failure in life
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i feel like a failure in life and an under-achiever.
I am 23 this year and still in ns this coming aug i will enrol into nus to study business. I feel so old.. My jc peers will be like 20 when they enter into uni and some gals at my age.. They have already gotten their deg. Relatives and my parents used to mock at me for being intellectually weak compared to my cousins who are from all the top jcs unlike me .. Went to normall academic and poly. Even when i get accepted by local uni there was once my father call me useless.. Dad .. I already tried to make you proud.. But i cant make it to ivy unis..
Some of my peers have the luxury of driving their parents flashy cars like bmw whereas i have not even started learning driving and my family dont have a car.. I have friends who at my age are already earning a stable 2000+ by giving tuition.. And i dont even have 5 digits in my bank.
I am ugly. When i was young i did not take care of my face and teeth. My face now is like a wreck.. Pimply and with many scars. My teeth is crooked and yellow. I cant whiten my teeth because i have many tooth filling. I am not fat but i do not have a nice muscular body.
Guess what? I have not stepped into a relationship before. The gals i courted all rejected me either because of my looks or my inept social skills. I can only maintain coversations going with gals but i cant make them laugh because i am not humourous. I dont ask much for a girlfriend.. Just average looking with a pleasant personality and can click with me.. Is that so tough?
I also have few friends. My good friends are all getting attached.. And do not have time for me. How i wish i can get to know more friends. Most of the time during my weekends i will spend it alone at home. Am i really useless? Not being rich.. No car.. No girlfriend before.. Little friends.. Ugly.. Intellectually weak.. No degree only armed with a diploma. So old and still in army..
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wah lao
why u fuck care about other ppl?
can stop comparing u with ur cousins? U ARE WHO U ARE.
its ok to be in normal academic wat
i also leh, my cousin all go express and go JC.
my parents like to compare me with them, but i dont give a fuck.
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can you all see my post properly? If not can someone help me edit?
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guess wad?
there's people out dere who're worser.
and stop fucking being despo for a gf.
you don't need 1 unless you're desperate for a one night stand
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this is a good time to study, given the way the economy is at now...you need to feel better about yourself....save up for some medical help with regards to your skin issues and perhaps join a grooming class or something.....
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stop whining can ?
u have so much to be grateful for.
health, an intact family, being provided for...
i dont see why u have to spend time moaning abt what u lack, rather than be happy with what u have.
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Sorry that you are such a failure. You are not a failure for being what you are but you compare yourself with others and look down on yourself. What you achieved in life, some other may not be lucky to achieve them. Comparisation is good if it benefit you. The way you did it is like finding an excuse to be sad of who you are. Even I do think you are a failure for doing so.
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I really despise men like you. Utter defeatists.
Keep whining about how your life sucks; 'bout being an underachiever bla bla bla - yet not do anything significant about it. How about this? Learn to overcome your own problems, to find your own way around things and find your own reassurance as opposed to all the girly whining and bitching.
BTW, learn to edit your own post. At 23, I'm certain you can handle something as easy peasy as posting in a forum right? Or am I wrong?
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Originally posted by gd4nth:
i feel like a failure in life and an under-achiever.
/>I am 23 this year and still in ns this coming aug i will enrol into nus to study business. I feel so old.. My jc peers will be like 20 when they enter into uni and some gals at my age.. They have already gotten their deg. Relatives and my parents used to mock at me for being intellectually weak compared to my cousins who are from all the top jcs unlike me .. Went to normall academic and poly. Even when i get accepted by local uni there was once my father call me useless.. Dad .. I already tried to make you proud.. But i cant make it to ivy unis../>Some of my peers have the luxury of driving their parents flashy cars like bmw whereas i have not even started learning driving and my family dont have a car.. I have friends who at my age are already earning a stable 2000+ by giving tuition.. And i dont even have 5 digits in my bank./>I am ugly. When i was young i did not take care of my face and teeth. My face now is like a wreck.. Pimply and with many scars. My teeth is crooked and yellow. I cant whiten my teeth because i have many tooth filling. I am not fat but i do not have a nice muscular body./>Guess what? I have not stepped into a relationship before. The gals i courted all rejected me either because of my looks or my inept social skills. I can only maintain coversations going with gals but i cant make them laugh because i am not humourous. I dont ask much for a girlfriend.. Just average looking with a pleasant personality and can click with me.. Is that so tough?I also have few friends. My good friends are all getting attached.. And do not have time for me. How i wish i can get to know more friends. Most of the time during my weekends i will spend it alone at home.
Am i really useless? Not being rich.. No car.. No girlfriend before.. Little friends.. Ugly.. Intellectually weak.. No degree only armed with a diploma. So old and still in army..
Holy shit dude. You are going to NUS. You should be happy.
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why do you give a fuck what others think?
live life for yourself, your goals, your means.
not live life according to how others say you should.
it's ok to be in normal acad.
many people are, and they do excel in life too.
why should you worry then, if your parents keep comparing you to others?
work hard, stop looking down on yourself, be a successful person and prove them wrong!
there's nothing wrong with not owning a car.
owning a car just gives you extra responsibility, like having to pay for road tax, parking fees, etc.
yes, you may say that owning a car gives you the right to show off, but do you think that the price you pay for being able to show off is worth it?
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Quarter life crisis??
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Hey, at least you're going uni right? When I come out from NS I will also be the same age as you. I don't see anything wrong with that.
When I was young, I was always compared with my same age cousin whom everyone thought was smarter than me.
I hated my life, even my mum also everytime compare. So many people looked down on me that I myself don't dare to look myself in the mirror.
Then I stop giving myself self-sympathy and did something about it. Now I am happy to say, I am smarter than most of my classmates, even still pursuing a diploma, my qualifications are already better than my same age cousin who doesn't even have a proper O lvls cert.
And suddenly everyone pins their hope on me to be the first male in the family to make it to university. And I'm not doing any of those for them, I do for myself. Their words, actions and looking down on me became my strength to excellence.
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dis is ur life.
juz accept it.
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at least u are better
i am 18 this year
No Money, No father, N-level
i don't even have an O-level
Unlike you. i know there is people worst then me. and willing to move on in life. and try to stay positive
No money. Work for it
No GF?. Earn more money.
Little friends? GO OUT AND MAKE MORE!!! SgForum can make friends u know!
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wtf la... at least u can go NUS and take business to study leh...my case is similar, if nt worse than urs except tt u can go NUS which is the top 50 university in the world, where i can't even smell NTU at all.. can wake up ur idea or nt?
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eh hello hello NTU not chui uni can?
wake up wake up.
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Originally posted by gd4nth:
i feel like a failure in life and an under-achiever.
/>I am 23 this year and still in ns this coming aug i will enrol into nus to study business.
I feel so old.. My jc peers will be like 20 when they enter into uni and some gals at my age..
They have already gotten their deg. Relatives and my parents used to mock at me for being
intellectually weak compared to my cousins who are from all the top jcs unlike me ..
Went to normall academic and poly. Even when i get accepted by local uni there was once
my father call me useless.. Dad .. I already tried to make you proud.. But i cant make it to
ivy unis../>Some of my peers have the luxury of driving their parents flashy cars like bmw whereas
i have not even started learning driving and my family dont have a car.. I have friends who
at my age are already earning a stable 2000+ by giving tuition.. And i dont even have 5 digits
in my bank./>I am ugly. When i was young i did not take care of my face and teeth. My face now is like a
wreck.. Pimply and with many scars. My teeth is crooked and yellow. I cant whiten my teeth
because i have many tooth filling. I am not fat but i do not have a nice muscular body./>Guess what? I have not stepped into a relationship before. The gals i courted all rejected
me either because of my looks or my inept social skills. I can only maintain coversations
going with gals but i cant make them laugh because i am not humourous. I dont ask much
for a girlfriend.. Just average looking with a pleasant personality and can click with me..
Is that so tough?I also have few friends. My good friends are all getting attached.. And do not have time for me. How i wish i can get to know more friends. Most of the time during my weekends i will spend it alone at home.
Am i really useless? Not being rich.. No car.. No girlfriend before.. Little friends.. Ugly.. Intellectually weak.. No degree only armed with a diploma. So old and still in army..
toopig
gals of course faster thanm u they don't need to go NS. your relatives don't know now polytechnic students going JC are more and more? percentage higher? parents mok you good, so next time no need to giv them marnie no remorse cos they mock u. ppl driving ex car are heavily in debt, unless they have the arse to shit else all are constipated. as for earning 2000+ and you no marnie sorry i can't help. it all depends on how a person worked to earn, not whine and despair.
u see in the streets there are more uglier ppl. please have a muscular prick when it erects - that's the most important factor. PRC a lot go for it like shit. ppl with many friends only during pay day. after pay day no more friends. 23yrs laucheehai you still in army or still Nsmen?
see your post u realy toopig.
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Originally posted by Hello Kitty:
dis is ur life.
juz accept it.
hi kitty. good reply.want to go out date with me. i make u happy
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Originally posted by kcockicht:
toopig
gals of course faster thanm u they don't need to go NS. your relatives don't know now polytechnic students going JC are more and more? percentage higher? parents mok you good, so next time no need to giv them marnie no remorse cos they mock u. ppl driving ex car are heavily in debt, unless they have the arse to shit else all are constipated. as for earning 2000+ and you no marnie sorry i can't help. it all depends on how a person worked to earn, not whine and despair.
u see in the streets there are more uglier ppl. please have a muscular prick when it erects - that's the most important factor. PRC a lot go for it like shit. ppl with many friends only during pay day. after pay day no more friends. 23yrs laucheehai you still in army or still Nsmen?
see your post u realy toopig.
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hey bro
at least u can go NUS.
i have to go NS right after my Os. Pay for my own education in a private school and then work full-time at the same time. but i dun complain, coz its all a process of growing and acquiring more knowledge. i now working/studying, both Full-Time. stress? you bet, but this is life afterall!
Think of the bright side kay? at least u are not disabled or retarded and stuff. at least u have a family, u have a mind of your own.
u are 23 already. im just 19. come-on, grow up kay?
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TS:
Wake up to REALITY!!
Don't come here to complain about your problems.
Come here instead to ask for solutions to your problems.
You need more self-confidence and self-assurance.
Something which isn't taught in schools.
I suggest that you make newspapers your best friends. They offer free seminars previews. Go to such seminars often. Some might give you new thinking which will result in positive thinking and mindset change only if you know how to disgest those free information which often needs explaination.
Else challange yourself to do something that is crazy for your yourself - of course legal challenges la.
For me - I commit myself to marrathon 2008 Without Any Training and have completed it despite the pain, it's worth it. At least you know your own limits and worth.
It's the process of knowing yourself (for instance in my own example) to better understand your own mental/body weakness before you proceed on.
Disclaimer: This concerns your own health, Seek lighter legal challenges if your body condition doesn't allows. Maybe something which you didn't dared to do in the pasted.
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oh no!
then how can we relieve ur agony? :(
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go and gym hard to improve your physique. it will help improve your confidence. and try developing a good sense of humour. this will get you friends easily.
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come on... u should increase your level of confidence... no girlfriend? hey i am approaching 21 years old and i also do not have a gf right now... my mum even suspect i am a gay! lol... getting into an relationship takes two hands to clap... a good sense of humor takes time to train... just be more confident!
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why are you comparing yourself with others?
i mean, why bother.why bother. if you did/ achieved the exact same thing as other sdo/ achieve, you wouldnt be you anymore would you?
there are enough mindless brainwashed clones populating the earth.