My guy betray me
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*nod nod* .. i agree. shall just employ osama to assinate that jerk with ak47 + H.EOriginally posted by X-men:Why should you cry?
You should be HAPPY cos you found out his true colour now and not when you are more committed into the relationship.
When cry for lossing something BAD? Be happy... there are more people out there who is worthy of your tears. Not him.
It's him who should cry for lossing someone who shower him with love and care. Be happy... he won't bother that you are sad. If you feel sad.. he won by hurting you.
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When you prepare to plunge into a relationship, bear in mind that most of the time, you'll emerged scarred.
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can understand that u feel this wayOriginally posted by Ringy:i saw his sms to that girl. mushy stuffs.what i love u, miss u.i never check his hp or emails b4.but it jst so happen i saw those sms in inbox.it crushed me so badly.he hasnt knew that i had found out. my frd told me to 4get it, pretend that i dont knw.jst as long as he treats me well, even if he go freefuck outside, jst close 1 eye.but i cant take it. i i give him my heart n soul. everything is HIM come first.im jst a simple girl, i dont go for for glam, cars, money. i jst want him to be true to me. is it so hard? are all guys so flirt?
but one thing is, ask urself, in this r/s, do u feel happy?
are u happy in this r/s?
u can sacrifice the world juz for him, but can he appreciate it?
since now u know that he is like that, it's really obvious that he is juz playing ard wif ur feelings, taking advantage of the fact that u are willing to do anything juz for him.....
being taken for granted, that feeling, is not gd.....
think... and understand what's the outcome of this r/s... if u carry on.... -
So you KNOW.... Just GET ON with LIFE and STOP pretending....Originally posted by Ringy:he betray me, we can never get together. i wouldnt trust him anymore.i really thotz we will be together for good. my frds kept urging me to leave him.he dont treat me nice even in normal days. but i jst discard it as he is in a foul mood.i felt so abandoned. suddenly, my whole world collaspe. the one u luv most betray u.that kind of feeling is really terrible.nobody would understand hw i really feel now. i really luv him so much. everynight, i cant go to sleep. i cry til the next morning.i m going crazy. i m tired of pretending that i still dont know anything. -
Time will tell....Originally posted by Ringy:it doesnt matter anymore.my heart is shattered. i really really treat him with all my best. i knw i m not good enuff for him.if not he will not fall for other girls. i will never be good enuf for anyone. -
I think the signs are there early in the relationship liao just that u chose to ignore it, Ringy.
Now it has come to a stage when it blows up in your face.
Late to realise, but not too late.
Btw, that mother-farker son of a bitch is those kind of guys I won't hestitate to wallop the farkin daylight out of.
Just cos they handsome or like can sweettalk go fark around with gals. Fark. -
hi Ringy,
sorry to hear your story..
i can fully understand how you are feeling right now...
few months back, the same time happened to me too. My bf of many years also betrayed my trust. Have been flirting behind back until i found out. Unlike you, I made a big rage & i confronted him.
Though on the surface the thing seemed to be solved, but the feeling that i experienced was exactly the same as yours. I totally lost trust in him. I was shattered & started to wonder if what i have done for him was insufficient.
problems started to surface & on many times, our relationship was on the verge of breaking up.
i was miserable.
an online friend~ here gave me his analysis & somehow showed me a clearly picture of the whole thingy.
i tried to salvage by communicating with my bf only to realise that nothing can really help as the mental & emotional trauma that i was undergoing overwhelmed all advices given by people here & my online friend...
until finally i seeked self-salvage. i asked myself what i realli want. To remain or to leave? There was no way of pretence. if i were to remain, i have to do forget.
but it was not at all an easy thing to do.
finally, one particular incident made me realised that my bf has realised his mistake & he meant not to repeat it again & that he loves me too. i still love my bf very much. so i told myself that i will forget about it & start afresh.
N the good news is, I am finally able to walk out of the shadow already. we are now starting afresh. Till now, everything is still going on fine. But if things are to go wrong again, i am always mentally prepared to leave without turning back already.
dunno if my online friend~ here manage to read this or not...(guess you know who I am referring to) but still, would like to delicate a million thks to him for stooding by me, to be always ready to listen to me & give me advices. thks fren...~~~
ringy, hope by sharing this experience of mine, it can give you some pointers.
my advice to you is to confront him. Don't suffer in silence. See his reaction & judge for yourself if he really loves you.
pte msg me if you need further listening ear.
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relax, don;t be too harsh on her..Originally posted by Devil1976:So you KNOW.... Just GET ON with LIFE and STOP pretending....
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Ms. Ringy,Originally posted by Ringy:I shower him with care n take care of his everything. did everything for him. i dont mind him being poor. i always scrimped for him.for the past 2 years, i always ask him to bring me to foodcourt. i never ask him to buy anything for me. n we nvr stay out late, cos i dont wish him to spend on midnight cabfares.i never buy any expensive things for myself. i save up all my money to buy things for him.always make sure he has got his favourite food and stuffs. all these years, i never spend on myself. nt even a piece of new clothing, i cant bear to buy things for myself. but for him, hundreds n thousands i will be most willing to spend. but he betray me!i felt so sad, very upset. why must he treat me like that?am i not doing enuff? am i really not good enuff?he really broke my heart so badly. i cant bring myself to forgive him. NEVER!
Think you should consider yourself lucky that all had end at last. Why hold on to someone who don't see what you do and appreciate it? Treat it as a price to pay for experiences in looking at people, although the price is a expensive....Thw world won't end here with your guy cheating on you. You should pack up your feeling and move on.....Live your life to the fullest..at least better than that guy......He will get his retribution someday....The world is still fair in someway....Don't think too much lah. -
A guy who truely loves you will will let you suffer for the sake of his pleasure. So does he loves you in the first place? No... because you are just useful to him.Originally posted by Ringy:I shower him with care n take care of his everything. did everything for him. i dont mind him being poor. i always scrimped for him.for the past 2 years, i always ask him to bring me to foodcourt. i never ask him to buy anything for me. n we nvr stay out late, cos i dont wish him to spend on midnight cabfares.i never buy any expensive things for myself. i save up all my money to buy things for him.always make sure he has got his favourite food and stuffs. all these years, i never spend on myself. nt even a piece of new clothing, i cant bear to buy things for myself. but for him, hundreds n thousands i will be most willing to spend. but he betray me!i felt so sad, very upset. why must he treat me like that?am i not doing enuff? am i really not good enuff?he really broke my heart so badly. i cant bring myself to forgive him. NEVER!
Does he appreciate you? No... you are just useful to him.
Why not? Because if you are spending such huge sum of money - HE would have felt VERY BAD, be it whether you spend it on him or yourself.
Why should he feel bad? If the both of you are truly in love - you and him are no difference - he is you, you are him. So he would have feel the pinch in his pocket too, if you were to spend so much.
Does he? No... he don't feel that pinch. Why? - he treats you as another person. You don't feel the pinch if someone else spends money on you do you?
This relation has no love - it only has usefulness within because he doesn't even appreciate you! Your craving for his appreciation gives you the craving to treat him well, even at the expense of yourself.
Psychologically proven: People who don't love themselves tends t find partner who abuse them or treats them bad.
You don't love yourself do you? Because if you do, you wouldn't do such a thing.
You are lucky to abandon this jerk and let me teach you the best way of revenge back to him - lead a better and good life. Why? Show him that he would be making a grave mistake that he had dump you... show him that you CAN live without him and MUCH better.
Find someone who appreciate you for WHO you are, and not what you can give them. Love is not one suffer to make another one happy - it is about both of you growing together, be it in enjoyment or sorrow.
Cheers -
Well i wouldnt say flirt.maybe his heart and change and not the same old BF you used to have previously?i would suggest you break up with him cause he does appricates what you have done for im.sigh!poor you.dun be sad.btw how long have you been with him?Originally posted by Ringy:i saw his sms to that girl. mushy stuffs.what i love u, miss u.i never check his hp or emails b4.but it jst so happen i saw those sms in inbox.it crushed me so badly.he hasnt knew that i had found out. my frd told me to 4get it, pretend that i dont knw.jst as long as he treats me well, even if he go freefuck outside, jst close 1 eye.but i cant take it. i i give him my heart n soul. everything is HIM come first.im jst a simple girl, i dont go for for glam, cars, money. i jst want him to be true to me. is it so hard? are all guys so flirt? -
you are such a good nice girl that i ever seen.like what i say.be frank with him abt what you know abt his SMS lor.Speak out your heart.from the way you describe i dun think he is afterall a nice good guy.choose your options.[u]LEAVE HIM OR BEAR WITH HIM!The choice is all yours now.Originally posted by Ringy:i felt that i will never be able to luv again. i lost the trust.even though i treat him so nice, treat him like a god, he still find me a trash.i washes his clothes, cook him meals, buy him breakfast, stock up his snacks, accompany him to watch wwe and soccer.i never grumble once. bcos i jst want him to be happy.i will do anything he pleases.he never buy me any gifts for my birthday, xmas, valentine, but i dont mind, i really dont mind. i knw that he is not very rich.i thoz that he will appreciate that. but he never.
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you sure you are so nice to him or not??? If you guys can go on for 2 years.. i think he also would have his nice side... why don't you post that to the bros here....what you have said is very one-sided
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I understand the agony you go through.. Definately you will feel betray.
At times i do wonder if whatever effort being put in would pay off and most of the times, we expect something back in return (i.e. he will love me, care about me, juz so simple). However, things don't always goes our way. So doesnt mean you put in x amt of effort, love, care and concern, you will get x amt back.. Sadly, tats not the case esp when u meet the wrong one.
However, deep in your heart, you know you have given your best in the relationship. Tats the most impt i feel... Too bad for him, he lost a special gal.... -
"sometimes ppl hv to wait till they lose it, then they will feel regrated"Originally posted by Ringy:thks for consoling. but smhw, i felt worse now..... i cried when i saw ur reply. even outsider can knw that it is wrong, but why he never think of it? why he never knw how to treasure me? why he neve realised that he is going to hurt me so much so much!i am sorry.i got to go.the pain is killing me.i love him so much. i did so much so much for him. but he never will realised.i felt really terrible.he always dont think much of what i did for him. bcos he felt that alot of other girls would also do those things for him.
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u hv to live ur life... no matter wat happen, life still goes on.. *hugz* -
Hi all, thanks so much for ur messages. i felt really cared . its very weird, suddenly there are so many new voices talking to me. i felt very comforted. i really like to thank everyone who spend time n effort reading my story, n writing so many comforting words for me. thank you.
well, i had decided to get on with my life.he is not worth at all. i will live on better without him.i m sorry to make so many of u out there feeling upset.i never post on forums before. i guess i was really breaking down ysterday, tt's y i pluck up my courage to write those. i will be fine, i will survive.
once again, i sincerely thank all u guys out there. everyone is so warm, i felt really touched.
at the end of this, i hope to tell all guys n gals here, pls treasure ur love ones. dont break their heart, it hurts badly.if u decided to fall for another person, pls do talk to ur existing partner, break off with them, before u indulge in another new relationship. betrayal is a very terrible thing.
thanks again. thanks. hope everyone have a happy chinese new year... collect more ang baos..... hahahaha...
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After reading some of the advice they posted, I must say that some are really professional. Take my hat off. Fantastic. -
then don't. could u do that?Originally posted by Ringy:I shower him with care n take care of his everything. did everything for him. i dont mind him being poor. i always scrimped for him.for the past 2 years, i always ask him to bring me to foodcourt. i never ask him to buy anything for me. n we nvr stay out late, cos i dont wish him to spend on midnight cabfares.i never buy any expensive things for myself. i save up all my money to buy things for him.always make sure he has got his favourite food and stuffs. all these years, i never spend on myself. nt even a piece of new clothing, i cant bear to buy things for myself. but for him, hundreds n thousands i will be most willing to spend. but he betray me!i felt so sad, very upset. why must he treat me like that?am i not doing enuff? am i really not good enuff?he really broke my heart so badly. i cant bring myself to forgive him. NEVER! -
This is REALITY....Originally posted by kohanson:relax, don;t be too harsh on her.. 
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we are just living in a bubble. the bubble doesn't make you but its you that makes the bubble... understand?
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I wish you all the best in the things you do.
Cheers! -
Sometimes the world is a cruel joke where human nature causes people to take for granted good things that come their way. But he will feel the pain when you are gone. So don't worry.May you find strength in words of encouragement.
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wow! can i be your next man? i promise i...ahem...wouldn't break your heart.Originally posted by Ringy:I shower him with care n take care of his everything. did everything for him. i dont mind him being poor. i always scrimped for him.for the past 2 years, i always ask him to bring me to foodcourt. i never ask him to buy anything for me. n we nvr stay out late, cos i dont wish him to spend on midnight cabfares.i never buy any expensive things for myself. i save up all my money to buy things for him.always make sure he has got his favourite food and stuffs. all these years, i never spend on myself. nt even a piece of new clothing, i cant bear to buy things for myself. but for him, hundreds n thousands i will be most willing to spend. but he betray me!i felt so sad, very upset. why must he treat me like that?am i not doing enuff? am i really not good enuff?he really broke my heart so badly. i cant bring myself to forgive him. NEVER! -
such things juz happened on me in the last few weeks and now i had broke off with him as i can't tolerate such and find that no point hang on such a relationship which is not worth it and its actually a waste of time. we r on the same boat.
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I quit school bcos of this one guy and than he says he likes my friend how stupid i am right?I think I am suffering much deeper pain than what most of my friends know...Its really terrible..sometimes i really wanna give up on life..it is so aimless right now..and no one understands....I gave in to him so much too..too much..