should i go ahead?or just give up/stay where i am.
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so this girl is from my class,shes not exactly what you call good looking but hell,every now and then i'll think of her and figure something to talk to her.like,when i alt-tab to msn,i'll just see her status and pm.ok crap i sound like a frigging stalker now.
i think she seems to figure out that i have some feelings for her and she doesn't give any signs whether she feels the same (well,according to me,i don't sense anything,maybe i' that ignorant).sometimes she'd be sarcastic to me but sometimes she'll initiate convos with me.
and hell,she likes to say "hey i tell you something ar" then when i asked her she'd say "nvm".ok,i have posted this part in another thread.
so it comes down to this:should i confess to her,or should i stay where i am or,simply give up?
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GO ahead! be a man, do the right thing???
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but hell just ask her out
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I say slowly slowly test water 1st la. Ask her go out makan, or walk walk. Say you need to buy something etc.
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Test water first la... see if she got like anyone not (do you already know anyting about this?)
Slowly since u see her in class everyday.. no worries. Try talking more to her in school lor, joke with her and her friends. Friends are very effective when it comes to courting girls. If her friends like ya, then u stand a higher chance.
Dont so kan jiong, too fast put her off, but too slow you might let it slip by.. you got to aga aga the time yaself... i will say 1-2 months time.
Jia you bei.. if go competition, then u put up ya socks and put in more effort
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if its yours, it will be yours...
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Originally posted by MaNyZeR:
Test water first la... see if she got like anyone not (do you already know anyting about this?)
Slowly since u see her in class everyday.. no worries. Try talking more to her in school lor, joke with her and her friends. Friends are very effective when it comes to courting girls. If her friends like ya, then u stand a higher chance.
Dont so kan jiong, too fast put her off, but too slow you might let it slip by.. you got to aga aga the time yaself... i will say 1-2 months time.
Jia you bei.. if go competition, then u put up ya socks and put in more effort
we just ended year one,that means i'll see her less often but she recently agreed to coming over to the church that i attend for service and all,well just happy to be able to see her and thanks for the advice. :)
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one piece of advice:
dont shit where you eat.
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ive heard tht advice many times too.
but its kinda hard to follow ya esp if u like the person.
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Originally posted by ifish:
one piece of advice:
dont shit where you eat.
sorry,but i dunno what it means. :S
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Originally posted by cApitaland:
ive heard tht advice many times too.
but its kinda hard to follow ya esp if u like the person.
agree.. especially when we spend too much time with that person at school/work
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Originally posted by eeden.:
sorry,but i dunno what it means. :S
This phrase means "do not have romantic relationships with any co-workers." Basically, you don't want to make yourself uncomfortable (by potentially having a romantic relationship get ugly, or "shitting") at the place where you work ("where you eat").Dude #1: "damn a really hot blonde just started working at my company. i'm gonna ask her out"
Dude #2: "dude, haven't you heard the saying: Don't shit where you eat?"copy directly from urbandictionary.com -
Originally posted by ifish:This phrase means "do not have romantic relationships with any co-workers." Basically, you don't want to make yourself uncomfortable (by potentially having a romantic relationship get ugly, or "shitting") at the place where you work ("where you eat").Dude #1: "damn a really hot blonde just started working at my company. i'm gonna ask her out"
Dude #2: "dude, haven't you heard the saying: Don't shit where you eat?"copy directly from urbandictionary.comoh thanks.
idk,like i know it's weird to like someone in my class,but...ah well.headache siol.
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Originally posted by eeden.:
so this girl is from my class,shes not exactly what you call good looking but hell,every now and then i'll think of her and figure something to talk to her.like,when i alt-tab to msn,i'll just see her status and pm.ok crap i sound like a frigging stalker now.
i think she seems to figure out that i have some feelings for her and she doesn't give any signs whether she feels the same (well,according to me,i don't sense anything,maybe i' that ignorant).sometimes she'd be sarcastic to me but sometimes she'll initiate convos with me.
and hell,she likes to say "hey i tell you something ar" then when i asked her she'd say "nvm".ok,i have posted this part in another thread.
so it comes down to this:should i confess to her,or should i stay where i am or,simply give up?
don't give up. go ahead. without much delay, tell her that you like her. there is nothing wrong in sharing one's feelings. if not anything she would appreciate the fact that you had the courage to ask. also, that's the quickest way to find out what's on a girl's mind.
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now it comes down to how to tell her lo.cos if i sms like kinda insincere and i'll also write like few hundred words just to say something simple.then cfm shy to tell her in her face. :S
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why not start by asking her out first? no need movie outing or anything.
just a simple drink at starbucks can work wonders.
it's easier than u thought!
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well if you are shy then writing to her would be the best idea, i think. why bother writing some hundered odd lines? just write that you like her and want to know if she feels the same for you. keep it short and sweet.
lastly, it's not something simple. proposing is not that easy, you know. particularly, if you are serious about the girl. anyway, you will soon find out ;-)
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Originally posted by Karma88:
but hell just ask her out
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Originally posted by outlander:
well if you are shy then writing to her would be the best idea, i think. why bother writing some hundered odd lines? just write that you like her and want to know if she feels the same for you. keep it short and sweet.
lastly, it's not something simple. proposing is not that easy, you know. particularly, if you are serious about the girl. anyway, you will soon find out ;-)
i just have this feeling that ts have not gone out with the gal alone. (school not included)
like that confess also no use. confirm get rejected unless the girl also got feelings for him.
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Originally posted by ifish:
i just have this feeling that ts have not gone out with the gal alone. (school not included)
like that confess also no use. confirm get rejected unless the girl also got feelings for him.
ok but how does one know if he/she has got the fellings? i mean thats why we ask, isn't it? to find out what the person feels.
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Originally posted by ifish:
i just have this feeling that ts have not gone out with the gal alone. (school not included)
like that confess also no use. confirm get rejected unless the girl also got feelings for him.
went out to study with her a few times,but that's ages ago.true,i haven't went out with her alone,unless you count going church as one,which i don't really think so,cos the members were like getting to know her and all,you know,the basic courtesy and stuff.
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Originally posted by outlander:
well if you are shy then writing to her would be the best idea, i think. why bother writing some hundered odd lines? just write that you like her and want to know if she feels the same for you. keep it short and sweet.
lastly, it's not something simple. proposing is not that easy, you know. particularly, if you are serious about the girl. anyway, you will soon find out ;-)
writing as in email or?omg im so noob at confessing lol.
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yes
be a man
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Originally posted by eeden.:
writing as in email or?omg im so noob at confessing lol.
email?! i don't think so. better write her a letter/small note or best present her a greeting card. it's up to you. good luck!
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ok,i'll be meeting her on sat for some movie outing (churchwide),so prolly gonna do that on that day.thanks!
