in a real dillema with this relationship
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currently . i am in a relationship with this guy , he has got this god brother who is close with him . he treats him really nicely despite they quarrelled at times . we were together for 4 months plus coming 5months alrdy and we only quarrelled once . and since that quarrelled , he treats me really coldly . i dont know what to do .i envy his god brother when they both are so close when they were infront of me . and sometimes i am very reluctant to let him hold my hands when i really wish that he could hold my hands . and we nve really hugged each other before .i love him alot and i really really love him more than i love anything else . bt i dont know what can i do to make us closer . can anybody tell me what to do ?
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In love, communication is the most important. Go talk to him. Tell him u feel that he is treating you coldly and ask him why is it so. If he says you're too sensitive, then don't think about it anymore. Also let him know by telling him u love him alot. If he loves you too, he will definitely do it by action or words too. That way, without even trying, your relationship will improve.
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love isn't about holding hands or hugs....you are not in love....you may think you are but your are only experiencing a hormonal rush....
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Originally posted by nanren4ever:
In love, communication is the most important. Go talk to him. Tell him u feel that he is treating you coldly and ask him why is it so. If he says you're too sensitive, then don't think about it anymore. Also let him know by telling him u love him alot. If he loves you too, he will definitely do it by action or words too. That way, without even trying, your relationship will improve.
atucally , i dont know how to talk to him about this matters . i dont really know how to start a topic about it atucally . [:
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Originally posted by dukedracula:
love isn’t about holding hands or hugs….you are not in love….you may think you are but your are only experiencing a hormonal rush….
hmm . i know tht love isnt about holding hands or hugs . i know tht i love him .if not can you tell me what is love about ? how thn i know tht i am in love?
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time will tell.
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break up
he's gay
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u mean you think your bf is actually gay??????
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ur bf is fucking below 16 izzit???
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Originally posted by gigabyte14:
ur bf is fucking below 16 izzit???
wah .
fuck when below 16 ?
must fuck above 16
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Originally posted by sinicker:
u mean you think your bf is actually gay??????
hmm . i dint think that he is a gay [: he is a perfect guy [:
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lol u mean u like gays?
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hmm, when a guy who in love definitely will wish to hold hands w/ his gf.......... I cannot believe you two never hugs after together for 5 mths! If you said ur bf is straight, then i think he more to a type of guys who treats 'brother' better than gf/girls. If not, he actually not really love you.
My advice is you two have a good talk and be clean with him no need to beat around the bush will tell you how u feels. Don't drag if you feels uncomfortable wth this r/s. Most important is to stay happy! :-)
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Huh? I dont understand wtf u saying sia.
Ur BF is gay ah?
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what can possibly do 2 young people in relationship for almost 5 month if they don't hug/hold hand?
What make you say you're a couple? Do you kiss sometimes?
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Good bro la.. u know . Sometimes we do make the gf jealous seeing the guys so good with each other. lol!
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Originally posted by LookingGd:
hmm, when a guy who in love definitely will wish to hold hands w/ his gf.......... I cannot believe you two never hugs after together for 5 mths! If you said ur bf is straight, then i think he more to a type of guys who treats 'brother' better than gf/girls. If not, he actually not really love you.
My advice is you two have a good talk and be clean with him no need to beat around the bush will tell you how u feels. Don't drag if you feels uncomfortable wth this r/s. Most important is to stay happy! :-)
thank you for ur advice lookinggd !
hmmm . we did hug at certain points of time . bt after 5months . we hugged for less than 5 times [: i agree with you for the one that you says that he treat brothers better than gf .
i will try my best to have a good talk with him der
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hmm, singlehood is the best.
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Originally posted by MyLord_L:
what can possibly do 2 young people in relationship for almost 5 month if they don't hug/hold hand?
What make you say you're a couple? Do you kiss sometimes?
yea . we kiss sometimes . we did most of the couples will do the things except for that sort of things la . [:
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I am a guy too but cannot understand he didn't hug you after together for 5months?
He gay or what??? Or did you two just "play play" only?
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Originally posted by AG82:
I am a guy too but cannot understand he didn't hug you after together for 5months?
He gay or what??? Or did you two just "play play" only?
he is not gay AGB2 [: we did hug , over the 5mothns . bt its less than 5 times .
i believe we are not play play be serious der
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i understand that matters of the heart this topic can be hard to bring up this topic. However i'm sure you would not let this continue right? if you are serious about this relationship, i suggest that don't let this drag on. imagine he is in your position and not talking to you abt it, you will feel like "why not just talk abt it in the first place right?"
i still believe that communication plays a part in your relationship. The first step is always hard to take. Once you get through that, you will find it easier to take the 2nd and third step. jia you ba.
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U want him to be closer to u, why bother who he relates to or what he does, u can be loving,u can be kind,u can be compassionate and most of allow him to be ( real love frees another) and if he is present to his being he will be present to urs and your presence, if he is not, how can he appreciate u, how can he see u: the bird of paradise only sits only on an open palm!
Enjoy, appreciate while he is in front of u, tomorrow, let it come as it comes, of course, it is on the premise of u being secure within, otherwise anxiety attacks lor
these are merely suggestions, u are u, and if it resonates with u - embrace otherwise lump it
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Originally posted by `vonielewer:
hmm . i dint think that he is a gay [: he is a perfect guy [:
So if he is not gay and you are not a man so wat is the real problemo? -
I dun see a problem at all, the problem lies with u.