Yunhaier's Love Question
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I have decide to pop the ultimate question to defend the name of Love - which many people in this forum have comdemn, spit and curse at its doing that has led to their emotional turmoils which they are undergoing.
Scenario:
It is predicted that you will have only two relationships this lifetime.
If you have a choice and it has already predicted (you were told and you knew) that your first relationship relationship wouldn't last to the end of time or marriage (whichever seemed more applicable), BUT however, spiritually and emotionally you will grow from the departure of this relations...
And (you already knew) that your second marriage will be the partner that will be with you till death do you apart...
Question is... WOULD you people choose to escape phrase 1 of your relationship and just enter the later relationship KNOWING fully well you wouldn't have to go through all those postive and negative aspect of the lost first relationship and KNOWING fully well that the later relationship will be the guy/girl you will eventually marry?
Or you rather choose to enter first love relationships - to grow, mature, to experience different sort of emotions that relationships could give to you? And finally the second relation which you will indeed treasure?
Variable that are kept constant: Two guys/girls are your style of partners. The reasons why you cannot be with your first love is because he/she has to move overseas and won't be coming back. You can't go over with her - this relationships has to end. (Fated lar, but in a very good sense, not as in he/she dump you for another person, etc)
What you will choose? -
leave every to fate
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Of course leave to fate... but for this case, somehow, you had the psychic power to realise and predicted 100% about 2 things.Originally posted by ^mm^:leave every to fate
I) The number of relation you will enter: which is 2
II) The first one would end and the second one would last -
i will chose 1st 1Originally posted by Yunhaier:Of course leave to fate... but for this case, somehow, you had the psychic power to realise and predicted 100% about 2 things.
I) The number of relation you will enter: which is 2
II) The first one would end and the second one would last
mi rather go through phrase
ever heard of xian ku hou tian
no pain no gain
tis is life nothing is perfect
if ur too perfect u will never learn to treasure & appriciate ur life -
The success of the FIRST Relationship will depend on several conditions:-
Age when committing to a "permanent" life together - the younger one's age is when making such a commitment, the higher the chances of break up.
Reason or Reasons for doing so - is the reason due to "blind love", or "tired of running over to meet the person and easier to hitch up and solve all the transport and telephone problems", or "prove to someone that you are better than what someone think you are", or "you need to settle down now, anyone will do".
Time together before forming the "Reason or Reasons for doing so" - this is "self-explanatory".
Past experiences prior to the Time together - how many past relationship before making up one's mind to commit to this partner; the more experience one has in handling relationships and emotions, the better adapted one can become in difficult relationships.
The success of Phase Two, will depend if the person who leaves Phase One, learn any of those points stated above that caused the failure in Phase One. -
why u all talk so 'chim' one........
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Nonnono... I not asking for the success/failure or analysis of why they last or why they don't.Originally posted by Atobe:The success of the FIRST Relationship will depend on several conditions:-
Age when committing to a "permanent" life together - the younger one's age is when making such a commitment, the higher the chances of break up.
Reason or Reasons for doing so - is the reason due to "blind love", or "tired of running over to meet the person and easier to hitch up and solve all the transport and telephone problems", or "prove to someone that you are better than what someone think you are", or "you need to settle down now, anyone will do".
Time together before forming the "Reason or Reasons for doing so" - this is "self-explanatory".
Past experiences prior to the Time together - how many past relationship before making up one's mind to commit to this partner; the more experience one has in handling relationships and emotions, the better adapted one can become in difficult relationships.
The success of Phase Two, will depend if the person who leaves Phase One, learn any of those points stated above that caused the failure in Phase One.
I am just asking about my question above. whether you rather chose to go through your destined two relationships or just the latter relationship.
New informations added: First relationship is at 21 years old, second relationship is destined at 25. 24 years old break and 1 year rest before the second one comes. -
i think i straight away go into 2nd relationship... scared of being hurt and cant take it...
since i already knew the 2nd relationship will last.. why go through the first and hurt myself??
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then between 21 - 25 yrs old, maybe start planning on how to save $$$ for the future wedding and our family haha.
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no. i wont choose to invest in the first relationship, knowing in advance that it will ends.Originally posted by Yunhaier:What you will choose?
as this hypothetical scenario involves another person, i dont see a need to hurt or waste the time of another girl, after having to learn that there is no positive result.
however, if this applies to other sorta instance whereby only me is involved, my choice might not be the same.
a good example. would the experience helps you to be a better football player after your first defeat? my answer is yes. smooth sailing all the time might not be a good sign and learning from mistake is always beneficial.
but once again, as far as relationship is concerned, i dont see a need for one to learn how to treasure his/her partner at the expense of another person.
one should always learn how to treasure things all the time.
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i will go into the first 1 then to the 2nd one
bcoz if i straight away go into the 2nd one i miss out 1 girl to make love with... so yea
btw its a honest answer ... i dun wanna say something that aint true but just to make me look glamourous -
wait... firstly. how i even know which girl is the one for you. that you will marry eventually.. i dun tink so lor. there is no way to tell at all.
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go through first one first.....everyting is fated but fate lies in your hands...who knows...the first one might b the one who let u taste wat is true love ..........anyway since its predicted u have 2 relationships.., u wana avoid aso canot...
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I said IF.... and I said some psychic power... aiya just imagine lar. I know in reality it is impossible - but this is only a question... don't have to bring out the probability and chance of whether it could happen anot.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:wait... firstly. how i even know which girl is the one for you. that you will marry eventually.. i dun tink so lor. there is no way to tell at all.
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1st one then 2nd one...so that u appreciate love...and the hurt that comes along with it...
but if i truely love the 1st gal...and i know it wun turn out good...i will either try to make it work...or dun go for it at all...why hurt the gal? -
zun boOriginally posted by Peppermint:1st one then 2nd one...so that u appreciate love...and the hurt that comes along with it...
but if i truely love the 1st gal...and i know it wun turn out good...i will either try to make it work...or dun go for it at all...why hurt the gal? -
feeling countsOriginally posted by Xiao Long Nu:zun bo -
dn use my tai chiOriginally posted by Peppermint:feeling counts
/me stamp "SUE YOU" on your face
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Does it really matter??
Well. As someone just say, leave it to fate. If it works out, then be it, whether first or second. -
I think i understood what Yun's trying to say.
It's quite straightforward actually.
I'll would go for the first Girl in my life. Not because i could grow and nuture in my life. But i know that at that very moment in my life. I love her, and there's no promise if we could end happily.
(i'm a Cheng Jing Yong You person)
There would still be chances when both that girl and me could be best of Friends.
And yes i would indeed treasure those times i had wif her (like what Yun had said....my life only have two experiences, I would pour out my heart to whom i love.)
Wonderful Memories are what that counts....
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As in for the later relationship i would have. I would still treasure it and give my best till the end of my life.
Life without Love is no Life at all.
And while i could Love. I'll Give my Best.
Conclusion: I will not escape. Even if i will have another life.
I will still choose the same path and i'll do it better! -
WOOHOO!!!!Originally posted by M©+square:I think i understood what Yun's trying to say.
It's quite straightforward actually.
I'll would go for the first Girl in my life. Not because i could grow and nuture in my life. But i know that at that very moment in my life. I love her, and there's no promise if we could end happily.
(i'm a Cheng Jing Yong You person)
There would still be chances when both that girl and me could be best of Friends.
And yes i would indeed treasure those times i had wif her (like what Yun had said....my life only have two experiences, I would pour out my heart to whom i love.)
Wonderful Memories are what that counts....
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As in for the later relationship i would have. I would still treasure it and give my best till the end of my life.
Life without Love is no Life at all.
And while i could Love. I'll Give my Best.
Conclusion: I will not escape. Even if i will have another life.
I will still choose the same path and i'll do it better!
/me runs far back and dashed towards MCsquare - WO AI NI!.... erm... I mean your reply... hahaha... -
MC square u gt my point
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Haha....i think you want to vomit blood liaoz.....Originally posted by Yunhaier:I said IF.... and I said some psychic power... aiya just imagine lar. I know in reality it is impossible - but this is only a question... don't have to bring out the probability and chance of whether it could happen anot. 
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Originally posted by M©+square:
*WooHoooOooOoOoooOoo*
I think i understood what Yun's trying to say.
It's quite straightforward actually.
I'll would go for the first Girl in my life. Not because i could grow and nuture in my life. But i know that at that very moment in my life. I love her, and there's no promise if we could end happily.
(i'm a Cheng Jing Yong You person)
There would still be chances when both that girl and me could be best of Friends.
And yes i would indeed treasure those times i had wif her (like what Yun had said....my life only have two experiences, I would pour out my heart to whom i love.)
Wonderful Memories are what that counts....
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As in for the later relationship i would have. I would still treasure it and give my best till the end of my life.
Life without Love is no Life at all.
And while i could Love. I'll Give my Best.
Conclusion: I will not escape. Even if i will have another life.
I will still choose the same path and i'll do it better!