failure in life
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thanks for all the replies. some were really nice advices and encouragement.
you know what i think i really need to do is to just sit down, reflect and ponder on whats my flaws.. what is lacking in my life.. sort out my thoughts and how to go about trying to improve or obtain them.
even if some things i cannot improve on, i guess people should accept me for who i am. afterall, everyone is a unique individual.
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;D good luck .
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;D good luck .
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Originally posted by gd4nth:
thanks for all the replies. some were really nice advices and encouragement.
you know what i think i really need to do is to just sit down, reflect and ponder on whats my flaws.. what is lacking in my life.. sort out my thoughts and how to go about trying to improve or obtain them.
even if some things i cannot improve on, i guess people should accept me for who i am. afterall, everyone is a unique individual.
Glad to read your positive response. All the best to you.
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Wtf dude. I'm 20 going 21 this year, I ORDed in 2008 and i'm just getting started on another poly since I quit my previous poly course.
I'll be 24 when I get into Uni, that is if i even get into local U.
SO WHAT?!
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Hey dude, I just wanna say something:
EVERY HUMAN BEING HAS INSECURITIES! But that's normal.
Guess what? Even the chioest of girls and those FHM models are always not satisfied of their bloody looks! They always like to seek perfection...but there's no such thing as perfect. Being human is the best.
There are 2 types of guys. Both are ugly, poor and "whatever you want to say". One despises himself for the shit he is in. The other puts in effort to enjoy life to the fullest without giving a shit to what others think.
No prizes for guessing who I respect more.
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Originally posted by gd4nth:
i feel like a failure in life and an under-achiever.
I am 23 this year and still in ns this coming aug i will enrol into nus to study business. I feel so old.. My jc peers will be like 20 when they enter into uni and some gals at my age.. They have already gotten their deg. Relatives and my parents used to mock at me for being intellectually weak compared to my cousins who are from all the top jcs unlike me .. Went to normall academic and poly. Even when i get accepted by local uni there was once my father call me useless.. Dad .. I already tried to make you proud.. But i cant make it to ivy unis..
NUS biz lei, quite power, my friend always whine abt how she was rejected by NUS, you should be feeling proud of yourself!
better to bloom late than never at all, so don't give up on yourself
oh ya, it's ok if you don't have muscular body, but a scarred pimply face (volcano skin??) is not ok, suggest u find facial treatment. can't cure it completely, but at least makes you more presentable, impt for job and r/s
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At least you made it to a local university, which many people can't. Be glad and happy.
If i'm not wrong, you must be one of the top students among your polytechnic cohort, in order to enter NUS.
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While others have moved on. You stayed behind wondering why you are not like them.
Thats because you call yourself "good for nothing", you feel like "good for nothing", you think like a "good for nothing", and by gawd, you are a "good for nothing".
You only have to be good at one thing in life to be successful. Be it a doctor, a hawker, an engineer, a lawyer, an actor, a teacher, whatever, just be good at it.
But if you choose nothing, that is good enough. Be satisfied with it.
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Money, looks, girls are your problems.
Money: Work hard, get a good job, work smart, invest them.
Looks: When you have money, do plastic surgery for your teeth. Skin problems, go see a doctor.
Girls: Gain confidence, be interesting yourself. Take up public speaking skills. But dont be fooled by girls.
I give you an advice in life: You only have to do a few things right and avoid all the major mistakes in life.
Cheers!
Evangel
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after reading through 60 posts. lol. gd4nth, I dont think you are a failure in life. But rarer not experienced life enough. Do spend time with yourself and reflect. See you inner self. Life is about experiencing on your own doing what you think is right. Dont really need to care about others. A share of my experiences with you all.
I have friends who have declare retired @ 26 already earn 1 million.
some still studying Uni doing a part-time degree,
some fufillling their scholarship bonds trying to rectify their mistakes
one sec2 educated trying to make a living
one in Changi Prison serving his sentences
some doing their phD
some started business
some really dead @ 26
some got cancer, trying to stay alive ...Expand your social network and try to stay alive. Some of people I know is already dead before 23. And life is nothing but a illusion.
Have confidence with yourself, do what you like. When you die tomolo and GOD ask you if you have any regrets. How do you answer?
I like Evangel's advice, about one would only have to few things right and aviod all the major mistakes in life. <-- True
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do not worry of a low starting point - even u climb high at young - does not mean you will always stay high......in fact - with failures and set back it will make you stronger and more steadily in later part of your life. Life's a long journey bro..........for me, after achieving a steady startup - then experience setback later part -even more siong.......
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do not worry of a low starting point - even u climb high at young - does not mean you will always stay high......in fact - with failures and set back it will make you stronger and more steadily in later part of your life. Life's a long journey bro..........for me, after achieving a steady startup - then experience setback later part -even more siong.......
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Erm. Well. It's your life. Just accept it.
I also have friends who are also going to come out from army when he's 23. Yet I don't see him getting so upset about going into army at such an "old" age.
He's still leading a fulfilled life out there. A life I would say better than some of the people here maybe. It's all about how you see it from another angle.
The fact that you can get into NUS Business is already an achievement. Just that in Business course, it's going to be a bit more competitive than the rest from what I heard. So really get yourself mentally prepared if you want to strive for an honours.
"Ivy" universities are really only for those who are in the top tiers so don't compare yourself with them. And for those "ivy" universities are often overseas. Don't you like Singapore here? Haha.
Your friends with flashy BMW is never because they are rich or rather it's their parents who are capable to earning so much money that they can afford one.
If your friends are earning 2000+ from teaching tuition, then go teach tuitions yourself. Tutees aren't coming to look for you. You have to be the one looking for them. And if you feel that you aren't good enough to teach, then start revising all your past works now. As many people have said, it's never too late to start. You have to take the first step out instead of whining to other people.
Maybe you wouldn't be earning as much as your friends. But at least you can start small. As the chinese saying goes, a thousand-story building starts from the ground. Don't expect yourself to start earning so much right from the start.
Maybe you should sit down one day and start thinking about yourself. Learn from others. Maybe a good way is to list down your goals and achieve them within a period of time.
Ya. And it's your life, just accept it. If you are not born with a silver spoon, you are not born with a silver spoon. That's a fact.
And the fact that you are seeking help means you actually want to change. You just need to start.
My point of view. You may not agree with me though.