concerning sex in relationship
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hello all,
I have just gone steady with a girl, it is my first relationship and all is going fine, we are happy together but there is a problem that has been bothering me for a few months,ever since I got to know her.
let me state that I am a straight male and like ordinary people I experience lust, the problem I face is that I have almost no sexual feeling towards my girlfriend although she is reasonably attractive by my own standards. I am not sure what is wrong but I can rule out impotency since I still have a need to watch pornography .Also, I am only attracted to women and know for sure that I am not homosexual.
This has not affected our relationship as she is against pre-marital sex but nonetheless I find this troubling for obvious reasons.
I am wondering if this is a case of an overly suppressed oedipus complex whereby feelings of lust and love are not allowed to overlap.
Sorry if this seems complicated...
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I don't think its normal and good to always have sexual feelings whenever you see your gf since that leads to unwanted trouble. Personally i feel that in a relationship, love is more important than sex so if u still love her then it should be fine.
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ur gf? -
It all starts like that.
Then you begin to notice your school buddy Tommy.
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Originally posted by charlize:
It all starts like that.
Then you begin to notice your school buddy Tommy.
his arms, his calves, and when his sweat trickles down his chin.... ooooohhhhh...
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okay... I'm sorry but I have to ask the comedians to leave... allow me to keep this thread serious, thanks.
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Guys... This is AA not your crapping forums...
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Originally posted by sinicker:
his arms, his calves, and when his sweat trickles down his chin.... ooooohhhhh...
You should stop snickering at that....
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dont have sex, if she disagree..
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if u two one sex one time if u dun wan or she dun wan, kiss can lia0
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Oedis Complex.. where lust and love not allowed to overlap ?
Interesting...
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Originally posted by malevolent:
okay... I'm sorry but I have to ask the comedians to leave... allow me to keep this thread serious, thanks.
think just give me ur gf for a few hours let me go out with her.
if i experience same thing, then it's her. otherwise, it's you. -
not homo, not impotent, watch porn, but have no sexual thought on your gf even though gf's attractive by your own standard...and love and lust cannot overlap?
Also, gf against pre-M. sex.....
My question, SO what if you have sexual thoughts about your gf and dead beat seriously wanna bed her?She's against pre.M sex...
And if love without sex is considered as true or pure love......someone really got to wake up....
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conflicting.. confusing...
you don't want to have sex with your gf and she's against pre-marriage sex... no issue ar.
As long as you don't start having sexual thought with guys... no issue ar.
What's the issue har?
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Do you have no s-xual thoughts on your g-rlfriend or on g-rls in general?
If you have thots on other g-rls but not on your gf, then i think you might potentially have some issues.... at the end of the day, i think some form of s-xual attractions is required....between the two parties.... but things might change once u two get intimate....
as for whether you have no attractions on g-rls in general, that is another problem.. maybe uhave low s-x drive....
Did you guys have any other forms of intimacy? like kissing, necking, petting?
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Do you have no s-xual thoughts on your g-rlfriend or on g-rls in general?
If you have thots on other g-rls but not on your gf, then i think you might potentially have some issues.... at the end of the day, i think some form of s-xual attractions is required....between the two parties.... but things might change once u two get intimate....
as for whether you have no attractions on g-rls in general, that is another problem.. maybe uhave low s-x drive....
Did you guys have any other forms of intimacy? like kissing, necking, petting?
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Originally posted by malevolent:
hello all,
I have just gone steady with a girl, it is my first relationship and all is going fine, we are happy together but there is a problem that has been bothering me for a few months,ever since I got to know her.
let me state that I am a straight male and like ordinary people I experience lust, the problem I face is that I have almost no sexual feeling towards my girlfriend although she is reasonably attractive by my own standards. I am not sure what is wrong but I can rule out impotency since I still have a need to watch pornography .Also, I am only attracted to women and know for sure that I am not homosexual.
This has not affected our relationship as she is against pre-marital sex but nonetheless I find this troubling for obvious reasons.
I am wondering if this is a case of an overly suppressed oedipus complex whereby feelings of lust and love are not allowed to overlap.
Sorry if this seems complicated...
"I am wondering if this is a case of an overly suppressed oedipus complex whereby feelings of lust and love are not allowed to overlap." ....
!!!!! .....oedipus complex ? ..... your mom ? ......
you need to see a shrink dude .....
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Originally posted by malevolent:
hello all,
I have just gone steady with a girl, it is my first relationship and all is going fine, we are happy together but there is a problem that has been bothering me for a few months,ever since I got to know her.
let me state that I am a straight male and like ordinary people I experience lust, the problem I face is that I have almost no sexual feeling towards my girlfriend although she is reasonably attractive by my own standards. I am not sure what is wrong but I can rule out impotency since I still have a need to watch pornography .Also, I am only attracted to women and know for sure that I am not homosexual.
This has not affected our relationship as she is against pre-marital sex but nonetheless I find this troubling for obvious reasons.
I am wondering if this is a case of an overly suppressed oedipus complex whereby feelings of lust and love are not allowed to overlap.
Sorry if this seems complicated...
You said: "but nonetheless I find this troubling for obvious reasons".
What obvious reasons? Name them and we will see if it is troubling to you only and obvious to you only or to everyone.
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Gone steady. Wahahahahahaha. ROFL.
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its not at all complicated.what u have is insecurity due to yer future with singapore n u probably know u might not go anywhere with how the economic failures of singapore.its not at all hard to see whats goin to affect yer social -economic enviroment.
u probably feel u arent worth your steady because frankly there is no future with the 2 of u with singapore annd its economic failures,,,past...present and the future.
STOP KIDDING AND FOOLING YOURSELVES.
if u intend to maarry her u must have sex with her or she will leave you in the coming future,,,not now...not the near future but soon.sounds familiar????
its all up to u if the place u wanna live in is a fertile ground but u must have sex with her and make sure the country u seek is a better one with better future for both of you.
just dun end up pregnant....and seek a better place soon or else.
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Originally posted by Gattlinggun2000:
its not at all complicated.what u have is insecurity due to yer future with singapore n u probably know u might not go anywhere with how the economic failures of singapore.its not at all hard to see whats goin to affect yer social -economic enviroment.
u probably feel u arent worth your steady because frankly there is no future with the 2 of u with singapore annd its economic failures,,,past...present and the future.
STOP KIDDING AND FOOLING YOURSELVES.
if u intend to maarry her u must have sex with her or she will leave you in the coming future,,,not now...not the near future but soon.sounds familiar????
its all up to u if the place u wanna live in is a fertile ground but u must have sex with her and make sure the country u seek is a better one with better future for both of you.
just dun end up pregnant....and seek a better place soon or else.
Is your entire world just filled with sex and nothing else? Seems like all you think of is having sex with girls and nothing much else...
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maybe the problem is that you're attracted to women, not girls. Do you see the difference? How old are you both?
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Maybe its a form of respect. I've always wondered when i truely am in love with a girl why i'm not really keen on having sex with her. It could be that you respect her wishes for no pre-marital
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Originally posted by Fatum:
"I am wondering if this is a case of an overly suppressed oedipus complex whereby feelings of lust and love are not allowed to overlap." ....
!!!!! .....oedipus complex ? ..... your mom ? ......
you need to see a shrink dude .....
You may want to read up more on it, you'll learn something
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Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:
You said: "but nonetheless I find this troubling for obvious reasons".
What obvious reasons? Name them and we will see if it is troubling to you only and obvious to you only or to everyone.
like gatlinggun2000 said, if you don't have much of a sex life in your marriage it might suffer