what if u have feelings for ur own cousin?
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U lagi damn jia lat leh...
In your case is u 18, she 13 only... 
My case me 19, she 17½... 
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oh WinBoi84 ,
please tell me more about ur story
perhaps u can give mi idea on wad to do=) -
eh.. it's 13 years old though...Originally posted by Promiscuitee:having feeling for a cousin is BAD enough...now he's telling us it's a 12 yr old cousin!!!
OMIGOSH!!!
I'm glad I'm not your uncle/auntie or else I worry to death!
tt's y some mention of marriage.. i was like.. stunned...
never realli think about so far, yet.
like i tell everyone, if u all stand in my shoe and think, will u still be so persistent in saying, "aiya~ juz let go la.. onli a impossible realtionship"?
anyway juz wanna reply ur constructive comment, atobe...
i never wanna toy around with the family line, wad break the relationship tree... wadeva..
it's juz the special feeling u wanna be with someone, protect her and help her when she need
how come u can thought until tt extend?
juz to add, i also got consider that if my feeling are being recognise, it will lead to disaster, maybe my cousin will be scold or she will ignore mi since, or maybe my parents will forbide us seeing eachother again
but den again, she dunnoe about my feelings and i never really plan to tell her.... at least not now
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what sparks off those feeling for your cousin ?
her looks ? -
well, part of it is.Originally posted by blue_kelvinsg:what sparks off those feeling for your cousin ?
her looks ?
but i guess it's becoz we did grow up together.
and feeling juz come, and u dunnoe why it juz happen
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thats a dangerous reply ...Originally posted by SoonKeong:well, part of it is.
but i guess it's becoz we did grow up together.
and feeling juz come, and u dunnoe why it juz happen -
huh?
why say that? -
get a ger friend...and tis crush wif your cousin will be history liao
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my form of boredom is not about love for fun yadaa yadaa, it is more like, you and your cousin have been together for so long and both sides know each other inside out, so to me is like not matter whether is love or whatever you will get bored of the relationship in the end.Originally posted by SoonKeong:Boring...?
i prefer not use the word boring in a relationship becoz, relationship is given to both party hu have trust and love in eachother.
if go into steady is becoz of the fun of it den on the way getting boredom... den might as well not go into relationship ba?
To me, i rather have a relationship outside the family circle, it is more...erm..."excitement"...cant explain with words right now...mind aint working properly... -
actually i think, the only hinderance is the word "cousin" isnt it?
without it, it seems so perfect, nth is wrong, juz a normal special feeling for a gal.
still cannot get over it... is it so important....
well, for fenny
know her inside out i cannot say that, afterall, i have not seen her for quite some years le..
somemore if i am to go into relationship, without understanding of the person deep enuff, i will not attempt to chase her.
even a normal relationship can bored after certain period of time.. it depends on how the couple maintain the relationship. -
siao ah!!Originally posted by SoonKeong:actually i think, the only hinderance is the word "cousin" isnt it?
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would u say "actually I think the only hindrance is the word "sister" isn't it?"
u sure u 18 this yr?? u think like 13, u know??!! -
if not for the word cousin, it wun be a problem wad.Originally posted by Promiscuitee:siao ah!!
would u say "actually I think the only hindrance is the word "sister" isn't it?"
u sure u 18 this yr?? u think like 13, u know??!!
get the picture, it's becoz she is my cousin, den everyone will start to console mi like..."we are blood related" or maybe "parents wun even allow"..
if u dun realli understand.. read the whole paragraph again.. thnx... -
So you developed feelings for your cousin who is 5 years younger, but can you confirm your feelings and classify them? Love? Your Qing Mei thingy? or just a friendship or kinship type of feeling? I have to agree on one point and that is Blood related cousins cannot be together. Or is it SHOULD not be? Well i wont know since we actually had people who eloped twice with their own cousins respond to your topic. Lets say its really true emotional love. Well I believe you are mature enough to be able to distinguish between what is true love and what is not. But does she? Think of yourself during her age...were u able to? But i suggest u spend more time with her though, and the only reason i advice you to do this is to find a lamp that lights up your path, walk it with compassion, walk it with love, end your journey, hopefully, only to realise that you do not necessarily need crushes to get on with life happily. Heeee!
Btw sorry for the repetitons sk!
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Oh ya...see ar sk...the only word that is hindering u is the word cousin mah...so if u chase ar...den Cou! Sin!!! U sinner!!!
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more like he wants to be her knight in shining armour!!
watch too much korean serial lah...what's that show with girl who got cancer?
bro-sis love turn into real lover when older. only this case it's cousin cousin love...
ge....ni bu yao li kai wo....*sob sob* -
yes, u are right... i cantOriginally posted by Douglas1985:So you developed feelings for your cousin who is 5 years younger, but can you confirm your feelings and classify them? Love? Your Qing Mei thingy? or just a friendship or kinship type of feeling? I have to agree on one point and that is Blood related cousins cannot be together. Or is it SHOULD not be? Well i wont know since we actually had people who eloped twice with their own cousins respond to your topic. Lets say its really true emotional love. Well I believe you are mature enough to be able to distinguish between what is true love and what is not. But does she? Think of yourself during her age...were u able to? But i suggest u spend more time with her though, and the only reason i advice you to do this is to find a lamp that lights up your path, walk it with compassion, walk it with love, end your journey, hopefully, only to realise that you do not necessarily need crushes to get on with life happily. Heeee!
Btw sorry for the repetitons sk!
perhaps i dun even noe if my feeling is love or juz the feeling for a close cousin. that's y i am trying to give myself more time to think and decide about it.
anyway i did say be4, i dun plan to tell her or disclose it to my relative. it will be the worst move.
yes i understand ur concern..
cousin or not, i treat this seriously
let's the future take it's course ba
see how it goes and i shall chose my direction -
Ehz sk as i wld always say... PIAN XIAO MEI MEI ar u?
anyway gd luck... sJ -
......thts pretty sick... she's like 13!?
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wah cannot ah ??Originally posted by Mazohyst:......thts pretty sick... she's like 13!?
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it's not sick at all.Originally posted by Mazohyst:......thts pretty sick... she's like 13!?
everyone have their feeling for ppl
juz that my feeling is for my cousin is that wrong..?
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it's not wrong but then it's just a little weird. love's not weird but the relationship is. personally, i won't really encourage that. neither will i disprove of it. i mean, feelings come naturally. if you like her, you like her.Originally posted by SoonKeong:it's not sick at all.
everyone have their feeling for ppl
juz that my feeling is for my cousin is that wrong..?
but most probably, as u grow older, that 'feeling' you so called it will fade. there'll be many other people whom would influence your life as you mature. and besides, she's only 13. when she grows older, she'll probably change and her mindset will mature. dun wish to hurt you with my statements but i juz hope to lastly say that even if she likes you now, it doesnt mean her heart will stay with you even for the next 2 years. remember ! she's 13 ~! -
Originally posted by blue_kelvinsg:
well, i certainly understand it..
it's not wrong but then it's just a little weird. love's not weird but the relationship is. personally, i won't really encourage that. neither will i disprove of it. i mean, feelings come naturally. if you like her, you like her.
but most probably, as u grow older, that 'feeling' you so called it will fade. there'll be many other people whom would influence your life as you mature. and besides, she's only 13. when she grows older, she'll probably change and her mindset will mature. dun wish to hurt you with my statements but i juz hope to lastly say that even if she likes you now, it doesnt mean her heart will stay with you even for the next 2 years. remember ! she's [b]13 ~![/b]
but den, even when gals grows mature, there will still be tendancy where their feeling will fade and begans to like another person ya?
anyway i also did thought of everything that will possibly comes in the way.. but den again, i should just give up this feeling now? -
well, i think the most important thing is to understand that your feelings for her isn't love. it maybe an infactuation or perhaps she's attractive in her own ways which obviously attracted you. you need to understand that this is temporal - a feeling that you can't hold on for long. don't rush into a relationship just like that. take time to understand yourself and build yourself to become a better person. don't rush; take it slow. learn from experiences of others. listen to testimonies. learn to wait and you're definitely find the right one. =) cheers.Originally posted by SoonKeong:well, i certainly understand it..
but den, even when gals grows mature, there will still be tendancy where their feeling will fade and begans to like another person ya?
anyway i also did thought of everything that will possibly comes in the way.. but den again, i should just give up this feeling now? -
the cousin bit isnt really tht bad... the thirteen bit is. ur like 18 or smthn rite...Originally posted by blue_kelvinsg:wah cannot ah ?? -
ya... tt's what i trying to do now.. perhaps give myself 1 year to waitOriginally posted by blue_kelvinsg:well, i think the most important thing is to understand that your feelings for her isn't love. it maybe an infactuation or perhaps she's attractive in her own ways which obviously attracted you. you need to understand that this is temporal - a feeling that you can't hold on for long. don't rush into a relationship just like that. take time to understand yourself and build yourself to become a better person. don't rush; take it slow. learn from experiences of others. listen to testimonies. learn to wait and you're definitely find the right one. =) cheers.
once, i told my fren this, "no matter wad i will give myself one year to wait.if one year pass my feeling fades, tt means this is onli infatuation"
anyway thankz for the constant response and reply that you post here