What have you learn from your friendship??
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Originally posted by CannyOng:
I think singapore lifestyle is too hectic. Maintaining frienship is quite tough.
You need to spend a big time of yr life maintening yr career and then u need to find gf/bf and patoh. And u still need to spend some time for yr family,right?
Where got more time for friends?
it depends on wat you give time to?
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Life would be lonely & unfulfilling without real, sincere & loyal people by your side. I'm an independent person myself & like solitude too, but life would be too empty & meaningless, not to mention one-dimensional if it's all about you!
Having friends make you see your weaknesses & strengths. How you can improve yourself, develop tolerance for each other's quirks, provide support & so much more. They reflect to you the type of person you are. (This only pertains to REAL friends)
I have experienced a lot of FAKE people before. I've been disappointed too. But throughout all that, I'm lucky enough to have known 3-4 dear people. I've known one of them for over 12 years!
Of course, none of us are perfect, as I've realised. So sometimes, we should have compassion for each other's small quirks or minor faults. What's most important is his/her heart-sincerity, loyalty, love
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i have one friend who purposely say never study so other people also wont study. hes also the kinda person who will sabo you just to be better than you.. so i am only a "hi bye " friend with him..
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Originally posted by Redster:
i have one friend who purposely say never study so other people also wont study. hes also the kinda person who will sabo you just to be better than you.. so i am only a "hi bye " friend with him..
Ya, with frens like these, you don't need enemies!! lol -
Originally posted by ItchyArmpit:
i have learnt that.... nv commit into a friendship, nv trust ur friends, nv joke too much, nv be too nice, always betray ppl, solitude is better than crowding, do not get influenced by them, and must always be selfish
this is the thing i have learnt after getting hurt and betrayed and left in the lurch for dunno how many times...
IA
yesh man... I had to learn the hard way too.. Your so-called friends just start giving you the cold shoulder for no good reason!! But thankfully, i stil have a FEW true friends so that I wun hate the world.
Hmm.. but dun betray people and be selfish for the sake of it la itchyarmpit.. what goes around comes around you know..
Nonetheless, i think what I've learnt when it comes to meeting new people is to not be too nice (else people will think ya a pushover!!), never let your guard down nor put yourself down in front of others. Cos first impressions count! If you dun respect yourself, dun expect people to respect you too. So dun blame them for treatin you like crap.
Just my 2 cents worth
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Originally posted by MissZ:
Life would be lonely & unfulfilling without real, sincere & loyal people by your side. I'm an independent person myself & like solitude too, but life would be too empty & meaningless, not to mention one-dimensional if it's all about you!
Having friends make you see your weaknesses & strengths. How you can improve yourself, develop tolerance for each other's quirks, provide support & so much more. They reflect to you the type of person you are. (This only pertains to REAL friends)
I have experienced a lot of FAKE people before. I've been disappointed too. But throughout all that, I'm lucky enough to have known 3-4 dear people. I've known one of them for over 12 years!
Of course, none of us are perfect, as I've realised. So sometimes, we should have compassion for each other's small quirks or minor faults. What's most important is his/her heart-sincerity, loyalty, love
Yep, I prefer to 'walk alone, I walk alone~' most of the time too cos I believe that the whole world can fail me but not myself.
Nonetheless, no man is an island so we still need friends too in the times when we do fall..
We may hate our 'friends' sometimes since tt's easy to see the faults of others. however can we see the faults of ourselves? No right? (I'm guilty of this too.sigh) So I'll always remember what a dear friend said, Instead of trying so hard to make people love you, try to close an eye and love people instead and we'll end up much happier
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i learnt that friends and money really cannot go together.
i lost a friend over $80.
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Originally posted by Her_Alter_Ego:
Yep, I prefer to 'walk alone, I walk alone~' most of the time too cos I believe that the whole world can fail me but not myself.
Nonetheless, no man is an island so we still need friends too in the times when we do fall..
We may hate our 'friends' sometimes since tt's easy to see the faults of others. however can we see the faults of ourselves? No right? (I'm guilty of this too.sigh) So I'll always remember what a dear friend said, Instead of trying so hard to make people love you, try to close an eye and love people instead and we'll end up much happier
all friends are human and they are perfect, of coz they will fail you.
i also do that sumtimes. i somehow tell myself that even if the whole world ignore me, i would not ignore myself.
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Originally posted by dumbdumb!:
i learnt that friends and money really cannot go together.
i lost a friend over $80.
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Originally posted by Her_Alter_Ego:
yesh man... I had to learn the hard way too.. Your so-called friends just start giving you the cold shoulder for no good reason!! But thankfully, i stil have a FEW true friends so that I wun hate the world.
Hmm.. but dun betray people and be selfish for the sake of it la itchyarmpit.. what goes around comes around you know..
Nonetheless, i think what I've learnt when it comes to meeting new people is to not be too nice (else people will think ya a pushover!!), never let your guard down nor put yourself down in front of others. Cos first impressions count! If you dun respect yourself, dun expect people to respect you too. So dun blame them for treatin you like crap.
Just my 2 cents worth
Hey, u're rite! Unfortunately, some 'people' just like to take advantage
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Originally posted by Her_Alter_Ego:
!!!! that's sad..sigh, initially i was pissed with the money.
but he's fun la, online he's rather reliable. it's just upsetting to know that he blocked me in msn when i hounded him for the money. =(
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Originally posted by dumbdumb!:
sigh, initially i was pissed with the money.
but he's fun la, online he's rather reliable. it's just upsetting to know that he blocked me in msn when i hounded him for the money. =(
HE owes U $, n now he's trying to avoid u?! So shameless..At least should tell u now can't pay, later when got $ then pay u lah.. -
Originally posted by MissZ:
Hey, u're rite! Unfortunately, some 'people' just like to take advantage
Nvm la. I'm sure retribution will come back to bite them in their butts! -
Originally posted by MissZ:
HE owes U $, n now he's trying to avoid u?! So shameless..At least should tell u now can't pay, later when got $ then pay u lah..dunno la. sigh
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Originally posted by BadzMaro:
Dun worry, u will have lots of friends to bail u out.
But how many are willing to go with u all the way.. cause he believe in what u do is right and wont let u go at it alone.
Aint gonna let u go down in a blaze of glory alone. Its go at it together, n out together.
Or die trying.. now THATS BROTHER man..
Thats what i meant by 'we fucked up' .
thats bull, all the times i could "get out" i stuck by with my "friends" so that they won't go down alone only to have the same people step on me to "get out of jail free" and then giving me advise like "you would have done the same if you were me, its nothing personal"
people you trust as friends, those close enough to regard as family, all doing the same thing and giving me the same bullshit.so i'm pretty much of the same view as ItchyArmpit.
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Originally posted by dumbdumb!:
sigh, initially i was pissed with the money.
but he's fun la, online he's rather reliable. it's just upsetting to know that he blocked me in msn when i hounded him for the money. =(
got the same experience as you but with a much bigger amount, difference being i'm not upset when he block me off facebook. it only gave me an excuse to stop behaving as a friend making things much worse for him.
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Originally posted by Redster:
i have one friend who purposely say never study so other people also wont study. hes also the kinda person who will sabo you just to be better than you.. so i am only a "hi bye " friend with him..
That is not friend. U shall call him 'classmate' only... -
thank you, brainy has made alot of friends here in forum.
will be back sometime, someday :)
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Originally posted by oldbreadstinks:
thats bull, all the times i could "get out" i stuck by with my "friends" so that they won't go down alone only to have the same people step on me to "get out of jail free" and then giving me advise like "you would have done the same if you were me, its nothing personal"
people you trust as friends, those close enough to regard as family, all doing the same thing and giving me the same bullshit.so i'm pretty much of the same view as ItchyArmpit.
Well, obviously those arent ur true friends man.. you go through fire, you go through shit to come out knowing who are ur true friends. U dont make same mistakes with the same people again. If they can do it once, they can do it again. So why still 'hang' with em.
I got tons of friends man... from school to drinking friends to golf buddies to business partners to colleagues. There will be at least.. 1 .. in each of these that will burn your ass or help your ass. Thats just how it is. N thats just how u weed em out.
I have strong belief in this concept because it has worked out for me. When u got friends willing to go all the way with u, even if it means jail, like in court, at the witness stand, u know they are ur true friends. N it really touched me to know that yes i still got these bros out there that regard me as highly as i regard them. You build up on these relationships.
Unfortunately, i dun think i have much online friends. So i dunno is it a good thing or bad. Maybe because you cant go through the trials n tribulations with these online people, so i dun have any true online friends at all.
Like i said, your character n attitude attracts what kind of people to and around you.
So i hope you will find ur true friend/s oneday. Because it is really sad not to have any at all.
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Originally posted by dumbdumb!:
i learnt that friends and money really cannot go together.
i lost a friend over $80.
i lost a friend over $100... lol
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dumbdumb!: Your friend avoid you because he cannot pay back $80? $80 dollars is not alot of money that type of friend who would not want to you pay back. Very Strange.
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I think there is anything to learn from friendhips is what u really are, the other is just a catalyst to wht u are, secondly, being a real friend is doing and being what u are , n if u have parted with something - dont crow about it and most of expect something in return, to use one as a means to his/her own end is not being a friend but simply using. ... no one likes to be used. Hence, give, share but when u have an agenda or some disguised expectations - please, u are just a beggar in the guise of an emperor/empress, applies to love also lar
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read the wisdom of johnny kong
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Originally posted by CannyOng:
I think singapore lifestyle is too hectic. Maintaining frienship is quite tough.
You need to spend a big time of yr life maintening yr career and then u need to find gf/bf and patoh. And u still need to spend some time for yr family,right?
Where got more time for friends?
.....hectic lifestyle is not a good reason not to maintain your friendship. E-mail. IM or handphone' smses are easily available. Don't require much time to send a simple message right? No time or busy life is just an outdated excuses...