MUM IS CRAZY and i cannot do anything about it .....
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After reading the first post, it sure bring back some of my teenage memories.
To JonJon92,
Like you, I was busy playing computer games rather than busy studying in my 'O' level days.
Like you, my mother is always against me from playing computer games.
However, one big difference is that I belong to the "Mummy's boy" category and will obey/listen to my mother eventually instead of being rebellious.
What I did back then was quite funny: I played computer games only when my mother was not paying attention. For example: I only play when she is outside or when she is sleeping. And when she is around, I do some other things because I know that as long as she does not see me playing computer/video games, I am safe
.Of course, I do not recommend you to ��玩游� like what I did before.
What you need more is human understanding.
You must understand that only gamers will understand why gamers like to play computer/video games. Something which your mother most probably do not understand.
You should understand that your mother do not know why you are playing games and also should understand that you do not know why your mother stops you from playing games.
Mother does not understand child. Child does not understand Mother. It is just a misunderstanding that should be settled peacefully and not go overboard.
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i suggest you get a life, or maybe buy one if you cant get any for free.
you seriously need your brain cells to start moving,
your thinking is as good as a dumbo.
grow up kid, don whine. -
seriously you're dumb as fukc. honestly.
you already said that you know your results suck cos you play too much.
ite poly jc uni doesn't matter. improve your attitude please.
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if you don't think about yourself, think abt your mother. Afterall you are responsible to take care of her when she's old.
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actually i've ever been like you b4, i cant accept people keep controlling me. even if they concern us, but i still think they're already overdone.. But one day you'll realised why they be like that.. However, you've to stop playing computer games. don't make your parents worried you.
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Yup actually i think most of us have been there before.
in sec 1 and 2 i was last in class....average mark 40+...had to take some "re-exams" for provisional promotion...
thanks to some friends who brought me to LAN shop for first time and intro me to CS and SC....
but difference is in sec 3 i woke up...and stopped playing so much
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Originally posted by JonJon92:
Since young my mum has been controlling everything ( playing computer , when i go out , who i mix with etc .) And now i have reached 16 recently (17 this year ) , its the same . My friends and relatives says she is too OVER controlling ove me JUST becos she is my mother . I admit my O 's levels results are bad because i play too much and i have not been studying . i think this is becos she DONT let me play at all from sec 1 till now ... so I have been rebelious to her and so i went on playing .... Her plans backfired her I tink and now her mental conditions even gone worse ...
Ps. Some background infomation from me is that my father and mother are not in good terms at ALL for the past ten years... MY father likes to throw temper and my mother's words are VERY hurtful and blunt ... in other words she likes to scold .... whichs irritate ppl easily ..
Can anyone help me ?
AND I M THE ONE THAT IS CRAZY!
Jonjon,
None of you is crazy.
Your mother's heightened anger towards you is relative to your level of rebellion.. the more rebellious you are.. the more she thinks she needs to have a tighter grip on you.
Now , let me ask you.... why do you think your mother is angry at you ?
Do you think if you can sit down with her and have a civilised conversation without you saying something to piss her off ?
Think of it this way... she is "over-controlling" not because she is your mother.. rather... she is controlling because you are his son and she does not wants to see you fail.
Sit down and have a talk with her.. all she needs is this.
Admit you have not been doing your best the past few years and is very regretful of your substandard results.
Give her assurance that you will buck up and do your best.
Tell her you have done some thinking.. while computer games is your hobby .. you will only play it for maximum 2 hours every week. ( And make sure you stick to it).
You are 17 this year.. start behaving like an adult.. and people will treat you like one.
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you seem to be having alot of problems...
1st thing is don't be rebellious la...if you want her to give you freedom, then gain her trust...be a good son la...if she were to die, i think you'd be the cause...her temper indicates her stress...seriously, you'll regret it if the time comes when she is gone in your life...dun take things for granted...
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you should count yourself lucky that you got a caring mother who control you. think about it, better than she dont control you right ?
play computer is not cannot, but you also never say how intense and how long you play ? play with moderation, wanna play, also must study and be filial..
O levels can retake, you have a choice whether to retain in ur sec sch or take private candidate... i think if you got ur result like just nia, go back ur sch office ask principal see what they say lor...
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She scold you then keep quiet . Dun bother to do anything or else it will worsten up the situation .
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prove to your ma
talk later
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prove to your ma
talk later
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Originally posted by JonJon92:
Since young my mum has been controlling everything ( playing computer , when i go out , who i mix with etc .) And now i have reached 16 recently (17 this year ) , its the same . My friends and relatives says she is too OVER controlling ove me JUST becos she is my mother . I admit my O 's levels results are bad because i play too much and i have not been studying . i think this is becos she DONT let me play at all from sec 1 till now ... so I have been rebelious to her and so i went on playing .... Her plans backfired her I tink and now her mental conditions even gone worse ...
Ps. Some background infomation from me is that my father and mother are not in good terms at ALL for the past ten years... MY father likes to throw temper and my mother's words are VERY hurtful and blunt ... in other words she likes to scold .... whichs irritate ppl easily ..
Can anyone help me ?
AND I M THE ONE THAT IS CRAZY!
My parents had a very bad relationship. My mum began to vent her frustration on me by exercising absolute control over me. When I had my first gf, she freaked out. She began a campaign to paint an ugly picture of my gf in vain. My dad continued his endless flow of violence until the only time I retaliated in order to protect my then gf from being assaulted by him. It was sheer torture to live in such an environment. I was only 17. Then I responded to the JPSDS program from SAF and started to earn my own income. School fees were paid by the government. My poly results ain't that good but I've never repeated any semester before. And in turn, I learnt to grow up in the SAF instead of a healthy family. I've completed my contract with the SAF for a few years. And even though I am utterly disillusioned and disappointed with the SAF policies, I have never regretted that decision I took years ago. Because of that step, I learnt many things money cannot buy. Priceless lessons.
.While at this age, you're half a step into adulthood yet too unknowledgable to be considered matured. And being cooped up like a little mummy's boy will get you nowhere either. I've seen worse situations and the mummy's boy at the age of 25 being sheltered totally grew up to become a hegemonist is still unable to support himself, treats his mother like a slave and when she has no money for him, he went to her cabinet and took out her savings booklet and pointed out the little amount there and demanded from his mum to give him that money.
Dear JonJon92, what I am trying to tell you is that if you are unable to find your home a place for communication, venture out. Start working part time. Experience the bitter side of life. You will find that the working life is so much different from home. Having the opportunity to feel the burden of responsibility will be a good beginning for your route towards maturity. Then take on the yoke of being responsible for other people. Become the safety net for other people to fall upon. Be financially independent, a pillar of confidence to rely on and a person who can be responsible for the well-being of others. Then return home as that person and your family will view you differently.
Good luck and I hope you will find your direction soon.
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knn lah. JUST GROW UP and stop playing games.
How difficult is it to just listen to your mom for 1 fucking year and get your O lvls over and done with?
Just like everyone else, you were in the rebellious phase, we know it, we've been there. And when everyone says you should grow up and be mature, just do it. We know what happens when you don't and what happens when you do.
When you grow up, you will finally realise why your parents did that and why we said these. Along with realisation of ah beng wannabes, punks and all the secondary school crap like maplestory or whatever kids play these days.
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Lol our moms are the same everyday my mum come home she shouts and scold and she also tries to control me too much saying its for my own good but these few days I getting rebellious and not listen to her. All I am trying to do is to make her understand that I need more freedom
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it is time for you to move out and stay on your own.
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Originally posted by JonJon92:
Thats why i m planning to study hard for next year to go to poly.... And she scold me on christmas cos i played computer games during the holiday (after o level ) ... As for this cycle it happened on My secondary 4 , Thats y i have no turning back... but to start from ite ...
ITE is not Its The End. My bro went to ite. after grad from ite, he went to poly and now, hes one of the top 10% in his course. Poly, ITE,JC doenst matter. wat matter most is urself. ur attitute towards studying and the discipline in urself. -
Originally posted by JonJon92:
Since young my mum has been controlling everything ( playing computer , when i go out , who i mix with etc .) And now i have reached 16 recently (17 this year ) , its the same . My friends and relatives says she is too OVER controlling ove me JUST becos she is my mother . I admit my O 's levels results are bad because i play too much and i have not been studying . i think this is becos she DONT let me play at all from sec 1 till now ... so I have been rebelious to her and so i went on playing .... Her plans backfired her I tink and now her mental conditions even gone worse ...
Ps. Some background infomation from me is that my father and mother are not in good terms at ALL for the past ten years... MY father likes to throw temper and my mother's words are VERY hurtful and blunt ... in other words she likes to scold .... whichs irritate ppl easily ..
Can anyone help me ?
AND I M THE ONE THAT IS CRAZY!
Cool , i see contradictions. You fail.
P/S : Don't bring your parents into this scenario cause it's just between you and yourself.
If you know what i mean.
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Originally posted by JonJon92:
No way else...retaking means private ... Private means no proper teacher guidance and dicipline like in scholl ...
Hi , i failed my O'level 10 years ago. I choose to retain to retake my O'level. I was from a top class in a neighbourhood school. So imagine all the suprised looks from the school when i got retained. For my second retake ,my result was just good enough to enter JC. Sometimes , your mind is just not there to study. Dont think about it & move on. There is some catching up for you.Explore your options wisely & then follow it through.
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at least your mum is there to control & take u in hand..there are lots of ppl out there who yearns from their mum's nagging, but can't..
moreover..u are in the wrong leh..u yourself also admit that u spent too much time in game & cause your studies to deteriorate.. =.='''
if u really want freedom from your mum..then learn to earn it..prove to her that your studies won't get affected even though u spent time with your friends..playing etc..
your results are already so jia lat, with her controlling u..how can she loosen her control over u?..