Worst vday, help.
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hello all. i really need comments and advice on my r/s. i'll just summarise my dramatic love life. my bf and i have been tgt for 3 years. after months tgt, he showed his true colours by being abusive to me whenever he got angry or when we quarrel. abusive act like punching and scratching which happens in public too. i gave him alot of chances by forgiving him until a day when i couldnt tolerate, i initiated a break up. he got worried and told me all those stuffs that he'll change and so, i went back to him. it became such a habit that whenever we quarrel, i will always say break because the thinking that he will only be afraid of break up is there. however for the past 6mths, he stopped his abusive act. my cousins and aunt and friends knew about it because its really hard to hide my sadness and thoughts when i know there're there for me and the bruises, scratches are obvious.
yesterday, a love festival, i guess i'm the only pathetic one. everything went well but not the night. we were at esplanade for some chattings and theres a mini concert so we sat and listen. after some time, he told me that his friend would be meeting him over at his place and he is alr there. so we left the concert after about 2-3songs sang. but its true that the songs sang were boring for us. we went to the bus stop and waited for bus. then he suggested taking train which he will never because he always wanna spend more time tgt. he claimed that because the weather is humid and train will be faster and train might have seats. the thing is bus got higher chances to get seats because train is gonna be damn squeezy and going home by bus takes abt 35mins and train-then-bus is gonna take 45mins. i got no idea why he suggested this but to conclude that he wanna meet his friend sooner. which girl will be happy when your bf is rushing to leave you for his friends? however after he explained while shouting, i understood and wasnt angry anymore. but he still kept repeating saying that i'm very petty and said out all the past where i'm petty and always saying break easily. i didn't shout out the abusive part is alr being kind enough. i didnt talk back because i dont wanna further embarrass ourselves not knowing that he just kept repeating non stop, even till we got up the bus. alot of people were looking at us and i really felt like a pathetic shit. when we were up the bus, he continued saying non stop and its real loud that ppl can hear me and stuff. keep saying that im petty and alr 19 yrs old still saying break all the time (do you have any idea who made me do this)? alll he wanna do is to embarrass me but he didnt know he is embarrassing himself even more. he even go to the extent to insult my family. he is 20, who is childish here? he whined for real long till i say 'stop repeating alr can', he gave me 2 scratches on my neck. it hurts yes, but my heart definitely hurt more. i dont know if i should forgive him.
Just a day ago, he told me one of our friend, ts, whacked his gf real hard with alot of blood on the face and body. he kicked, punched, slapped and all. he said he is guilty, but the girl deserved it. he said i deserve it too. and he added, with the tone i give when quarreling and the unhappy face i give, i will get punches from him someday. what should i do? he is alr hinting me. i dont know if i can still trust him anymore. because i dont want the past to repeat, i suffered enough in the past.
i had enough. people keep advicing me to leave him but because i know i still love him, i dont have the heart to really ignore him and break up. i kept forgiving while the phrase 'leopard never changes its spot' is reflecting in my mind.
i am real clueless and have no idea what to do. i havent been contacting him since last night, can anyone help?
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summary pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee.
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if u insist on staying with him then be prepared to face the consequences. the answer to yr problems is obvious yet u choose not to take heed.
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Originally posted by alwaysdisturbed:
summary pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee.
bf likes to punch gf.
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i suggest breaking up with him before you end up in the coffin
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Originally posted by tripsky:
bf likes to punch gf.
thanks.
my advice. a relationship should never be like that. break off are the words.
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U have the choice, but u choose not to break up with this kind of jerk, I mean for real. Do u really wanna continue being with a guy who constantly beats u up? What kind of a man is he? I totally despise guys who abuse girls.
Let go of urself from the torment. U deserve someone much much better.
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His definition of love seems to be very far off from yours. In his eyes, you're probably just an item for him to own and abuse to his liking. If you keep letting him get his way, you'll only end up hurting yourself more, and he WILL become worse.
Love is blind, but c'mon, tear off your blindfolds. Are you sure you can carry on in this manner? You already know what will happen in the (very near) future.
I can go on and on and say loads more, we can spam posts in this thread convincing you to let go, but ultimately it depends on whether you have the strength to make the decision. At this stage, do you think you can change him? Or should he learn his lesson the hard way?
Forgiveness needs to have a limit.
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just dump him.
he's an asshole to be doing that to you.
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what else is there to consider seriously?
you like to be beaten up by him constantly - stay
don't like - leave
there's no love here.. maybe only from you
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dump him
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Wtf.
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Originally posted by tinuviel07:
what else is there to consider seriously?
you like to be beaten up by him constantly - stay
don't like - leave
there's no love here.. maybe only from you
She is in the state where she cant see the obvious.She wants something to be done abt it, but she cant leave him.
So she hopes, some miracle could make him change, so she wont have to leave him.
Sounds like someone damn familiar i knw.
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what TS need is someone to pull her away from it... volunteers?
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anw its best to leave him
cmon. this isnt called love. love doesent involve abuse.
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Love to be abused, is also called love wad.
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Break up break up . Since he cannot change then break up bah no point already . You want to die in his hands ?
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Originally posted by tinuviel07:
what TS need is someone to pull her away from it... volunteers?
No use one la.No matter how many ppl pull her away, she will go back one.
Hahah.
She have to walk away herself.
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Originally posted by seotiblizzard:
No use one la.No matter how many ppl pull her away, she will go back one.
Hahah.
She have to walk away herself.
We need to convince her 1st -
she can't walk away herself.. if she had the resolve, she won't be posting here..
so we have to do it by force
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Leave the matter to the police best . How to force .. later things get worst lol
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this is fucking insane, leave him now
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Originally posted by Komon:
Leave the matter to the police best . How to force .. later things get worst lol
police are.... ineffective at times..
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Originally posted by tinuviel07:
she can't walk away herself.. if she had the resolve, she won't be posting here..
so we have to do it by force
She just wanna whine.Come on la, if she wanna do it, its so obvious to just leave him.
We cant help.
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Originally posted by Komon:
We need to convince her 1st
Look, the facts are all out there, right in her face, need we convince her more, her bf is bad?