concerning sex in relationship
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At least you know that you won't treat your gf as a piece of sex object. Let nature takes it due course, when the situation calls for it, I believe you'll be able to execute it. =D
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Originally posted by MyLord_L:
maybe the problem is that you're attracted to women, not girls. Do you see the difference? How old are you both?
we are both undergrads
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Originally posted by SquishMwee:
You may want to read up more on it, you'll learn something
oh ? .. you mean it's not the "want to posesses your mom, kill your dad" kind of thing ? ...
okie ... how about you tell me ? ....
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Originally posted by malevolent:
hello all,
I have just gone steady with a girl, it is my first relationship and all is going fine, we are happy together but there is a problem that has been bothering me for a few months,ever since I got to know her.
let me state that I am a straight male and like ordinary people I experience lust, the problem I face is that I have almost no sexual feeling towards my girlfriend although she is reasonably attractive by my own standards. I am not sure what is wrong but I can rule out impotency since I still have a need to watch pornography .Also, I am only attracted to women and know for sure that I am not homosexual.
This has not affected our relationship as she is against pre-marital sex but nonetheless I find this troubling for obvious reasons.
I am wondering if this is a case of an overly suppressed oedipus complex whereby feelings of lust and love are not allowed to overlap.
Sorry if this seems complicated...
maybe, just maybe .... it's your porn watching that's the problem ...... you know .... some people who watch too much porn turn into voyeurs .... they can only get their rocks off wanking off while watching other people do it ... but they can't get themselves off as an active participant .......
worth a shot, no ? ....
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mebbe ur gf is the cute cute type lo
then ur didi oni responds to hot babes
hahaha!
got diff one leh!
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AFter reading the thread I wonder what is the issue. Funny. Why want to count the chickens before hatched????
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Originally posted by Fantagf:
AFter reading the thread I wonder what is the issue. Funny. Why want to count the chickens before hatched????
performance anxiety ..... they say it happens to some virgins ....
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good luck
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Originally posted by malevolent:
hello all,
I have just gone steady with a girl, it is my first relationship and all is going fine, we are happy together but there is a problem that has been bothering me for a few months,ever since I got to know her.
let me state that I am a straight male and like ordinary people I experience lust, the problem I face is that I have almost no sexual feeling towards my girlfriend although she is reasonably attractive by my own standards. I am not sure what is wrong but I can rule out impotency since I still have a need to watch pornography .Also, I am only attracted to women and know for sure that I am not homosexual.
This has not affected our relationship as she is against pre-marital sex but nonetheless I find this troubling for obvious reasons.
I am wondering if this is a case of an overly suppressed oedipus complex whereby feelings of lust and love are not allowed to overlap.
Sorry if this seems complicated...
Malevolent,
You are not ab-normnal.
It's just that... you are watching too much porn.
The feelings you have towards porn is different from the feeling you have for your girlfriend.
You may experience lust when you watch porn and because of your upbringing, you probably feel in your heart that lust is un-pure.
But because you respect and love your girlfriend.. you want to maintain that pure feeling with her.
There is nothing wrong with your relationship. Just enjoy the companionship, that's wat truly matters.
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that is good.
keep it up. virgin rulez
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take a chill pill
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Malevolent,
You are not ab-normnal.
It's just that... you are watching too much porn.
The feelings you have towards porn is different from the feeling you have for your girlfriend.
You may experience lust when you watch porn and because of your upbringing, you probably feel in your heart that lust is un-pure.
But because you respect and love your girlfriend.. you want to maintain that pure feeling with her.
There is nothing wrong with your relationship. Just enjoy the companionship, that's wat truly matters.
I guess you're right.
Thanks for the replies, I won't be coming back to this thread anymore.
btw... this is malvolent... i logged into this account by mistake.
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clone.. man.. i wonder how many newcomers have multiple accounts.
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I wonder if u love the person in front of u as she is or u are in love with the image in ur head and projecting it on her. Secondly, if u are emotionally stifled cos of societal, parental, family and political conditioning - u are in denial - the inner voice has to be yours, not the four .... love is always a subjective trip n making it into an object kills