how to completely let go and forget the pain, hurt and anger
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Perhaps you should seek permission to forgive yourself first? Your inability to carry on life normally signifies an unclosed chapter in your life, in which the door got stuck and refuse to shut. Before you declare that you require a 'clean-clear-cut-break' to truly move on: my question is why allow him (someone whom you probably deemed as a jerk) to have the control of exit in this chapter of your life? Why allow someone to manipulate your misery, especially since he would likely to be out enjoying himself while you are foolishly stuck at this junction, thinking about trying to resolve some self-generated dead-knot?
The decision to move on must come from your individual conviction and resolution. Nevermind if he didn't provide the answer you seek - the problem is about you making decision for yourself to seek the happiness you desire. And this desire is about the freedom to release yourself from the bondage of your previous relationship.
Learn acceptance.
From there, you will gradually understand that acceptance comes from tranquil via the heart and the only voice you need to listen is nobody but yourself.
Cheers
I don't love him anymore because deep inside me, i finally understand why we can't be together. I finally have a taste that love can died off and you can never find there loving feeing for the person that you have once loved ever again because it had really hurts like hell once or twice.The emotional scars leaves a stigma that i can't seem to shake it off.
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you don't shake it off..
you eventually to let it go.. it takes time
most of all, it is important that you remember.. you remember what went wrong, and that you learn never to make the same mistakes again..
give it time...
we all get better...
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Galle,
yeh i agree wif bear... it takes time...
Time heals all wounds...
Galle, u decide how long it takes.... 2yrs... 3 yrs... or more... u are the deciding factor... no one else can help u.
Let go or get dragged...
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You just need to accept the fact that it happened and move on.. Brooding over what already happened does you more harm than good other than reflecting upon what you have learnt.. Yea it hurts like hell i think most people have experienced such feelings but not letting those feelings control your life i think is the way to go