colleague's behavior disturbs me
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Fairlady has a point there....make it clear to him what he is doing now puts you off...If not, get help...do not lead him on again....he might............
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punch his balls.
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Well, you are having lunches with him. And he has no better females to spam his smses to. Treat it as a compliment.
Tell him politely that you cannot offer massages, cos it will seem like you are sexually harassing him and HR dept wont be happy.
Then dont reply his smses. If its just junk stuff, replying his smses means you are spending money or using up your sms'es quota and you will have to pay more.
If he question you why you dont reply smses, just reply that there is nothing to reply on. (Hinting there is nothing interesting about him anymore.) and yawn in his face!
Then avoid going out lunch with him anymore! Talk to HR to hopefully request that one of you stay in the office or take alternate lunch hour! Or you can suggest to stay in and have him buy you your lunch everytime you need to stay in!
Their common excuses will always be: Just being friendly, did nothing wrong what. You are conservative. Its only joking. I didnt know you will be offended, last time send to you, you never say dont like what.
Or in some extreme cases, will deny having any intention on you because you are too ugly for him; or he already has a wife/g/f/mistresses and you are trying to throw yourself at him. He only sms to you so as not to be rude to you....blah blah blah....
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Behave hostile towards him. To this sort of person you need not be friendly. If you are friendly he will take more advantage on you. I hate to deal with such people. Whenever I meet this type of people I will show them face and avoid them. Tell him to leave you alone lah. Stop communicating with him if it is not work related. I know exactly how you feel because I am victimised many times before.
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Just tell him in a proper manner saying that you don't like being spammed with messages and that we should respect each other boundaries. If he asks you for lunch, tell him that you already packed lunch/lunch with a bf/husband.
Maybe he thinks your one of those girls who can easily feel loved just by doing this kind of shitty stuff towards you. He could probably tried to touch your hand so that we can masturbate late at night when he comes home, that's how it gets off.
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but i dont want to make things awkward in the office and i still see him as a friend lo.. so shouldnt be too mean to him right? and i just found out from a few other colleagues, hes quite weird too..
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Originally posted by jaydunkfull:
but i dont want to make things awkward in the office and i still see him as a friend lo.. so shouldnt be too mean to him right?
and i just found out from a few other colleagues, hes quite weird too..
then just talk to him on work related stuff, other than that don't communicate with him. If you still allow casual conversation and do not know how to deal with him if he starts his nuisance then you will get more stress from him.
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the messages he sends are weird. i was out with a few colleagues and he didnt come for the outing. he mass messaged all of us and the contents were just, weird. like asking us to enjoy ourselves and to take care, dont drink, rest early bla bla. hes the same age as us but he sounds like he's our dad or something. the way he messages is just weird.
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report that guy la. zzz anyhow touch here touch there. go club with him sureee die one
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A guy with no friends.
A gal chats him up, regularly.
You see this guy, this guy in love with you.
Yes, he's in love, who looks at you the way he do
When you smile, He can tell you know each other very well
How can he show you, He's glad he got to know you
'Cause he heard some talk, they say you think he's fine
This guy in love and what he'd do to make you his
Tell him now, is it so? Don't let him be the last to know.
His hands are shaking, don't let his heart keep breaking
'Cause he need your love, He want your love
Say you're in love and you'll be his gal
If not he'll just die
Just jesting, but you should get the idea.
Apologies to Burt.
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just ignore his SMSes/phonecalls/whatever chit chats unless its work related. he'll get the hint sooner or later..
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Originally posted by Fantagf:
then just talk to him on work related stuff, other than that don't communicate with him. If you still allow casual conversation and do not know how to deal with him if he starts his nuisance then you will get more stress from him.
x2! didnt see this earlier. -
he loves u and he wanna smell ur nice ass hole then piak piak.
give him a chance or he might change his target to ur boss
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Originally posted by jaydunkfull:
this colleague of mine, he sits behind me. so i talk to him most of the time when we work. like when i have queries or just some random chatting here and there while working. its normal right? and i end up talking to him the most due to the proximity of our sitting positions.
all was fine, untill he started messaging me. we talk in the office, go for lunch together, that im fine since its like interaction in the office and there are other co-workers around. but i barely know him and he messages me random stuff like what he’s doing and asking me about my day and telling me good night and stuff. im fine if im closer to him or knew him longer to feel comfortable to talk about such stuff, but i feel such outside-office interaction isnt neccessary and i dont want it. i dont mind talking to him, but i dont particularly enjoy it.
he spams me messages, ard 4-5 messages at one go and im quite disturbed by it. i feel it isnt neccessary and i dont want to reply him at all. but i just do, out of courtesy.
there was once, or so my gut feeling tells me, he purposely went to shake my hand to wish me good luck when i was sent by the company for some training. i think he did that just so he can touch my hand. what the shit. i feel totally disgusted at that thought.
he asked me to give him a massage twice already and of course i rejected! in a polite and joking manner and he said i was conservative. i just think its inappropriate dont you think? i wouldnt want to touch him for goodness sake. and how inappropriate would it seem in the office, huh?!
i may be thinking too much, or just being paranoid. naybe hes just being friendly. if thats the case, i seriously dont mind. but i dont see even my closer colleages messaging me like that, whats more he’s a guy! i just feel uneasy. i hope im just thinking too much. tell me, is that something i should be worried about?
he likes u la, haha
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bring scissors go.if he touch you.just cut his ballz off.then he cannot do anything liao.
he will be same level as you already.(enuch/gay) with no ballz.
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ok its better now. at least he stopped messaging me. i think i was a bit cold to him. ooops. but he's weird. i think he doesnt have friends. and he has this irritating habit. he likes to put himself down and keep praising others. like for example he throws a piece of paper into the bin and he misses me: lousy la, you (jesting) i.c ( irritating colleague) :yes yes, not like you la, da ren wu( bigshot), rubbish will also listen to you and go inside the bin. i am xiao ren wu, simple things also cannot do properly ( also jesting) but he does that all the time!! wtf right! feel like punching him. omg.
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im sorry this should be in whinehouse. but i ve got so many things to bitch and complain and whine about my dislike for him. ok, he's damn cheena. his english is quite lousy. his pronounciation sucks. nowhere= he says now-here. he says= i borrow my paper to him. =.=
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yeah i ignored them. and he asked me at work. i said that i was lazy.Originally posted by mamamamama:
just ignore his SMSes/phonecalls/whatever chit chats unless its work related. he'll get the hint sooner or later..
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Originally posted by jaydunkfull:
ok its better now. at least he stopped messaging me. i think i was a bit cold to him. ooops.
but he’s weird. i think he doesnt have friends. and he has this irritating habit. he likes to put himself down and keep praising others. like for example he throws a piece of paper into the bin and he misses
me: lousy la, you (jesting)
i.c ( irritating colleague) :yes yes, not like you la, da ren wu( bigshot), rubbish will also listen to you and go inside the bin. i am xiao ren wu, simple things also cannot do properly ( also jesting)but he does that all the time!! wtf right! feel like punching him. omg.
seems like he is having inferiority complex and low self image.
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sounds like he wants attention now..
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Sometimes better not talk too much to people like that.
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I think you are beginning to like him, just that you don't know. He has managed to get your attention to the pont of you wanting to punch him. Now that's something. haha. Congrats~
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I think you are beginning to like him, just that you don't know. He has managed to get your attention to the pont of you wanting to punch him. Now that's something. haha. Congrats~
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Originally posted by RHluvW:
I think you are beginning to like him, just that you don't know. He has managed to get your attention to the pont of you wanting to punch him. Now that's something. haha. Congrats~
ha haha, are you sure?