Is this cheating?
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Was very upset recently and I really don't know what to do. My bf brought a tourist friend from some other country to visit Sentosa beach. He did not inform me about this and I only got to know of it aft viewing his camera. There was a self taken shot whereby the girl put both her arms around my bf waist, the other i saw him putting his hand on her waist. He claimed it's self taken so they have to be this close. They were in bikinis and he is in board shorts only. I confronted him, he did say sorry but this is not solving the problem. The thing is he seldom bring me out for date and now he is bringing someone else out though she's a visitor. Have I been over reacting or what? Aft that I hung up on him and he did not call back. It has been almost 2 days :(
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Foreigners especially Western ones are more liberal.
Friends kiss each other on the cheeks as a form of greeting.
This is nothing.
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Meet him up and have a good talk to clarify your doubts first.
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No la.
Ask him la.
Thrash it out.
Why u ask us instead of confronting him??
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Not westerners. China girl. I don't want to call him again. I mean, I'm trying to let him know this is a serious problem
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lol china girls.talk to him la,at least try to understand the situation better.
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Originally posted by dreamy1:
Not westerners. China girl. I don't want to call him again. I mean, I'm trying to let him know this is a serious problem
This means that you care for him, then the more you should communicate with him. -
If what you mentioned is not cheating, then what is?? And he even has the cheek to try and "explain" it.
Come on, get a better guy.
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Wtf. Cb. China Again. -.-"
I think u shld call him, thrash it out with him, get a better understanding of the whole situation. U shld let him knw its serious by TELLING HIM. Instead come here and ask us, we wont knw wad happen wad.
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Confront like seoti said. If you never, hes more likely to dump you for the "visitor".
I got feeling and a big hunch, ur bf going to make excuse got meeting till 11 at night....
Get another Guy, Don't give up a forest for a tree.
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this ppl have bad impression about china girl.
think she after ur bf for singapore PR.
there are onli 2 option for u if u discover the girl let ur bf makan.
1. close 1 eye walk away.
2. stab the guy then drug the girl let us makan.
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Originally posted by dreamy1:
Was very upset recently and I really don't know what to do. My bf brought a tourist friend from some other country to visit Sentosa beach. He did not inform me about this and I only got to know of it aft viewing his camera. There was a self taken shot whereby the girl put both her arms around my bf waist, the other i saw him putting his hand on her waist. He claimed it's self taken so they have to be this close. They were in bikinis and he is in board shorts only. I confronted him, he did say sorry but this is not solving the problem. The thing is he seldom bring me out for date and now he is bringing someone else out though she's a visitor. Have I been over reacting or what? Aft that I hung up on him and he did not call back. It has been almost 2 days :(
GOOD LUCK?
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As I’ve said, I’ve already confronted him. And that was what he answered. Probably we’ve not talked enough about our problem. But I was thinking I should wait for his call. If he’s sincere in apologizing, he will call right? If not he’s nt sincere?
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Originally posted by dreamy1:
As I’ve said, I’ve already confronted him. And that was what he answered. Probably we’ve not talked enough about our problem. But I was thinking I should wait for his call. If he’s sincere in apologizing, he will call right? If not he’s nt sincere?
How old are you?
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20
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tell him
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Originally posted by dreamy1:
As I’ve said, I’ve already confronted him. And that was what he answered. Probably we’ve not talked enough about our problem. But I was thinking I should wait for his call. If he’s sincere in apologizing, he will call right? If not he’s nt sincere?
Then move on.
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time to move on.
limpper cannot tell him that. wait he takes it as permission to do it how?
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move on
and give him a bitch slap 1st
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Ok, Probably I will call him tonight to talk it out again. You guys think its better for me to move on?
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yes
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the problem with you gals is that you think the world revolves around u.
it doesnt matter who did what or whos to blame.
if either party feels that there is a problem in the r/s then just speak out and try to resolve the issue.
its crap when you say he is not sincere cause he didnt call. did you try to call him? no! so why blame him?
if he what he did with that gal is totally innocent, im sure he is really dissapointed and sad about being accused.
If you cant accept what he did, whatever the reason he did it for. then no point starting this topic.
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If ti doesn't work out... just move on
No use clinging onto something which does not even work in the long run.
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Skeujin, So u mean he could be innocent despite what I saw. I know I could be oversensitive. Well, I’m open to different views and that is why I’m starting this. Cos I thought he is in the wrong, so he should take initiative. But of course I will consider what u say n think it through.
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Originally posted by dreamy1:
Skeujin, So u mean he could be innocent despite what I saw. I know I could be oversensitive. Well, I’m open to different views and that is why I’m starting this. Cos I thought he is in the wrong, so he should take initiative. But of course I will consider what u say n think it through.
He may be innocent or he may be guilty. Fact is that people make mistakes but make sure you make your decision based on facts n not assumptions.
Different people have different viewpoints for every issue. Being in a R/S means you have to adapt n try to understand your partner'e feelings and actions.
Sometimes people do things at the spur of the moment without thought for his/her partner only to regret it later. Ask yourself, did he apologise or at least sound sorry?
Communication is the most important thing a R/S should have. Lose it and all is lost.
If you dont convey your emotions and thoughts to your partner. All he knows about you is from second guessing and that will only have a 50/50 chance of being right. Im almost sure your r/s is pretty new. You dont know each other that well, if you dont communicate, there will be more complications to come.
I am not defending him but mayb this tourist is a very old friend from his past, in this current day n age, even strangers hug when taking a pic. Even if they were just normal friends, would you brush your fren off if he was to put his arm around u when your taking a pic?
If he is cheating on you, good for you that you found out early n kick the bastard outa your life.
But before you make your decision, COMMUNICATE.