friendship that spells END
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Originally posted by solafine:
in the ferst place why would i have an issue with someone i barely noe? ok truth is i dun hev any prob wit the girl, but i do hev a prob wit my fren instead. i dun agree wit him jumpin into a relationship wit a girl to soon after bein rejected by the girl that he likes. you see the prob is; i dun quite like the idea that this new girl il only be a temporary phase where now i see her wit us, later i wont be seein her anymore... and the bigger prob is, be it her or any other girl, to be used as a tool/rebound to mend a broken heart is a total unacceptable
I ask u, can u actually claim you love A soon after bein rejected by B?
What makes u so sure tat this r'ship wll not work? What makes u so sure tat this gal is being used?
Let's assume tat she is being used by ur fren in order for him to get over his hurt, well, it takes two hands to clap.
Why are you being uncomfortable abt if you do not have any issues with both parties??
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hi ts why don't you jus go along with the flow and accept her as a friend too?
ok let's assume yr friend is really making use of her but who knows maybe he would end up falling for her... love is weird u noe
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if he really do fall for her of course i il be happy for them..
like i said i gt no issue wit her... i can be her friend no doubt but i nd time to acknowledge her as ma friend's girlfriend. to have her in our circle w/o havin the thot that she gonna be dump soon. and until they are really confrm together... yes i deserve to feel displease havin her ard. displease - Not wit her but wit my fren himself.
he got no stand and i feel like slappin his face now!
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how can u be so sure she will get dumped?
if so, i would like you to give me winning lottery numbers.
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itis just an evil thot ........ dun tel me u never had one..haha
if i gt the ability i be rich by now.
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i have evil thoughts about other things. even if i have any that involves my friends, i don't say it because that's what it is. just a thought.
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"i don't say it because that's what it is. just a thought."
........and i only happen to speak out ma thot a tad too loud then
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this should help
remember to remove during mealtimes
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Originally posted by solafine:
Thks keii. that is very insightful :) and im sure of the whole situation. it's all platonic. No romantic feeling involve here.
Mr Andrew, yes im kaypoh for that matter. I shud have just sit one corner, smoke one side while watchin him do all his mistake.. watch him drop to the ground and do nothin but watch him only..... that shud be fun.. I suppose that is the kind of friend we should all be from now on...
Thank you all for the kind input but the quest now is not bout how i feel for him and whether i shud start question my platonic rs wit him.. but the thing is now.. how do i tell him that im not comfortable havin his gf at our usual hangout yet.. i nd time to adjust to it without hurtin his feeling... as we all noe: Men and Ego; they are inseparable
After reading your replies, I believe you are mature enough to understand your feelings, or at least cope with it.
When things happen, sometimes we cannot do anything about it. What I assume, positively, Andrew would mean is that, he needs to get a slap in the face or take a fall in order to learn.
It is a learning process which one must go through in order to realise, no matter how much advice or suggestions have been thrown around.
By you being uncomfortable of her intrusion to a special place shared by you and him. You just need to tell it to his face. Be tactful. You understand about men and their egos, which is good, so be subtle.
Any relationship, be it platonic, family, friends, lovers, whatever, any human relationship requires constant communication.
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Give the guy a break. He just got rejected. It hurts.
Male or female, rejection is something we carbon based lifeforms find it difficult to accept. We are not ferrous atomic structured beings which cannot feel beyond its metallic frames.
We are chemical bio beings with the ability to sense, see, touch and feel. We are only human, male or female, with self esteem.
He just wants to feel wanted. Be it a random girl or anyone of the female sex. But not from you. You are probably just like 'one of the guys' to him. And guys would never want to develope the kind of feeling one feels for the opposite sex with another guy.
It's a guy thing. Girl, back off. Before you destroy the friendship both of you had built up. Give him support and let him find his own way. You cannot decide what is right or wrong for him.
Totalitarism is no way to continue a relationship. Be a safety net for him if you truly care. Help in anyway you can to build up his sored self esteem, not by words but by actions....but as you are a 'guy', stand back.