I miss her
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Originally posted by TalkToTheScreen:
No lar, it's not secret. We ended our relationship already.
But if you were in a relationship with her, why are you still behaving so shy to even not talk to her?Anything less than 6 months is not considered in a relationship ok?
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It's more than 6 months. It's not that i'm shy to talk to her. Cos when she went back to her ex, she started avoiding me. When she avoids me, i tried to talk to her, but she still avoids.
In the end, we became like strangers. It's almost awkward to talk to her.
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dude, whatever it is, life goes on.
some things are simply beyond possession, no matter how much you desire it. i hope you feel better soon.
*pat pat*
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If she avoids you, then as a MAN you must know when to withdraw, retreat and exits with grace.
Would you accept her back if she decides to run back to you in the future?
The answer is NO, and don't soften your heart now and hardens it for your own future good.
The problem with EXes is that they are unable to handle the truth that they belonged to the past and can NEVER be in the present of the future anymore.
You will find a better girl in the future, a more pure and clean girl.
The truth is, your ex-gf has already gone back to her ex-bf and they are probably mastering the executing their 1001st KAMASUTRA kungfu while you're posting in here.
So don't and be smart, you don't need to forgive people more than once in your lives. If you need to do so, then you're not the smart one in your scenario.
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Originally posted by parn:
If she avoids you, then as a MAN you must know when to withdraw, retreat and exits with grace.
Would you accept her back if she decides to run back to you in the future?
The answer is NO, and don't soften your heart now and hardens it for your own future good.
The problem with EXes is that they are unable to handle the truth that they belonged to the past and can NEVER be in the present of the future anymore.
You will find a better girl in the future, a more pure and clean girl.
The truth is, your ex-gf has already gone back to her ex-bf and they are probably mastering the executing their 1001st KAMASUTRA kungfu while you're posting in here.
So don't and be smart, you don't need to forgive people more than once in your lives. If you need to do so, then you're not the smart one in your scenario.
Haha, thanks yea. At least you're talking some sense. Your advice are straightforward but true.
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Originally posted by TalkToTheScreen:
Haha, thanks yea. At least you're talking some sense. Your advice are straightforward but true.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I have always been talking sense.
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Originally posted by parn:
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I have always been talking sense.
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when your gf/bf are with u and before they just broken up with their partner...and they decided to go back...is it becoz of love or is it just becoz they are so used to each other?and they are not use to the life without their ex bf/gf that they decided to go back?
relationship that has been for years...is there still love?or a routine..
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Originally posted by themoment86:
when your gf/bf are with u and before they just broken up with their partner...and they decided to go back...is it becoz of love or is it just becoz they are so used to each other?and they are not use to the life without their ex bf/gf that they decided to go back?
relationship that has been for years...is there still love?or a routine..
Yeah, i've been wondering bout this too. Is it more of a routine, than love?
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How long have u been with her? Was she single already when u met her? or u potong jalan?
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Originally posted by soleachip:
dude, whatever it is, life goes on.
some things are simply beyond possession, no matter how much you desire it. i hope you feel better soon.
*pat pat*
I'll forget bout this soon enough.
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Originally posted by juz^up:
How long have u been with her? Was she single already when u met her? or u potong jalan?
Single. But just ended her last relationship. I should have known better?
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Originally posted by TalkToTheScreen:
Single. But just ended her last relationship. I should have known better?
How long ago did she end the last relationship bro? I mean b4 she was with u? Like a fellow forumer who posted here recently?
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Originally posted by themoment86:
when your gf/bf are with u and before they just broken up with their partner...and they decided to go back...is it becoz of love or is it just becoz they are so used to each other?and they are not use to the life without their ex bf/gf that they decided to go back?
relationship that has been for years...is there still love?or a routine..
It's the attachment that they felt for each other.Cos their eyes got used to seeing/containing each other within their line of vision, their brains got used to think and considerate for each other at their daily lives, their body got used to be with one another in the places they used to visit/shop together.
When all of these suddenly disappears from their lives, their body will reaction emotionally and send out signals to the emotions telling the mind that something is not right or missing from the normal operation of the body, so their minds will automatically react with signals to their hearts which caused them to yearn for and misses each other.
It's normal and if it is really love, then they won't have broken up in the first place. It's just the consequences of growing too close with each other.
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Originally posted by TalkToTheScreen:
Single. But just ended her last relationship. I should have known better?
That explains alot, and it's normal for her to yearn for her ex and return to him if you only got her at the rebound of her relationship.Unless the previous relationship love is destroyed, ceased to exist or overtaken by the current love between you and her, you will lose her.
It's only a matter of time before she leaves you.
Should have spent more time with her to build up a better relationship to overtake her previous one?
Now is the time for regret and reflection. And you will learn from this and do better in your next relationship.
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Originally posted by TalkToTheScreen:
I can't bring myself to face her. Nvm, it's over. I just have to forget bout her. Which is like SOOO easy right?
Not easy to forget someone you love and treasure so much. It takes me years to get over. Unless you are those type that can let go easily, if not you will have to struggle, go through pain in the process to get over. It is not possible to forget, to get over is possible. -
Originally posted by parn:
It's the attachment that they felt for each other.Cos their eyes got used to seeing/containing each other within their line of vision, their brains got used to think and considerate for each other at their daily lives, their body got used to be with one another in the places they used to visit/shop together.
When all of these suddenly disappears from their lives, their body will reaction emotionally and send out signals to the emotions telling the mind that something is not right or missing from the normal operation of the body, so their minds will automatically react with signals to their hearts which caused them to yearn for and misses each other.
It's normal and if it is really love, then they won't have broken up in the first place. It's just the consequences of growing too close with each other.
so does that means they will be together forever and will never fall for somebody else?even if they do fall in love with another person..their heart will still linger at the past relationship with their previous partner?eventually...go back..??
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i miss my ex also even after almost 2 years.....
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Originally posted by themoment86:
so does that means they will be together forever and will never fall for somebody else?even if they do fall in love with another person..their heart will still linger at the past relationship with their previous partner?eventually...go back..??
Of course by right they should be together forever if they don't change. But people change because they themselves wishes to change and are constantly learning and seeking ways to change themselves in their friends, environment, movies, people they know, people they have heard about, idols, situations which forces them to change in order to survive....Very few people in this world doesn't crave for changes, and these are usually people who are confident, contented, satisfied with themselves and their well-being in their lives.
Many times in our lives that we had encouraged our loved ones, friends, or even people whom we have never met before (like in this sgforums) to change for the betterment of themselves and their loved ones. But not many people are able to change their lives even though they have successfully encouraged or advised their others to change for the better.
themoment86, it depends on the individual if they wishes to change or have the will to change or not. An ideal relationship would be one where the couple changes at the same pace together for the betterment of their relationship...OR the couple doesn't change or do not see the need to change as they both believes their relationship is at the peak/prime of their lives and they are both contented with their relationship (This is RARE...but very ideal, even I also wished to find someone who can make me feel this way too).
If a couple doesn't change at the same pace or one changes more than the other who doesn't have the will to change, then the relationship will eventually becomes one-sided or both will find themselves drifting apart eventually and their reason to be together would have been lost or changed unconsciously. This is common nowadays.
Couples who broke up and then realised that they don't like their current changed lives compared to the previous one before their lives changed, may find their lives to be too miserable and misses their old lifestyle before they change. Some couples will discard their changed lifestyle and return to their previous contented lifestyle and likely to seek out each other's company again. Some couples may think of it as an opportunity to find a better partner to complement themselves again, but they will definitely make a mental note NEVER to change again as they do not wish to taste such misery ever again in their relationship. Couples like this will most likely to have flash wedding.
People are different, life is ever-changing but religion is constant. So don't be surprised to find people seeking religion for constant peace in their lives or relationships.
Look for someone who shares the same beliefs in life as you and is as KIND as you. I've met couples who have found each other as a perfect match as both of them are as EVIL as themselves.
And of course, you must always find someone who can make you happy, must be handsome enough to make your heart flutters, must know how and when to romance you sensibly.
How can I forget to mention must be able to afford at least MINIMUM 30k ring for proposal.
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Originally posted by natural_boy:
i miss my ex also even after almost 2 years.....
If you find that you're not being even missed by your ex, then this should be a good reason enough for you to forget about her and move on for a better girl. -
darn parn..you are so..wow..
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Originally posted by themoment86:
darn parn..you are so..wow..
amazing? haha.
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just want some shoulder to cry on...or some listener...that's all ba
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go and meet her then go hotel and have a last good time together.otherwise you will regret it later.