I will make things short, i have a gf for 3 yrs, we never had any sexual r/s. I am an auditor getting my masters this is my last semester. I admit i neglect her as i had to juggle work n studies but i do make a point to date her twice a week.
One day she call me crying saying that she had know a guy and had sex with him. She was intending to ditch me, buit she realise that guy is actually married. She lost control on that day and i guess thats why she blurt all the things. She beg for my forgiveness.
I can never forgive her but i cannot stand her sms every single day and everytime i read it i can concentrate. So i did a terrible thing i tell her i will forgive her but in my heart i told myself i will ditch her after my masters exam.
We date once or twice a week, i never hold her hands anymore as i feel its dirty. I became so bad temper can anyone help me
end it now.
Wah fifi I posted the same reply but faced an error. Must be you delete the duplicate thread that's why. Haha.
Anyway TS, I was typing: End it once and for all.
Originally posted by thickskin23:I will make things short, i have a gf for 3 yrs, we never had any sexual r/s. I am an auditor getting my masters this is my last semester. I admit i neglect her as i had to juggle work n studies but i do make a point to date her twice a week.
One day she call me crying saying that she had know a guy and had sex with him. She was intending to ditch me, buit she realise that guy is actually married. She lost control on that day and i guess thats why she blurt all the things. She beg for my forgiveness.
I caZIn never forgive her but i cannot stand her sms every single day and everytime i read it i can concentrate. So i did a terrible thing i tell her i will forgive her but in my heart i told myself i will ditch her after my masters exam.
We date once or twice a week, i never hold her hands anymore as i feel its dirty. I became so bad temper can anyone help me
Dude, why are you still in a relationship with her ?
Are you afraid of being alone ?
Being in such a relationship cannot be good for both of you .
So, just set yourself free.
Originally posted by thickskin23:I will make things short, i have a gf for 3 yrs, we never had any sexual r/s. I am an auditor getting my masters this is my last semester. I admit i neglect her as i had to juggle work n studies but i do make a point to date her twice a week.
One day she call me crying saying that she had know a guy and had sex with him. She was intending to ditch me, buit she realise that guy is actually married. She lost control on that day and i guess thats why she blurt all the things. She beg for my forgiveness.
I can never forgive her but i cannot stand her sms every single day and everytime i read it i can concentrate. So i did a terrible thing i tell her i will forgive her but in my heart i told myself i will ditch her after my masters exam.
We date once or twice a week, i never hold her hands anymore as i feel its dirty. I became so bad temper can anyone help me
meet her in person, and over a coffee, tell her honestly that deep inside ur heart, u still felt betrayed, then tell her 'lets part ways'
you play 2nd fiddle. a mere replacement item to her over a failed relationship with that married man.
if she's able to almost ditch u cause of him. she's nt worth ur time
Its always said that a guy cannot bear his girl to be in bed with another guy while a girl cannot stand a guy whose heart is not with her. Guys cannot bear it if they loss the physical body of the girl while girls cannot stand to loss the feelings and love of a guy.
I would say it depends on how much you love her. Its hard to accept that she slept with some other guy before but if u do love her then you should give her a chance and if you don't just breakup, don't be such a selfish asshole and lie to her to dump her later.
i am not a selfish asshole, i am having exams, i just dun wan to receive sms like "i will commit sucide" etc as i still have feelings, i just wan to settle things after my exams.
Originally posted by dkcx:Its always said that a guy cannot bear his girl to be in bed with another guy while a girl cannot stand a guy whose heart is not with her. Guys cannot bear it if they loss the physical body of the girl while girls cannot stand to loss the feelings and love of a guy.
I would say it depends on how much you love her. Its hard to accept that she slept with some other guy before but if u do love her then you should give her a chance and if you don't just breakup, don't be such a selfish asshole and lie to her to dump her later.
but to think TS control his sexual urge thoughts for perhaps e.g. consummating on the wedding day, and the girl just happily got fucked by another man, made worse is that that man is already married, will make TS or another one in a similar situation thinking thrice about the girl's faithfulness and loyalty in valueing a relationship...
Originally posted by thickskin23:i am not a selfish asshole, i am having exams, i just dun wan to receive sms like "i will commit sucide" etc as i still have feelings, i just wan to settle things after my exams.
Just ignore her sms or even off your phone if shes that irritating. No point leading her around and with this on your mind, i don't think you can concentrate too well anyway.
say bye to her. if it were me and i decide to be cold... shoo shoo.
Originally posted by Rednano:
but to think TS control his sexual urge thoughts for perhaps e.g. consummating on the wedding day, and the girl just happily got fucked by another man, made worse is that that man is already married, will make TS or another one in a similar situation thinking thrice about the girl's faithfulness and loyalty in valueing a relationship...
Regardless of situation, how many guys dare say they can accept it if their gf are sexually unfaithful to them while they were in a relationship?
If it was ever so easy, i am not selfish, i just dun wan any more shock, my hands is still trembling as i am typing this.
be smart... dump her.
she didn't value nor respect you in the first place...
she only comes back to you when she's in trouble, what are you? just something to fallback on? being the boyfriend isn't like plan B if A fails.
Originally posted by thickskin23:If it was ever so easy, i am not selfish, i just dun wan any more shock, my hands is still trembling as i am typing this.
Just dump her and ignore her sms then. Just saying shes wants to suicide etc is common and she won't do it. As what a counsellor will say, only people who give u a detail plan of how they intend to commit suicide should be paid serious attention since they have thought of the entire process. People who just say they will suicide etc are much less likely to do it.
Originally posted by dkcx:Regardless of situation, how many guys dare say they can accept it if their gf are sexually unfaithful to them while they were in a relationship?
certainly not me, of cos... i oso cant accept. i sure to dump her...
sick.
singlehood is the best, if you want others to help you, help yourself first.
Originally posted by thickskin23:i am not a selfish asshole, i am having exams, i just dun wan to receive sms like "i will commit sucide" etc as i still have feelings, i just wan to settle things after my exams.
thick,
Relax, she is just trying to manipulate you.
Next time she send you msg about killing herself.Simply reply this " If you keep harrassing me, I will kill myself first".
Does she knows you are having exams ?
I apologise as just now i am still recovering from the shock so i miss out writing some things. I am trying to help myself now, thats why i am in this forum doing things instead of letting my thots wander.
I am grateful to all of your replies, i only told her we will talk after my exams which is next month as i knew she will say things that will hurt me. I just dun wan any more shock going to my final sem, i am not selfish or sick i am just protecting myself from the shock.
Good luck for your exams then. Try to put her aside and focus on your studies so as not to disappoint the rest around you who have high hopes for you.
Mayeb she is really sincere, test her out.
Yup.
Concentrate your exams first.
Yeeek so DIRTY !
You will be a rich auditor with a good future.
You deserve better girls than this =)
Originally posted by thickskin23:I apologise as just now i am still recovering from the shock so i miss out writing some things. I am trying to help myself now, thats why i am in this forum doing things instead of letting my thots wander.
I am grateful to all of your replies, i only told her we will talk after my exams which is next month as i knew she will say things that will hurt me. I just dun wan any more shock going to my final sem, i am not selfish or sick i am just protecting myself from the shock.
When you tell her you will only talk after the exam.. you are essentially just stringing her along. You are giving her false hope.
Give her a clear cut answer. If she wants to throw a fit, it's her right to do so. There is nothing much you can do.
The relationship died the night she slept with that man ( married or not it doesn't matter).
Frankly, when a woman sleeps with another man and tells you what she did, there is only one thing she wants out of it...to hurt you.
Surely, she cannot expect more love to come out of this confession.
So let this go, don't go into self denial.. face the problem head on.
Trying to hide the problem by delaying the outcomes.. only torments the both of you.
When love is gone.. it's gone. Perhaps you are just trying to vindicate what she did to you. But I can assure you, it's not worth it at all.