound like u whole body got fire inside... -
Originally posted by cherrycola:
I have a lot more to learn..... sigh....
We all have so much more to learn
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Originally posted by cherrycola:
People say that the road to true love is filled with obstacles and challenges and it is never a bed of roses. Do you agree? Can anyone share their thorny path towards finding the one and the destination of happily ever after?
True love is a pure (without hate, untained) and sincere (loyal) attitude that an individual GIVES / PROVIDES for another individual. It is an undying, motivating, understanding, protection of well-being emotions that an individual SHARE / FEEL unconditionally for another individual.Unfortunately true love might become one-sided love if the receiving individual does not or were unable to return the intentions in a love that is close or equivalent to the received love.
Nevertheless, only people who understands the meaning of true love will be able to provide true love for all their loved ones and future loved ones.
So to be able to find another person who also shares the same/similar conviction of true love and is returning their true love back to you is truly divine and astronomical.
Everyone has fears of being ridiculed or getting rejected if they tries to seek out their true love in another individual by expressing their true love to that appealing individual first. Thus everyone ended up adopting a passive approach in their future relationships.
No doubt the path of seeking each and everyone's true love will be different, some will be lucky to find their true love around them and some will be disappointed, despaired, depressed with their unsuccessful tries at seeking their own true love...especially when they have given it their all to the other individual.
I would like to take this opportunity to encourage all who seeks true love in their lives not to feel disappointed, depressed or despaired. As true love is an act of giving, serving, feeling towards another individual, every unsuccessful attempt, rejection, humiliation experienced doesn't degrade an individual's ability and capability to provide true love. And neither does it increases the failure rate to prevent the individual from finding their true love with the next individual. It actually grows the space in their heart which resides their true love.
The individual may not have noticed, but the individual's ability to provide true love has grown to allow them to provide a more refined true love for their next individual.
True love does not comes to you unless you can understand and provide true love to another. Cos only people who understands the meaning of true love will be able to recognise they themselves are receiving true love from another individual, and there will no longer be any doubts about their feelings for each other anymore.
