My guy just wont work hard for our future..Haiz..Any advice?
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Originally posted by Pigkazhu:
letting go is alw never been easy.. we hv bn 2ger for 3 yrs plus. i hope one day he'll wake up. i'm getting real tired, i dun even want to save up now. he knows i'm earning more than him, but does tat means he do not need to do wat he's supposed to?
First identify if letting is not easy because you love him or because it's your comfort zone.Usually, they don't wake up
If he was serious about the future he would have already started saving up without you having to worry.
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break up
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Yeah, this requires a lot of discipline.
Alternatively, can opt for saving plan like My Saving Account fm POSB? Do they still hv it? Or fixed deposit.
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Originally posted by Pigkazhu:
He cant save up.. He alw claim he got no enough $ to use..
But he wants to get married and get a flat.. Only me scrumble to save the tiny bits.. Its not gg to be enug.. Wat shld i go?
Suggest to buy insurance saving plan or the standard money saving account.
buy one each for house, car, children education ... LOCK the money future use.
Ask him to pick up "financial quotient" FQ concept.
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Originally posted by Pigkazhu:
He cant save up.. He alw claim he got no enough $ to use..
But he wants to get married and get a flat.. Only me scrumble to save the tiny bits.. Its not gg to be enug.. Wat shld i go?
Better not. He seems like using you for Everything of his life. Girls Should try and look for independent Guys, So that you have a sense of security. Just Find another Guy will be much better. Probably like a Parasite.In another case scenario, if you love Him like Yourself, then Follow parn's comment.
Originally posted by parn:
No problem, you can always work more jobs then it will be enough for both of you.
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You have been together for three years & he hasnt change a tiny bit? Wat makes u think that he will change after marriage? U want to take tat risk? Using ur life's happiness??
I have been & seen similar incidents where the women stayed by their men's side for at least two years, some woke up & move on. The others, like u, even tho' tired of their men's behavior, still hopin that they will change after marriage. After marriage, some of them cant take it any longer, they decided to move on. While some of the women toil on, still grabbin the hope. In the end, they have children & aged, and their then useless boyfriend now, useless husband has not change a teeny bit. But it's oready too late, cos those women has given up everything to a faint hope tat their man will change.
Is that what you want?
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Imagine married life with him- no security, having to slog to pay bills & him having it easy? Better tell him to start saving or else leave him. No future if he doesn't change
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Originally posted by Pigkazhu:
letting go is alw never been easy.. we hv bn 2ger for 3 yrs plus. i hope one day he'll wake up. i'm getting real tired, i dun even want to save up now. he knows i'm earning more than him, but does tat means he do not need to do wat he's supposed to?
why hope for one to wake up when u can go find one that is awake in the 1st place?
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sounds like my friend =.='''
she even resort to opening joint savings a/c with her BF..monthly contribution of a few hundred per person..& just when they managed to save up to a small amt..the guy initiated to "touch" their joint savings a/c for other usage..
is gonna be a never ending problem..
so it end up like both of them quarreling about the same recurring issues...
is either u give him a last chance to repent or simply walked off in search of another guy..
btw, my friend & her guy together for 2yr+ & the guy still haven't change..
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he loves puffing and drinking more than you?