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I think you've became a Premier Member too because you've joined the survey..? Should utilise your extra functions...?Originally posted by oh oh:Erm.....Ms plain, i always believe in this.....u get what u plant.
Ur the one who wanna be responsible and not wanna be with him.........ur also the one that says that you love him and not ur current bf.
I am a guy. in the "him" position,
if i were to get the same respond that you gave, saying that u wanna be responsible. then i would do the same thing and cut out all communication with you. cause that what you said that u wanna do!
Personally, i would feel that ur just plain selfish and indecisive. make up ur mind and stick with it.
I suggest u break off now and tell the other guy that u love him. if i were him, i will be touched. i feel that he still loves u and this is hurting him too......but he just wanna respect ur earlier decision.
The current relationship ur having now will never be the same again........i have fallen for another.....
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how ??? hahahaha i also joined in the "newbie fall-in" thread leh
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so who initiated the break up in the first place?if it's him...i can tell u he has definitely found someone new....otherwise,he won't have done so....guys not dumb one ok?
they always find someone better before they break up with you....every time u r crying ur hearts out...he is out there with another girl....it's not worth it to get sad cos of him....
show him that u can lead a better life without him.
stop thinking about him...ok?
next time there is an outing,just come along n meet more frens
i think u r just feeling lonely cos ur world was centred round him...u just fill the void too hard to fill -
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I wasn't given any time at all... to tell him everything.. he just avoid me and keep avoiding... I still remember there was a time something happen to him, I was so worried but I was stopped by my friends from calling him... I cried... I begged.. then i was able to make a call to see if he's fine...
I ever tell him if he really loves me like what he said... pls give me time... to settle everything but no... it's not what I have requested...
Heart broken.....
Please don't think I'm selfish... I'm not... I just wants to make things gd for everyone...
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it is obvious he was toying with your feelings n he has found someone new...but he could not bring himself to tell u cos he know he was in the wrong...not cos he still has feelings for u but cos he is afraid things might get sticky n you might threaten to kill urself or something.....Originally posted by plain:I wasn't given any time at all... to tell him everything.. he just avoid me and keep avoiding... I still remember there was a time something happen to him, I was so worried but I was stopped by my friends from calling him... I cried... I begged.. then i was able to make a call to see if he's fine...
I ever tell him if he really loves me like what he said... pls give me time... to settle everything but no... it's not what I have requested...
Heart broken.....
Please don't think I'm selfish... I'm not... I just wants to make things gd for everyone...
he wants u out of his life but he is afraid to bear the consequences...eg..like ur frens standing up for you n staff like that.So he just avioded you....
he is not worth it....
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HI Plain,
I think it is not being very fair to the guy you love now. He has been with you and supporting you all along when you have problems. And frankly speaking, he doesn't mind treating you well despite the fact that he know you have a bf. And he doesn't expect anything return from you. What he is doing is pure and sincere. But do you know how much emotional holdbacks he has to go through by thinking of how you are going out with your bf? Do you think he can really take it when you tell him stuffs about you and your bf but yet, he also likes you? Just think about it. I don't mean to be hash but I really feel that you are confused.
Just imagine that after you confess to him that you like him, he feel really happy. He want to be with you all along but he know it is not right for this situation. That was why he ask you to choose between your current bf and him. I can sense his sufferings. He want to be with you but yet, he knows that what you are doing is wrong. He do not want to be unfair to you of your bf. That was why he want you to choose. But what did you tell him? You cruely told him that you will not leave your bf but yet, you loves him. So, what do you think he will feel? What are you treating him as? You treat him just like a spare tyre. When you feel moody, he will be there for you. But when you are with your bf, he can only suffer in silence. Do you still think you are right?
If you really loves him now and want to be with him for the rest of your life, just pick up your courage and explain to your current bf. It will be much fairer to your current bf and yourself. Just imagine that you love the guy and the guy loves you. This involve two parties and at least the two of you will be happy together. Your bf should understand that if your heart is no longer with him, it is of no point to hold you back. But if you choose to remain with your current bf but loves the guy, all the three of you will suffer together.
I have been through it and that was why I can understand how the guy feels. Just pick up your courage and choose the person that you truely love. Follow your heart. -
yo. dun make such a sweeping statement can.Originally posted by harryryan:so who initiated the break up in the first place?if it's him...i can tell u he has definitely found someone new....otherwise,he won't have done so....guys not dumb one ok?
they always find someone better before they break up with you....every time u r crying ur hearts out...he is out there with another girl....it's not worth it to get sad cos of him....
show him that u can lead a better life without him.
stop thinking about him...ok?
next time there is an outing,just come along n meet more frens
i think u r just feeling lonely cos ur world was centred round him...u just fill the void too hard to fill -
imho, i think all these debate is getting way out of hand. all along you people are only talking about the 'guy' (the friend) and not the bf.
spare a thot for the poor guy. all these while he's in the dark and he has this misconception that his gf loves him and wants to get engaged with him, but in actual fact, his gf is only staying with him because she cannot get over herself. her consience will prick her if she leaves him for the 'guy'.
please ms plain. let go of your bf now. do not torture him anymore. short pain is better than long pain. at the very least, i believe he deserves to know the truth. -
Yup. I totally agree with Jeramy.
Your bf needs to know the truth and how you feel towards him now.
Unless you still love your current bf, then I guess you will have to decide who you want to be with for the rest of our life. I mean let's me honest. Although we do not know what will happen in the future, but I presume that most of us want our relationship to last forever.
That was why in order to be fair to the three of you, if your heart is already with the new guy, just follow your heart and talk to your bf. He should understand that it's no point for him to keep you physically with him and not your heart.
Please pick up your courage and let your current bf know how you feel. And at the same time, try to talk to the guy again. If he is really worthy of your love and he really loves you, he will be more then happy to be together with you.
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My bf knows what is happening...Originally posted by darrendon:Yup. I totally agree with Jeramy.
Your bf needs to know the truth and how you feel towards him now.
Unless you still love your current bf, then I guess you will have to decide who you want to be with for the rest of our life. I mean let's me honest. Although we do not know what will happen in the future, but I presume that most of us want our relationship to last forever.
That was why in order to be fair to the three of you, if your heart is already with the new guy, just follow your heart and talk to your bf. He should understand that it's no point for him to keep you physically with him and not your heart.
Please pick up your courage and let your current bf know how you feel. And at the same time, try to talk to the guy again. If he is really worthy of your love and he really loves you, he will be more then happy to be together with you.
"Jia You"!
