Im lost at what to do...
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always remember the chinese saying that a good horse never eats grass behind it....hao ma bu chi hui tou chao......hope to see ya in the forum again....
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Sigh.....still cannot ah?
My tots are same as Yunhaier...
Friend. Jia You.
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hope to c me in forum? thout im always here??Originally posted by harryryan:always remember the chinese saying that a good horse never eats grass behind it....hao ma bu chi hui tou chao......hope to see ya in the forum again.... 
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thanks...i will perserve on....hopefully....Originally posted by M©+square:Sigh.....still cannot ah?
My tots are same as Yunhaier...
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I ex had those thought of yours too....Originally posted by hopy:thanks...i will perserve on....hopefully....
i kinda understand that it's hard to forget...but i'm a guy. I also understand that when it's over....it's not easy to get it back.
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It's too late and not advisable to turn back now, I think... But think y do u stil think that u miss him? Do u really miss him, or do u missed the feeling of being loved and cherished by someone u love?
This guy is not worth your devotion in this r/s. If he can throw u away juz like that, what makes u think u 2 can continue on if u go back to him? He may juz break your heart another time.
Be strong and firm, and juz accept that this r/s is over. No use crying over split milk. Look ahead and carry on with your life.
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this is my personal opinion. if u find all of it worthwhile to get together again, fight for it. go all out to get what u wanted. BUT remember this... in the event where u have lost or things did not turn out what u expected to be---> Never look back and never have regrets..
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just in case that u deicde to leave the forum entirely to prevent thinking about the past.Originally posted by hopy:hope to c me in forum? thout im always here?? -
nah...this forum kindof friendly and offer gd n sound advises...so how could i leave?Originally posted by harryryan:just in case that u deicde to leave the forum entirely to prevent thinking about the past.
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tt's the pro...dun know if i shld 'fight' for it anymore...at one hand i kindof hope to be able to fight 4 it...but on the other hand, im really scare of being hurt by him again...unless he learned the 'art' of commitment and appreciation...Originally posted by man12:this is my personal opinion. if u find all of it worthwhile to get together again, fight for it. go all out to get what u wanted. BUT remember this... in the event where u have lost or things did not turn out what u expected to be---> Never look back and never have regrets..
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i did...6mths ago....but today...im still like tt...Originally posted by eagle:It's too late and not advisable to turn back now, I think... But think y do u stil think that u miss him? Do u really miss him, or do u missed the feeling of being loved and cherished by someone u love?
This guy is not worth your devotion in this r/s. If he can throw u away juz like that, what makes u think u 2 can continue on if u go back to him? He may juz break your heart another time.
Be strong and firm, and juz accept that this r/s is over. No use crying over split milk. Look ahead and carry on with your life.
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i am in this situation now.. whereby she dun appreciate me but i'm still holding on . i was hoping one day she'll come round but like i said never regret wht u did no matter how things turned out. i am prepared to give up even a simple platonic friendship if things turned sour. if she dun appreciate the things what i did as a bf then she won't even appreciate me as a fren. thus i would rather not have a fren like her to hurt and haunt me for the rest of my life.. may sound harsh but i would be better off with ppl who acknowledge my effort than giving me attitude most of the time.
the decision is up to you.. an advice dun make the same mistake like what i'm doing now. i love her too much to see her throw her life away.
i am not a saint, i'm just a nobody who loves her that much to go thru all this suffering which may not have a happy ending. -
read my post .. u may get a better idea of what i'm going thru..(title: she's driving me nutz!!)
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HOPY... 1 month plus of NON-COMMUNICATION is not really a long time... For some others it might take up to YEARS before they can get on with their lives (though usually with a scar left behind...)....Originally posted by hopy:Hi pple...
guess some of u might know that sometime ago, i had the pro of unable to let go of a r/s that had ended...it has been 4mths later that i decided to hv 100% no communication w/ him and now it has been ard 1mth+
now here is the pro, after all these times, i still find that i still long 4 him, miss him etc and somehow this is giving me a hard time...i mean, despite the fact that i actually hv many things to do, frds to go out w/ etc, i still miss him!
so now what shld i do? shld i continue to hv 100% no communication w/ him...will i really get over it? or shld i try to hv him back? but 1 thing is, i dun 1 to hv a r/s where im not appreciated...coz some of my frds told me, if he really cherish u, he will come looking 4 u...but tt doesn't seems to be the case and i dun 1 to put myself in any of such situtation where i felt tt he dun value me...but at the same time, there is the saying which goes, u shld fight 4 ur own happiness...
wat shld i do???
My ADVICES for you :
1. It's OVER. You like it OR NOT, you FACE IT or not.... You KNOW it or not.... The FACT is... It's OVER.... He TOLD you in your face... You might have OTHER thoughts... It MIGHT mean other things...? But the FACT is... IF you couldn't accept this in your face, whatever's presented to you and said to you would be totally MEANINGLESS... Do you REMEMBER the day when you've lost a loved one...? This FACT is as good as that.... OVER....
2. You THINK TOO MUCH... In and out of a relationship you THINK TOO MUCH.... When in a relationship you constantly think of the IMPOSSIBLES and POSSIBILITIES.... When OUT of it, you still does the SAME.... If you know what's good for you you should try WORKING HARD to change this BAD HABIT of yours so that you can look forward to a more fruitful return (note not necessarily a SUCCESSFUL one..) for your next relationship....
3. You shouldn't be FORCING yourself to BREAK communication with him... It's a SIMPLE FACT... You don't talk to the DEAD.... ONCE LOST no matter if the person is alive, dead or nowhere to be found.... You don't 'force' yourself to do such things... You would only be REMINDING yourself MORE of him and letting your IMAGINATION run WILD the more often you do this.... The FACT that you couldn't suceed in forgeting him is probably attributed by this IMPORTANT FACTOR.... -
hey,if u keep coming back to read other pple's reply....will you get more sad?cos like pple u don't know already so concerned about you but ur other half.....
it's time to say enuff is enuff..... let go of this relationship n move on with ur life. -
As much as you expect him to change for you.. He expect you to change for him....?Originally posted by hopy:tt's the pro...dun know if i shld 'fight' for it anymore...at one hand i kindof hope to be able to fight 4 it...but on the other hand, im really scare of being hurt by him again...unless he learned the 'art' of commitment and appreciation... -
Originally posted by Devil1976:
if i dun force myself to be away fr him...im afraid tt i will sink even deeper into it...
[b]HOPY... 1 month plus of NON-COMMUNICATION is not really a long time... For some others it might take up to YEARS before they can get on with their lives (though usually with a scar left behind...)....
My ADVICES for you :
1. It's OVER. You like it OR NOT, you FACE IT or not.... You KNOW it or not.... The FACT is... It's OVER.... He TOLD you in your face... You might have OTHER thoughts... It MIGHT mean other things...? But the FACT is... IF you couldn't accept this in your face, whatever's presented to you and said to you would be totally MEANINGLESS... Do you REMEMBER the day when you've lost a loved one...? This FACT is as good as that.... OVER....
2. You THINK TOO MUCH... In and out of a relationship you THINK TOO MUCH.... When in a relationship you constantly think of the IMPOSSIBLES and POSSIBILITIES.... When OUT of it, you still does the SAME.... If you know what's good for you you should try WORKING HARD to change this BAD HABIT of yours so that you can look forward to a more fruitful return (note not necessarily a SUCCESSFUL one..) for your next relationship....
3. You shouldn't be FORCING yourself to BREAK communication with him... It's a SIMPLE FACT... You don't talk to the DEAD.... ONCE LOST no matter if the person is alive, dead or nowhere to be found.... You don't 'force' yourself to do such things... You would only be REMINDING yourself MORE of him and letting your IMAGINATION run WILD the more often you do this.... The FACT that you couldn't suceed in forgeting him is probably attributed by this IMPORTANT FACTOR....[/b] -
hai...thout such things expected 1 mahOriginally posted by harryryan:hey,if u keep coming back to read other pple's reply....will you get more sad?cos like pple u don't know already so concerned about you but ur other half.....
it's time to say enuff is enuff..... let go of this relationship n move on with ur life.
love...when it comes, no matter what u cannot run away...
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its funny how u would always tell pple to wake up while u let urself sink in deeper each time...Originally posted by man12:i am in this situation now.. whereby she dun appreciate me but i'm still holding on . i was hoping one day she'll come round but like i said never regret wht u did no matter how things turned out. i am prepared to give up even a simple platonic friendship if things turned sour. if she dun appreciate the things what i did as a bf then she won't even appreciate me as a fren. thus i would rather not have a fren like her to hurt and haunt me for the rest of my life.. may sound harsh but i would be better off with ppl who acknowledge my effort than giving me attitude most of the time.
the decision is up to you.. an advice dun make the same mistake like what i'm doing now. i love her too much to see her throw her life away.
i am not a saint, i'm just a nobody who loves her that much to go thru all this suffering which may not have a happy ending. -
Well, I would put in the way that don't be too soft hearted...
Be strong... life's not necessary to be without him.....
[color=darkred]I'm kept in the darkness but I'm still searching happiness
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me too... to me. she is the most beautiful person i've met, inside and outside. its hard to let go, i'm scared once i let go, thats the end... i'll lose her forever, she tries hard to remain as friends, contact me and such. but i always shy away from her, cuz i am really scared to become friends, cuz i know friendship never last.. and i'm scared
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Just LIVE YOUR LIFE and DON'T THINK TOO MUCH... If you're sinking even further into the relationship that way, you're probably not doing it the right way....Originally posted by hopy:if i dun force myself to be away fr him...im afraid tt i will sink even deeper into it...
He's just THOUGHT on your mind... Kinda like a TUMOR... Causes MIGRAINE every now and then so that you have to pay attention to it.... It DOESN'T grow... UNLESS you decide to FEED your attention to it...?
It's YOUR LIFE... You DECIDES if you wanna WASTE it this way...?