Chatting with an unknown
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oh .. i'm not "angry" .. it's just that i'm very realistic - i just don't believe you can fall in love with someone without meeting him/her first. i think you can become fond of someone without ever meeting him/her, but the spark that becomes love can only happen when eyes meet. this is why i think it's wrong that some of the forumers have asked you to get a photo/cam - to me, it's like fuelling ur already somewhat deluded (no offense) pov that you may be in love with him.
i don't have any experiences to share .. i've never come close to falling in love with someone i've met online. i have made friends through the internet though .. which is why i think for a start, just meet the guy, as friends, and see how things go from there.
if he's really ugly .. u guys will still remain friends?
if he's a douchebag .. u can make a fast escape.
if he's prince charming .. then u would have had the first hand experience of evaluating whether he's a genuine prospect, and not some player with too much time on his hands. i pray he's the former - and if he is, u can take things further the natural way, that is, through actual dating, and not emails.
btw, what makes u think he's just as interested in u, as u are him. for all u know, he only wants to be friends .. not all single sg men are desperate/horny > <
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Just wondering how did you 2 exchange emails?
Anyway, there might be some emotional attachment in you to him. Emotional attraction. It is possible.
If you were wondering how he looks like, why not just ask him for his pictures? Exchanging pictures is damn common what. Just say hey, we have been chatting for some time, yet i dont know how you look like.... etc.
What if he turns out to not what you've expected? So what....? Can be friends ma. If you are questioning yourself this, i must say your intention is to look for a bf? Else if your mindset is only making friends, you wouldnt care about this, unless you are shallow la.
Just exchange pics lor, and if you see he's quite ok, then meet up for a drink lor. Dont worry so much la. It's not like you 2 are meeting at his house.
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Just wondering how did you 2 exchange emails?
Anyway, there might be some emotional attachment in you to him. Emotional attraction. It is possible.
If you were wondering how he looks like, why not just ask him for his pictures? Exchanging pictures is damn common what. Just say hey, we have been chatting for some time, yet i dont know how you look like.... etc.
What if he turns out to not what you've expected? So what....? Can be friends ma. If you are questioning yourself this, i must say your intention is to look for a bf? Else if your mindset is only making friends, you wouldnt care about this, unless you are shallow la.
Just exchange pics lor, and if you see he's quite ok, then meet up for a drink lor. Dont worry so much la. It's not like you 2 are meeting at his house.
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u pretty 1st anot.
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It's almost like your travelling back in time when Msn chatrooms were popular.
Well there's a difference between being genuine and being fake. Not all people out there will tell you the truth about themselves. Anyways you might like him and he might like you, you guys should meet up and see what happens next. Since you already mentioned you guys have been emailing each other for quite other.
And to be on the safe side, bring a friend along to meet up. Your choice.
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Originally posted by Audreytan:
Recently, I have been chatting with this unknown guy for quite a period of time already and I had fun chatting with him. however it was only through email. he didnt see me before , i didnt see him before, we don know each other moblie number and anything else. only by hotmail. We always mail each other whenever we receieved each other reply. I find him a nice guy and also get along well with me. He's smart and had a degree already.
after a few mails, i realised even when i'm out, i want to be home soon to check if there's his mail reply, or any news of him. I feel like asking for his picture to have a look at him but i'm afraid he has wrong idea that i have intentions and blahblahblah.
Did i fell in love with him? crush on him? or jus normal human reaction/thinking too much?
im quite a realistic girl, i need a guy who has at least a cute or a little above average look, what if he turns out to not as I expected or up to what kind of expectation I like?
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Get to know him better before you decide to meet him, like burndog said bring a friend with you. -
get his number and go for it!
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u know something.....i get to know a guy from msn and we just chat in msn and sms only. duration was about few weeks and he said he like me....kinda of strange....nv meet and tok on the phone....funny....
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Use webcam
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Originally posted by Audreytan:
Recently, I have been chatting with this unknown guy for quite a period of time already and I had fun chatting with him. however it was only through email. he didnt see me before , i didnt see him before, we don know each other moblie number and anything else. only by hotmail. We always mail each other whenever we receieved each other reply. I find him a nice guy and also get along well with me. He's smart and had a degree already.
after a few mails, i realised even when i'm out, i want to be home soon to check if there's his mail reply, or any news of him. I feel like asking for his picture to have a look at him but i'm afraid he has wrong idea that i have intentions and blahblahblah.
Did i fell in love with him? crush on him? or jus normal human reaction/thinking too much?
im quite a realistic girl, i need a guy who has at least a cute or a little above average look, what if he turns out to not as I expected or up to what kind of expectation I like?
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It's called Curiousity.If you're not careful and firm with yourself, you might just fall in love with him unconsciously.
So guys, the keyword is "Curiousity" cos we're like cats. Meow~~~~~~
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Originally posted by Miss Tiny:
erm how did both of u got each other's email address in the first place?
the guy may be trying to get into ur good books now so that u will be mesmerized with him.. so that's a thing u have to look out for.
never assume he's a nice guy until u really noe him in and out.. some guys may sound nice online but when u met them in real life, it'll be a different issue.
just wondering if he doesn't look like what u had expected of, would u still continue to chat with him?
Ehhh. But u shld give the person a chance to get to knw him in real life wor. -
Originally posted by seotiblizzard:
Ehhh. But u shld give the person a chance to get to knw him in real life wor.it all depends on the person whether she wanna meet him anot.
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i think you dont love him. you are just happy because he can be your companion or sth like that..
he'll be your very very good friend in the internet. i suggest you dont ask his pic or anything.. just chat as usual.. im afraid once you see his pic, he'll turn you down..
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Originally posted by Miss Tiny:
it all depends on the person whether she wanna meet him anot.
Hannor. Thts why i say, give the guy a chance. -
to : seotiblizzard
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to : seotiblizzard ---
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Originally posted by PPOH:
to : seotiblizzard ---
Yea?? simi? do i knw u? -
Its the doubt.
You don't know the truth.
Is he for real, or just a pretender? Therefore caution is advised. We have heard of online tragedies. BTW he is also wondering, whether you are a 40year old, beer bellied, sweaty singlet wearing, male. He don't know too.
Therefore, should you take the risk? That is the agony.
Risk are to be avoided, or taken with care.
If avoided, status quo. Things will be just like that.
If taken, the result may be....... ?
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I find this somewhat funny as the feeling of de javu is present when I read your question.
Does it matter at all how he looks? In your case it is almost entirely virtual. You have no intention to meet up and I dun think you are falling in love. For once I have to agree with parn, it's curiosity.
Cyber Imagination
Deep in the tunnels of my mind,
images abound,
Silky Hair and Sparkling eyes,
tempt me like the devil.
Was that pair of eyes yours?
I sure hope it is,
for none charmed me like it did.
Words flow like streams of clouds,
into my mind they went.
fogging my thoughts no end.
A vision is finally form,
and how beautiful you look.
I pondered, if this was you,
but why the heck I care?
This is how I want you,
and how you will to me.
Till we meet shall it perish,
or maybe it will stay.
"Nonetheless" I told myself,
you are beautiful this way.I thought you might actually understand what I'm trying to put forward in the poem above. I wrote this many years back when I was feeling the same thing.
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Well, people can express a different impression over the computer but not in real life. If that person
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Well, people can express a different impression over the computer but not in real life. If that person is
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most likely hes a nerd
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Sorry for not reading all the replies but just though of sharing, I was once in your situation, but well im on the other side the guy. LOLS Initially i though it was just all out for fun and all. Before all it was just u know msging one another, not knowing how each of us look like and all, I didn't pay much attention to her looks, (I didn't care) The relationship between me and her it's just like friends who talks about anything under the sun, thou I've got a real girl friend out there and all not knowing my "weird relationship" with this other girl.
Til like 1 year down the road, we start to realize that we've already fall for each other(yeah that happen after me and my GF broke off) ,I need to know how she look like and all. Nevertheless we decided to meet up, I told her just a meet up like as if we're normal friends and nothing else. It turned out soooo bad, seriously she look just like a witch (no i dun like to insult but... SHES REALLY worst den FUGLY)! It was such a bad idea, I was dam confused at that point of time, she fking put her hands around me and of cus i ran off! (ok im a big bastard) I told her not to contact me anymore... however when im home I started thinking of the things she said to me, the things i said to her in the past...
I tried to love her again, but i just can't really just i started to turn myself into a total different person... well, i guess it wouldn't happen if right from the start I've know how she look like and started accepting her day by day... it'd be so much worst if she'd to come up to u 1 day and "Hi im am the so-and-so u've been mailing everyday nice to meet u" den u realize its too late... The impact stays with you forever, both parties =)
Well but all in all these are parts and parcals of life! do what you think is right!
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i think u're just bored, thats why u look forward to his emails everyday.=)
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i also have this experience now.
he keeps calling me and sms me everyday but kinda of strange he does not do that in weekends. he nv initatied to ask me out or whatsoever.
Tell me..what should i do....confront him but then he seems to be a nice guy.