should she?
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Jus wanna highlight a few things.
Apologies; couldn't help pointing out some things.There is a 'foundation' for single mums - not exactly a financial assistance kinda thing, but more towards emotional support. It was formed by a single mum herself. Being a single mum, finance is a factor, but not as big as compared to emotional support.
It's true that Maia Lee got bombarded when news were released that she is a single mum and that she was pregnant again.But as I have mentioned before, the day one decided to be a single mum, one has to kinda be 'immune' to verbal abuse. It's a tough route, but one has to have the determination to go thru it.
From what I know, Maia Lee wasn't much affected by the 'verbal abuse'. Even if she was, she did manage to get over it.
My guess - abortion was introduced initially not as an option for gals to use when they are pregnant and didn't want to give birth, it may be more towards cases where the baby has been diagnosed with health problems or in cases where the gal's health is not good enough to carry the baby to full term. In a way, SG does discourage abortion, else there won't be a neceeesity to undergo counselling and a video screening session.
Single mum - one who is divorced but with a kid is viewed differently from one who has never married but has a kid.
The latter is being judged far more worse than the former.
It can't be a definite answer that SG cannot accept single mums - in fact, according to statistics, there is a rise in single mums nowadays - but be it divorcees or real single mums, I can't ascertain - apologies.
When this thread was started, there are bound to be ppl who support and ppl who don't and some who will react very strongly.
Different individual views things differently, whatever their point is, end of the day, to put it bluntly, it will be TS's fren to face the harsh facts of to abort or not to. She has to face the consequences herself.
But, although finance is a factor, it's not a major one, the major issues are stated in my previous post.
I have seen kids in poor family conditions, but they are very sensible. They appreciate all that the mum did.
It all bowls down to how the child is being brought up.
There's no right or wrong here; it's more of a decision of one's own.
We make decisions in everyday of our life, minor ones, major ones. But whatever the decision may be, stick by it and no regrets.
In a way, if a gal wants to get married, wants a life of her own, doesn't want to make sacrifices, not able to face 'verbal abuse', tongues wagging, finger pointing - it's a high chance abortion is chosen.
It's not always true that children born in proper families will turn out better; in my line of work, I have seen abuse by fathers to the extend that the kids contained a deep hatred towards their own fathers. To them, the fathers don't exist.
I have seen too, how children from single parent families are sensible, independent etc.
Most posts are, somehow all general comments, perception etc; no right or wrong.
End of the day, TS's fren has to ask herself, which path can she be more able to adapt and accept? Which path is she more able to face herself more truely? -
Originally posted by gigabyte14:
taking a life, what a sin
please use condom la
such killings are unnecessary
You seem to have forgotten that the girl IS ALREADY pregnant. Does wearing a condom now solve her problem?
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Originally posted by gigabyte14:
knn, the baby dont even have a choice, haven come out die already
wtf
who the fuck invented this 'abortion' thing
so... inhuman
You said that because you are lucky to be born into a family who cares for you and also wants you to begin with. For a child to be born into a family who does not even wish for him/her, it is just pure torture.
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Originally posted by honeymouse:
Whether we are for or against abortion, agree or diagree with TS' friend's action, may I please remind everyone of you to be sensitive with your comments towards her.
At the end of the day, we are not the one facing the tricky situation and we are not in the position to judge and to condemn. Please be empathetic and try putting yourself in the person's shoes.
To TS' friend,
Things happened and to err is human. Just learn to accept the mistake, deal with it and learn from it. I wish you well and please take care!
The moderator has spoken. Listen!
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Originally posted by HelloKittyFan:
Jus wanna highlight a few things.
Apologies; couldn't help pointing out some things.There is a 'foundation' for single mums - not exactly a financial assistance kinda thing, but more towards emotional support. It was formed by a single mum herself. Being a single mum, finance is a factor, but not as big as compared to emotional support.
It's true that Maia Lee got bombarded when news were released that she is a single mum and that she was pregnant again.But as I have mentioned before, the day one decided to be a single mum, one has to kinda be 'immune' to verbal abuse. It's a tough route, but one has to have the determination to go thru it.
From what I know, Maia Lee wasn't much affected by the 'verbal abuse'. Even if she was, she did manage to get over it.
My guess - abortion was introduced initially not as an option for gals to use when they are pregnant and didn't want to give birth, it may be more towards cases where the baby has been diagnosed with health problems or in cases where the gal's health is not good enough to carry the baby to full term. In a way, SG does discourage abortion, else there won't be a neceeesity to undergo counselling and a video screening session.
Single mum - one who is divorced but with a kid is viewed differently from one who has never married but has a kid.
The latter is being judged far more worse than the former.
It can't be a definite answer that SG cannot accept single mums - in fact, according to statistics, there is a rise in single mums nowadays - but be it divorcees or real single mums, I can't ascertain - apologies.
When this thread was started, there are bound to be ppl who support and ppl who don't and some who will react very strongly.
Different individual views things differently, whatever their point is, end of the day, to put it bluntly, it will be TS's fren to face the harsh facts of to abort or not to. She has to face the consequences herself.
But, although finance is a factor, it's not a major one, the major issues are stated in my previous post.
I have seen kids in poor family conditions, but they are very sensible. They appreciate all that the mum did.
It all bowls down to how the child is being brought up.
There's no right or wrong here; it's more of a decision of one's own.
We make decisions in everyday of our life, minor ones, major ones. But whatever the decision may be, stick by it and no regrets.
In a way, if a gal wants to get married, wants a life of her own, doesn't want to make sacrifices, not able to face 'verbal abuse', tongues wagging, finger pointing - it's a high chance abortion is chosen.
It's not always true that children born in proper families will turn out better; in my line of work, I have seen abuse by fathers to the extend that the kids contained a deep hatred towards their own fathers. To them, the fathers don't exist.
I have seen too, how children from single parent families are sensible, independent etc.
Most posts are, somehow all general comments, perception etc; no right or wrong.
End of the day, TS's fren has to ask herself, which path can she be more able to adapt and accept? Which path is she more able to face herself more truely?"End of the day, TS's fren has to ask herself, which path can she be more able to adapt and accept? Which path is she more able to face herself more truely?" >> she has already chosen her path..which is Plan A..
She is the one who has got to bear responsbility irregardless of whatever decision that she made..So instead of passing snide remarks to her decision..why not just respect her decision?..(I am referring to "holypriest" & another person")
Cuz she is the one who knows for sure if she have the time to bring up the kid (what's the use of dumping the kid to a nanny after you give birth to him/her while you work)..if she have the financial ability to pay for the child's basic neccessities? Education? And, the amount of $$ to be spent doesn't just stop here...
For Maia's case..yah..she can take the remarks..but my friend knows that she can't..what if she suffers from depression becuz of this? How is she going to even take care of the kids?
Abortion is also an alternative for women should they know that they don't have the means to bring up a kid in the 1st place. Why bring the kid to this world to suffer?
Think of it this way : The girl gives birth to the kid..Suffers from depression..Commits suicide..What's gonna happen to the kid?
OR
The girl gives birth to the kid..Suffers from depression..She's not in the right mental mind to take care of herself..Moreover for the kid?
"there is a rise in single mums nowadays" >> I agree with this. But, the main issue still boils down to : There's still prejudice to single mums till this date"It all bowls down to how the child is being brought up." >> Provided the mum has to have time to guide the child. For this case, she can only leave the child with the nanny (another finance prob also) or leave it in childcare? (yet another financial issue)
It still comes back to the initial point : She knows that she don't have the means to take good care of the kid..Be it financially or mentally..So..She opt for Plan A..Which is deemed as the best alternative (For herself)
Another impt factor to look into will be her kid's emotional feelings.. how will him/her feels when they are older?
Child : "Am I detestable? Why did Daddy abandon me since young?"
Some of you might said that my friend deserves all the tongue wagging..but what abt the child? Have anyone stop to think of the gossips that the child have to suffer when he/she grows up? Think of the emotional turmoil that they have to go through?
Anyway, like what some of you commented..she should take responsbility for what she did. She is doing that now..So respect her own decision & stop passing lame remarks..Esp "HOLY PRIEST" who commented that she is cheap or whatever..What makes you think that you are really that saint?
And also to gigabyte (YES..i am pointing out the names directly now)
Precisely is tongue waggers like you who made these women fear..Gossipers who pass random remarks..Who think that they are Know-It-All..
Emphatize with people..And, NO ONE is a saint..Unless you truly NEVER EVER made a single mistake in life..ALL human err..it just boils down to how great the sin is..
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From all my posts here, I just stressed that Willpower, Determination and Strength will affects the decision a gal will make.
For TS's fren, as she had said, she chose Plan A, as that's the 'best alternative' she felt that she had, given the Willpower, Strength and Determination.
The examples and cases I have given just signifies some cases where gals chose to abort, while others chose to keep - general info, for a gal to think through the many possbilities and alternatives avaliable after making the first step.
FYI - 'Dumping' kids to nannies/Day care centres is an alternative not only single parents take, but it also extends to 'Proper Families'.
In short, Plan A was chosen cos the gal felt she wasn't able to go thru the mental and financial factors of raising a child on her own. But as I have mentioned, the emotional part should play a larger portion than the finance part.
Thot of the day - Out of curiosity, how many of us have actually seen/hear tongues wagged at single mums? Do single mums actually hear ppl gossiping, or do they actually felt that they are being gossiped at? Hear not = felt. -
Originally posted by HelloKittyFan:
From all my posts here, I just stressed that Willpower, Determination and Strength will affects the decision a gal will make.
For TS's fren, as she had said, she chose Plan A, as that's the 'best alternative' she felt that she had, given the Willpower, Strength and Determination.
The examples and cases I have given just signifies some cases where gals chose to abort, while others chose to keep - general info, for a gal to think through the many possbilities and alternatives avaliable after making the first step.
FYI - 'Dumping' kids to nannies/Day care centres is an alternative not only single parents take, but it also extends to 'Proper Families'.
In short, Plan A was chosen cos the gal felt she wasn't able to go thru the mental and financial factors of raising a child on her own. But as I have mentioned, the emotional part should play a larger portion than the finance part.
Thot of the day - Out of curiosity, how many of us have actually seen/hear tongues wagged at single mums? Do single mums actually hear ppl gossiping, or do they actually felt that they are being gossiped at? Hear not = felt.Precisely cuz none of you all know her in real life..
And, do not know her family background..
Just the gossips alone from her relatives can be over-whelming..
"Do single mums actually hear ppl gossiping, or do they actually felt that they are being gossiped at? Hear not = felt."
>> YouDontKnowMe did mention in one of her posts that she have to go through the gossip period..That's 1 real life example..(Do correct me if I rmb wrongly)
And another Tot of the Day >> Can anyone be 100% affirmed that there are no gossips on single mums at all?
Tongue waggers are all around. Anyone here can talk freely as this situation does not happen to them. Just like some of the forumers here..can call her "cheap" etc..
Or have no one ever saw any forum threads on Maia Lee before? Or did no one else saw the newspaper reports before? People commenting on her tattoos..her status as single mums..
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Maia was an example of where gossips didn't affect her in a negative way; rather than looking at how the tongues started wagging at her, why not see how she reacted to that situation.
As for YouDontKnowMe, I do rem that she mentioned that gossips did happen in her case, but I also rem that she was married to the child's father and ended up in divorce.Not really sure how her scenario is, but generally, a divorcee with a kid and an unmarried gal with a kid give ppl diff 'perceptions'.
No one can 100% confirmed that there will be no gossips, but it depends on how one is able to take it. It just boils down to how an individual is able to take things. That's what I have been trying to bring across.
None of us here, or even me, mentioned that we knew her in real life, thus in my posts, I have maintained a Neutral view on things, given info on both abortion and giving birth.
Your Quote:'Tongue waggers are all around. Anyone here can talk freely as this situation does not happen to them.'
Cos you replied under my post, so I am wondering if this phrase includes me as well?
(",)Mayb I should have mentioned in my first post, but I don't feel there was any necessity. But jus to clear 'some air', I am a single mum, a single mum since the age of 18; I am now in my 20s already.
I had been thru the situation, so more or less I know how hard things can be, that's why I have chosen to give a Neutral view on things.
Diff individual reacts differently in diff situations, the path I chose, I can't expect others to do the same as well - that's y the Neutral view. (",) -
Originally posted by xiiaostarry:
Precisely cuz none of you all know her in real life..
And, do not know her family background..
Just the gossips alone from her relatives can be over-whelming..
"Do single mums actually hear ppl gossiping, or do they actually felt that they are being gossiped at? Hear not = felt."
>> YouDontKnowMe did mention in one of her posts that she have to go through the gossip period..That's 1 real life example..(Do correct me if I rmb wrongly)
And another Tot of the Day >> Can anyone be 100% affirmed that there are no gossips on single mums at all?
Tongue waggers are all around. Anyone here can talk freely as this situation does not happen to them. Just like some of the forumers here..can call her "cheap" etc..
Or have no one ever saw any forum threads on Maia Lee before? Or did no one else saw the newspaper reports before? People commenting on her tattoos..her status as single mums..
IF I was your mother, IF i had you before marriage, and IF i was to be the only one raising you, based on your " views against anti-abortion ", I'm pretty sure you will not get the chance to be here writing your views.
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Originally posted by xiiaostarry:
Precisely cuz none of you all know her in real life..
And, do not know her family background..
Just the gossips alone from her relatives can be over-whelming..
"Do single mums actually hear ppl gossiping, or do they actually felt that they are being gossiped at? Hear not = felt."
>> YouDontKnowMe did mention in one of her posts that she have to go through the gossip period..That's 1 real life example..(Do correct me if I rmb wrongly)
And another Tot of the Day >> Can anyone be 100% affirmed that there are no gossips on single mums at all?
Tongue waggers are all around. Anyone here can talk freely as this situation does not happen to them. Just like some of the forumers here..can call her "cheap" etc..
Or have no one ever saw any forum threads on Maia Lee before? Or did no one else saw the newspaper reports before? People commenting on her tattoos..her status as single mums..
Is your determination that weak? This are just gossips, it happens all the time. Don't tell me you can't overcome them? Haven you been the topic of gossips before. Oh I forgot! you must be one of those elites who would sue anyone who talks about you.
If she don't even have the willpower to stand up against the gossips and lead a meaningful life, even after the abortion she is bound to end up as a failure. Cause gossips will be there no matter if you were to abort or not.
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Originally posted by xiiaostarry:
"End of the day, TS's fren has to ask herself, which path can she be more able to adapt and accept? Which path is she more able to face herself more truely?" >> she has already chosen her path..which is Plan A..
She is the one who has got to bear responsbility irregardless of whatever decision that she made..So instead of passing snide remarks to her decision..why not just respect her decision?..(I am referring to "holypriest" & another person")
Cuz she is the one who knows for sure if she have the time to bring up the kid (what's the use of dumping the kid to a nanny after you give birth to him/her while you work)..if she have the financial ability to pay for the child's basic neccessities? Education? And, the amount of $$ to be spent doesn't just stop here...
For Maia's case..yah..she can take the remarks..but my friend knows that she can't..what if she suffers from depression becuz of this? How is she going to even take care of the kids?
Abortion is also an alternative for women should they know that they don't have the means to bring up a kid in the 1st place. Why bring the kid to this world to suffer?
Think of it this way : The girl gives birth to the kid..Suffers from depression..Commits suicide..What's gonna happen to the kid?
OR
The girl gives birth to the kid..Suffers from depression..She's not in the right mental mind to take care of herself..Moreover for the kid?
"there is a rise in single mums nowadays" >> I agree with this. But, the main issue still boils down to : There's still prejudice to single mums till this date"It all bowls down to how the child is being brought up." >> Provided the mum has to have time to guide the child. For this case, she can only leave the child with the nanny (another finance prob also) or leave it in childcare? (yet another financial issue)
It still comes back to the initial point : She knows that she don't have the means to take good care of the kid..Be it financially or mentally..So..She opt for Plan A..Which is deemed as the best alternative (For herself)
Another impt factor to look into will be her kid's emotional feelings.. how will him/her feels when they are older?
Child : "Am I detestable? Why did Daddy abandon me since young?"
Some of you might said that my friend deserves all the tongue wagging..but what abt the child? Have anyone stop to think of the gossips that the child have to suffer when he/she grows up? Think of the emotional turmoil that they have to go through?
Anyway, like what some of you commented..she should take responsbility for what she did. She is doing that now..So respect her own decision & stop passing lame remarks..Esp "HOLY PRIEST" who commented that she is cheap or whatever..What makes you think that you are really that saint?
And also to gigabyte (YES..i am pointing out the names directly now)
Precisely is tongue waggers like you who made these women fear..Gossipers who pass random remarks..Who think that they are Know-It-All..
Emphatize with people..And, NO ONE is a saint..Unless you truly NEVER EVER made a single mistake in life..ALL human err..it just boils down to how great the sin is..
No one is saint, but murdering a life is a major sin.
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Originally posted by HelloKittyFan:
Jus wanna highlight a few things.
Apologies; couldn't help pointing out some things.There is a 'foundation' for single mums - not exactly a financial assistance kinda thing, but more towards emotional support. It was formed by a single mum herself. Being a single mum, finance is a factor, but not as big as compared to emotional support.
It's true that Maia Lee got bombarded when news were released that she is a single mum and that she was pregnant again.But as I have mentioned before, the day one decided to be a single mum, one has to kinda be 'immune' to verbal abuse. It's a tough route, but one has to have the determination to go thru it.
From what I know, Maia Lee wasn't much affected by the 'verbal abuse'. Even if she was, she did manage to get over it.
My guess - abortion was introduced initially not as an option for gals to use when they are pregnant and didn't want to give birth, it may be more towards cases where the baby has been diagnosed with health problems or in cases where the gal's health is not good enough to carry the baby to full term. In a way, SG does discourage abortion, else there won't be a neceeesity to undergo counselling and a video screening session.
Single mum - one who is divorced but with a kid is viewed differently from one who has never married but has a kid.
The latter is being judged far more worse than the former.
It can't be a definite answer that SG cannot accept single mums - in fact, according to statistics, there is a rise in single mums nowadays - but be it divorcees or real single mums, I can't ascertain - apologies.
When this thread was started, there are bound to be ppl who support and ppl who don't and some who will react very strongly.
Different individual views things differently, whatever their point is, end of the day, to put it bluntly, it will be TS's fren to face the harsh facts of to abort or not to. She has to face the consequences herself.
But, although finance is a factor, it's not a major one, the major issues are stated in my previous post.
I have seen kids in poor family conditions, but they are very sensible. They appreciate all that the mum did.
It all bowls down to how the child is being brought up.
There's no right or wrong here; it's more of a decision of one's own.
We make decisions in everyday of our life, minor ones, major ones. But whatever the decision may be, stick by it and no regrets.
In a way, if a gal wants to get married, wants a life of her own, doesn't want to make sacrifices, not able to face 'verbal abuse', tongues wagging, finger pointing - it's a high chance abortion is chosen.
It's not always true that children born in proper families will turn out better; in my line of work, I have seen abuse by fathers to the extend that the kids contained a deep hatred towards their own fathers. To them, the fathers don't exist.
I have seen too, how children from single parent families are sensible, independent etc.
Most posts are, somehow all general comments, perception etc; no right or wrong.
End of the day, TS's fren has to ask herself, which path can she be more able to adapt and accept? Which path is she more able to face herself more truely?How I was i can make maia pregnant myself, so nice. You get to have a kid which you never have to take care of. Good bargain. At least you knew you served God's purpose for multiplying the earth, with no strings attached.
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Originally posted by xiiaostarry:
Precisely cuz none of you all know her in real life..
And, do not know her family background..
Just the gossips alone from her relatives can be over-whelming..
"Do single mums actually hear ppl gossiping, or do they actually felt that they are being gossiped at? Hear not = felt."
>> YouDontKnowMe did mention in one of her posts that she have to go through the gossip period..That's 1 real life example..(Do correct me if I rmb wrongly)
And another Tot of the Day >> Can anyone be 100% affirmed that there are no gossips on single mums at all?
Tongue waggers are all around. Anyone here can talk freely as this situation does not happen to them. Just like some of the forumers here..can call her "cheap" etc..
Or have no one ever saw any forum threads on Maia Lee before? Or did no one else saw the newspaper reports before? People commenting on her tattoos..her status as single mums..
Who are you to judge if the gossips are to be considered " over-whelming"?
Who are you to judge if she is unable to ignore them and lead a good life with her kid?
Friend? Come on man, someone who could encourage his/her "friend" to consider abortion can be consider a " true friend " who "cares for her future".
After reading your posts, I'm beginning to see that there are people in this forum who are worst off than gazelle/ lionnoisy.
However, i do agree that we can only advice her and only she has the rights over this issue as it consents her future. If I could meet her, I would defintely persuade her not to.
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Originally posted by crimsontactics:
Is your determination that weak? This are just gossips, it happens all the time. Don't tell me you can't overcome them? Haven you been the topic of gossips before. Oh I forgot! you must be one of those elites who would sue anyone who talks about you.
If she don't even have the willpower to stand up against the gossips and lead a meaningful life, even after the abortion she is bound to end up as a failure. Cause gossips will be there no matter if you were to abort or not.
crimson, like i said before life isnt as easy as it seems. It is not that simple to stand up to gossips and it is not about willpower all the time. no matter what's the girl decision is, we have to respect it. It is not easy for her not matter what path she decide to take. We are not in her shoes and we cant totally understand how terrible she is feeling deep down. So it isn't fair for us to condemn her.
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Originally posted by KaurexO_o:
crimson, like i said before life isnt as easy as it seems. It is not that simple to stand up to gossips and it is not about willpower all the time. no matter what's the girl decision is, we have to respect it. It is not easy for her not matter what path she decide to take. We are not in her shoes and we cant totally understand how terrible she is feeling deep down. So it isn't fair for us to condemn her.
If she has the rights to condemn a life which has not even seen the outside world, why can't we condemn her?
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Originally posted by KaurexO_o:
crimson, like i said before life isnt as easy as it seems. It is not that simple to stand up to gossips and it is not about willpower all the time. no matter what's the girl decision is, we have to respect it. It is not easy for her not matter what path she decide to take. We are not in her shoes and we cant totally understand how terrible she is feeling deep down. So it isn't fair for us to condemn her.
We are not in her shoes. But she is not in her baby's shoes. Can she justify that her baby agree to the abortion? If she can judge for her baby, why can't we judge her?
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Originally posted by crimsontactics:
Who are you to judge if the gossips are to be considered " over-whelming"?
Who are you to judge if she is unable to ignore them and lead a good life with her kid?
Friend? Come on man, someone who could encourage his/her "friend" to consider abortion can be consider a " true friend " who "cares for her future".
After reading your posts, I'm beginning to see that there are people in this forum who are worst off than gazelle/ lionnoisy.
However, i do agree that we can only advice her and only she has the rights over this issue as it consents her future. If I could meet her, I would defintely persuade her not to.
And why cant a friend who advise her be considered a true friend? All of us have different viewpoints and it is not necessarily true that someone that have encourage her to go for an abortion to be not her true friend. If she decides to go for an abortion, i would not stop her if i were her friend but instead i would respect her decision and stand by her as i understand that no matter what decision she makes, the one ending the most hurt is her herself. I would only stop her if i know that she is making a very rash decision and has not thought about it thoroughly through if i were her friend.
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I see lots of bigots throwing stones in this thread. sigh.
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Originally posted by KaurexO_o:
crimson, like i said before life isnt as easy as it seems. It is not that simple to stand up to gossips and it is not about willpower all the time. no matter what's the girl decision is, we have to respect it. It is not easy for her not matter what path she decide to take. We are not in her shoes and we cant totally understand how terrible she is feeling deep down. So it isn't fair for us to condemn her.
Its not simple to stand up against those comments, but she has the responsibility to see that her child is raise up well, like all parents do. Even is she was to bare the blunt alone, she has bite her lips and get though the thicks and thins with her child.
Like i said, she played williingly, so she knew the consequences, and it is irresponsible of her to just end the problem by terminating a life.
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KungPaoChicken:
Your words made me laughed.
Thanks for making my day.
If Maia or generally, any other single mum chose to react to the gossips, be affected by the gossips, what actually do you expect them to do?First: Cry?
Second: Kick a Fuss?
Third: Commit suicide?
Is doing any of these stuff going to help things? Generally, ans is a 'No'.
Single mums don't give birth just to serve a 'God's purpose' as u mentioned.
One generally main reason y they chose to give birth is cos it concerns a Life; there may be some who felt it's their responsibility to bear the consequences.
As for you mentioning serving God's purpose, kindly do read the bible. There's no phrase stated anywhere that gals' purpose is to multiply the Earth with No strings attached. Plus, ps don't use the word 'God' as and when you like. Do spare a thot for religions. -
Originally posted by KaurexO_o:
And why cant a friend who advise her be considered a true friend? All of us have different viewpoints and it is not necessarily true that someone that have encourage her to go for an abortion to be not her true friend. If she decides to go for an abortion, i would not stop her if i were her friend but instead i would respect her decision and stand by her as i understand that no matter what decision she makes, the one ending the most hurt is her herself. I would only stop her if i know that she is making a very rash decision and has not thought about it thoroughly through if i were her friend.
Do you know the harms the op is going to do to her physically and emotionally?
Set this question aside, i don't give a damn about her welfare if she was to abort. But what about the baby? A life is terminated for no valid reason. Its not like she had a medical condition or something. She had not even tried to raise the baby yet. Is it justified?
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Originally posted by HelloKittyFan:
KungPaoChicken:
Your words made me laughed.
Thanks for making my day.
If Maia or generally, any other single mum chose to react to the gossips, be affected by the gossips, what actually do you expect them to do?First: Cry?
Second: Kick a Fuss?
Third: Commit suicide?
Is doing any of these stuff going to help things? Generally, ans is a 'No'.
Single mums don't give birth just to serve a 'God's purpose' as u mentioned.
One generally main reason y they chose to give birth is cos it concerns a Life; there may be some who felt it's their responsibility to bear the consequences.
As for you mentioning serving God's purpose, kindly do read the bible. There's no phrase stated anywhere that gals' purpose is to multiply the Earth with No strings attached. Plus, ps don't use the word 'God' as and when you like. Do spare a thot for religions.
Keep religion aside.
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Originally posted by KaurexO_o:
And why cant a friend who advise her be considered a true friend? All of us have different viewpoints and it is not necessarily true that someone that have encourage her to go for an abortion to be not her true friend. If she decides to go for an abortion, i would not stop her if i were her friend but instead i would respect her decision and stand by her as i understand that no matter what decision she makes, the one ending the most hurt is her herself. I would only stop her if i know that she is making a very rash decision and has not thought about it thoroughly through if i were her friend.
Its not worth respecting someone who don't respect the life of another human being.
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crimsontactics, apologies, if KungPaoChicken didn't bring in the word first, I wouldn't request him to spare a thot for religions.
No intention to bring in religion, just requesting KPC to 'avoid' misusing the word.
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Originally posted by HelloKittyFan:
crimsontactics, apologies, if KungPaoChicken didn't bring in the word first, I wouldn't request him to spare a thot for religions.
No intention to bring in religion, just requesting KPC to 'avoid' misusing the word.
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No offence.No lar, dun have to apologies. I just dun want religion into this topic, its volatile enough.