I lost both my bf and bbf
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Add ending to story and close the book. Move on girl...
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please dun write best fren as bff tsk
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Originally posted by TehJarVu:
please dun write best fren as bff tsk
oh? huh??
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Originally posted by babypinkstar:
Hello everyone. (:
Intro of the people involved:
1. My ex (Jonathan)
We were from the same sec sch. We dated when I was sec 3, and he was one year older.
However, due to some childish reasons, we broke up. We did stay in contact, mainly using msn.Last year during Aug, (i'm already in jc, he went privatesch). Then he attended one of my college event. So we met up after the event. And we were back into a r/s.
4 months later (Dec), he turned cold and so we broke up.
2. My JC BFF (Jenny)
She was my best friend during these two years, till now.
And she knows Jonathan too, 'cause he often drop by my school to send me home.
3. And me, obviously(Names are faked)
THE STORY:
Long story cut short.
I just found out few weeks ago that since this Jan08. Jenny was with Jonathan.
They'd been together for 8months already, and still is together.Let's see, Jon and me broke up during Dec. And they got together in January. What are the chances that he turned cold was NOT because of Jenny's existence?
I'd asked her why she steals my guy, but she denies doing so. Both Jenny and Jonathan insist that they are just two singles getting together.
She lied to me for so long. Yet, pretending to be my best friend for these 8 months.
I'm terribly upset by her actions.
I don't understand how some people can be so selfish.I'd said I forgive her, though I refused to talk to her.
I'd even grant both of them happiness, but sometimes I regret what I'd said.
Sometimes, I still hate her.Did I do the right thing? Should I not have forgiven her?
Last time hor...the girl who steals other girls' bf would've acid splashed across her face and the bf would've been desexed by my grandmother's golden pair of scissor.But since we're talking about right now, then I think you have to consider it takes two hands to clap. Although if your bf had been faithful to you from the beginning, even if marilyn monroe stripped herself in front of your bf, it wouldn't have any effect on your bf if he's faithful.
What comes around goes around, don't worry about this pair of gou nan nv. Because of this betrayal that they have done to you, both of them will always have this fear of getting betrayed by each other in the future. And they will never be able to overcome that fear in their hearts unless they get married within a year or so to solve that fear issue within themselves.
So if you see them getting married within a year or so, you will be pleasantly pleased to know that they are doing it out of guilt and not out of love (Of course it's their lame excuse for getting married).
Little do they know, this kind of marriage does not last. So don't be surprised to see them filing for divorce in the future.
Unfortunately, this kind of incidents is quite common in Singapore and maybe that is the reason of couples breaking up.
But for your own sake, I'm sharing this with you and I hope you will NEVER resume any friendship with these two people again, and show NO MERCY to them cos they don't deserved to be forgiven at this moment.
GOD may forgive them when they both die eventually, but they will still need to suffer for their sins while they're still alive. It's called RETRIBUTION and it's will constantly lurk and haunt them as long as they are alive.
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Originally posted by parn:
Last time hor...the girl who steals other girls' bf would've acid splashed across her face and the bf would've been desexed by my grandmother's golden pair of scissor.But since we're talking about right now, then I think you have to consider it takes two hands to clap. Although if your bf had been faithful to you from the beginning, even if marilyn monroe stripped herself in front of your bf, it wouldn't have any effect on your bf if he's faithful.
What comes around goes around, don't worry about this pair of gou nan nv. Because of this betrayal that they have done to you, both of them will always have this fear of getting betrayed by each other in the future. And they will never be able to overcome that fear in their hearts unless they get married within a year or so to solve that fear issue within themselves.
So if you see them getting married within a year or so, you will be pleasantly pleased to know that they are doing it out of guilt and not out of love (Of course it's their lame excuse for getting married).
Little do they know, this kind of marriage does not last. So don't be surprised to see them filing for divorce in the future.
Unfortunately, this kind of incidents is quite common in Singapore and maybe that is the reason of couples breaking up.
But for your own sake, I'm sharing this with you and I hope you will NEVER resume any friendship with these two people again, and show NO MERCY to them cos they don't deserved to be forgiven at this moment.
GOD may forgive them when they both die eventually, but they will still need to suffer for their sins while they're still alive. It's called RETRIBUTION and it's will constantly lurk and haunt them as long as they are alive.
Thanks, that was great words there. Yeah, I believe in karma. Every action in this world bears a consequence.
And I'd told her too. Then she kept quiet. She's pretty protective of him, I can see.I took a mistake of telling that my past r/s with Jonathan has told me that Jon was sort of a 'flimsy' bf. You know, hot and cold.
And guess what, she went to tell that to him. Ah, I wish I could just slap her in the face.
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Originally posted by babypinkstar:
Thanks, that was great words there. Yeah, I believe in karma. Every action in this world bears a consequence.
And I'd told her too. Then she kept quiet. She's pretty protective of him, I can see.I took a mistake of telling that my past r/s with Jonathan has told me that Jon was sort of a 'flimsy' bf. You know, hot and cold.
And guess what, she went to tell that to him. Ah, I wish I could just slap her in the face.
You can still get back at her by lying to her all the wonderful things that your ex have done for you.Remember...the more realistic your lies are, the more she would be demanding your ex to outperform.
These lies can all include those things that your bf would never be willing to do for any girl.
Lie to her and make her feel always inferior to you and she will constantly bug your ex to do impossible things for her....all just for her sake of outperforming you.
You should just sit back and enjoy this sad, romantic drama playing to your own script.
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let it go, cheer up and move on. There's nothing much you can do, even there is , its pointless... chang hua duan shuo..
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TS, I want to share with you something which has provided me solace while I was going thru something similar a few years back. From bitterstickgirl
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so is she prettier than u?
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Originally posted by rainee:
TS, I want to share with you something which has provided me solace while I was going thru something similar a few years back. From bitterstickgirl
So cute the cartoons.
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Regardless of the results, you now know who your friends are and what kind of guys are out there. Sadly i was a also in a devestating relationship once. I have since been stronger and when such a person happens to pop up in my life, i let it go rather peacefully. Without hatred or vengence, perhaps just disgust.
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Originally posted by parn:
Last time hor...the girl who steals other girls' bf would've acid splashed across her face and the bf would've been desexed by my grandmother's golden pair of scissor.But since we're talking about right now, then I think you have to consider it takes two hands to clap. Although if your bf had been faithful to you from the beginning, even if marilyn monroe stripped herself in front of your bf, it wouldn't have any effect on your bf if he's faithful.
What comes around goes around, don't worry about this pair of gou nan nv. Because of this betrayal that they have done to you, both of them will always have this fear of getting betrayed by each other in the future. And they will never be able to overcome that fear in their hearts unless they get married within a year or so to solve that fear issue within themselves.
So if you see them getting married within a year or so, you will be pleasantly pleased to know that they are doing it out of guilt and not out of love (Of course it's their lame excuse for getting married).
Little do they know, this kind of marriage does not last. So don't be surprised to see them filing for divorce in the future.
Unfortunately, this kind of incidents is quite common in Singapore and maybe that is the reason of couples breaking up.
But for your own sake, I'm sharing this with you and I hope you will NEVER resume any friendship with these two people again, and show NO MERCY to them cos they don't deserved to be forgiven at this moment.
GOD may forgive them when they both die eventually, but they will still need to suffer for their sins while they're still alive. It's called RETRIBUTION and it's will constantly lurk and haunt them as long as they are alive.
parn
I have to say, I'm pretty impressed by this post of yours
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always ask urself why are u angry? being resentful will get u no where. it makes u a bitter person & eventually eliminates ur trust in others.
u think its fine now to hate others for causing hurt on u but in the long run u will understand it is this very element that will cause urself destruction. and i mean destruction in ur future r/s because u have no trust.
why keep mentioning karma? u mean ur cursing them? if u so believe in karma, wouldn't this karma backfire on u then?
if the guy isn't meant for u, be happy that u found out early but u dun have to try destroying r/s of others.
move on girl & don't think so much.....better things awaits u & the journey is long....so why not be cheerful instead?
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Originally posted by Hello Kitty:
so is she prettier than u?
I don't think I'm in the position to comment on this.
But many people, since J1, had asked whether we are twins or sisters. I reckon that we look freaking alike. -
let it go, learn a lesson
maybe its not her fault? you might have misunderstood
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There's no right/wrong in a relationship.
Only misunderstandings...
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u stil in contact with them?
to me, they are 'gou nan nu'
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Originally posted by Cool-gal:
u stil in contact with them?
to me, they are 'gou nan nu'
So fierce...
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Originally posted by Cool-gal:
u stil in contact with them?
to me, they are 'gou nan nu'
Uh, I no longer contact Jonathan since our breakup in Dec last year. Now, still no.
But I still uh go his blog.Maybe you can say I can't forget him. After all, our history dated all the way back from sec3.
But for Jenny, there's occasional texts. Mostly about school. I don't message her anymore. Usually she msg me to ask school stuff.
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Originally posted by babypinkstar:
Uh, I no longer contact Jonathan since our breakup in Dec last year. Now, still no.
But I still uh go his blog.Maybe you can say I can't forget him. After all, our history dated all the way back from sec3.
But for Jenny, there's occasional texts. Mostly about school. I don't message her anymore. Usually she msg me to ask school stuff.
ohhic..i think u shdnt contact with both of them at all.
guy= definitely a bastard.
gal= definitely a slut, drop her as a fren.
their story maybe diff, i dun noe..
but definitely, the trust between u n them has been broken.
a good fren doesnt steal.
a good guy doesnt stray.
but, so happen they did it.
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do you have taohua problem? http://fengshuiforward.com/forum/romance-and-marriage/your-peach-blossom/0/
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Originally posted by babypinkstar:
Uh, I no longer contact Jonathan since our breakup in Dec last year. Now, still no.
But I still uh go his blog.Maybe you can say I can't forget him. After all, our history dated all the way back from sec3.
But for Jenny, there's occasional texts. Mostly about school. I don't message her anymore. Usually she msg me to ask school stuff.
If she messages you, just ignore and don't reply. After a while she will get the idea.
As for the guy, it is best that you do not have anything to do with him anymore...going to his blog will only cause you to not be able to forget as some of his posts might irritate you (e.g. when he is talking about his new gf, which happens to be your ex-best female friend).
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heck bf I understand but what is bff?
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If she was really your best friend, she would not have done it
if he was really happy WITH YOU _or_ the special one for you, it would not have happened
no one's to blame at all it's just a silly love triangle
after all this venting here, you should relax and concentrate on your "A"s. make it to at least NUS or NTU if not overseas Uni and see that, indeed, the best time of your life is always ahead..
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Originally posted by 4sg:
heck bf I understand but what is bff?
bff = best friend forever