What to do now, She is not yet married , but engaged already. No i need to do something about it.i have thoughts of separating both of them. Theirs is not love marriage but arranged.
wrong topic. fail.
Originally posted by Birla:What to do now, She is not yet married , but engaged already. No i need to do something about it.i have thoughts of separating both of them. Theirs is not love marriage but arranged.
if you separate them, you are evil

Originally posted by Birla:What to do now, She is not yet married , but engaged already. No i need to do something about it.i have thoughts of separating both of them. Theirs is not love marriage but arranged.
Does she agree with what u think? If yes. Ask her to do something.
She must take action before u can proceed yr legal move.
just make sure u do something
who cares? i got 3 married lover at the same time b4... now maybe left with 1.... so... just fuck and forget lah.. if not u will be like mi... drinking now just trying to forget them......
Separating them... you sure that's what you want to do?
Time is the essential here...
If you're really that into her, my feel is that you should wish the best for her. In the event her marriage fails, then stepping in will be good for both of you.
Still, you have to wait for quite some time before anything happens between the both of you. Even without love, she's likely to feel morally obliged to her broken marriage. Unless she is someone who changes at the drop of her hat, then good for you.
Originally posted by Birla:What to do now, She is not yet married , but engaged already. No i need to do something about it.i have thoughts of separating both of them. Theirs is not love marriage but arranged.
get a grip on your ego
Pls lor! there is no happy ending!
U have fallen, its ok, but if u remain fallen- u remain a beggar, rise in love and u are being an emperor - u will share what u are (u are rich within n not looking for rewards or there is an absence of expectations), if not u are just being a beggar. as to wheter she is married or engaged - its her predicament - u would only be breaking up .. if ur desire is to own her, make her yours - then its probable tht u are masquerading needs and the need for validation by ....
Its strange that u profess love and yet u stance is divisive - so its for u to be honest not with anyone but urself and reconcile to the raging storm within u - otherwise its going to be misery for not only her but eventually yours to expereince. Sharing misery is not love, sharing is abundance flowing from within! It presupposes u are 'rich' within if not its all a fruitless trip - cos it will eventually crash and burn - if it does not, one loves out of need, or one loves out of obligation, the latter (two) are insidious to any ....
i ask her before, she said she engage him because parents ask her to.And also she said, because of social pressure to marry successful man.
I have limited time to win her over to my side but i must make sure she forget about him.
So i guess he is successful ? So what u got.. love ? lol
This kind of battle is hard man.. quite tough. Mentally straining also. But seriously though, what do u got ? Ur charm ? heh... if u think u can be the one for her, n can give her the love and happiness, chiong man. Good luck. May the best man wins.
does she even loves you in the first place?
I tell it is strange how my story is like one tamil movie - Minnale (translated :The lightning)

Minnale ( translated :The lightning)
Blog Post
21 October 2004
Minnale, oh..it still strikes me now as lightning as much as it did in 2001. This movie which was a stylised hollywood type of indian romance was an insanely huge box office hit a few years back for its story and music. Its success prompted bollywood producers to remake the show in Hindi. Cineindia reported that this gem of a movie set the cash registers rolling in Sathyam Theatres of Chennai. The story was conceived by a debutant director Gautham Menon and a first time music composer Harris Jayaraj, has composed brilliant music that made even AR Rahman sit up and notice. The soundtrack was released months before the film and became widely talked about. Most importantly, Minnale marked the coming of the Gautham- Harris combination as a potent force in the industry for the years to come. Minnale was one of the most successful tamil movies of the 2000s and inspired a slew of similar movies in the years after.
Review
17th May 2001
A shrewd street punk (Maddy) who likes a girl (Reema) at first sight, and wanted to woo her. Unfortuntely,this girl is a very practical person who doesnt believe in love , and who wants to settle down in life and have kids. Unknown to Maddy, she is already engaged to someone arranged by her parents she hasnt even met before .Our hero goes to meet her on a casual date. She thinks that her fiance has come to meet her in disguise.
She plays along thinking its her fiance. He plays along making up extravagant stories about himself to impress her .
They date for 10 days and the shocking truth comes out when her real fiance arrives and says he could not make it for the meeting with her the other day because of work commitments.Our hero finds out that the person she is engaged to , and him have the same name and to meet our girl on the same day.....
Reema then thinks that Maddy has cheated her by impersonating as her fiance whom she is to meet on the same day he appeared. Feeling betrayed and angry with Maddy, she tells him off not to see her again ever. Maddy was just unlucky that fate played him around but he didnt meant to cheat her . He became a circumstantial victim of coincidence. But the both of them could not forget the 10 days they were together . She realised that in those 10 days within herself, there is a strange feeling called LOVE. Beneath the deep resentment and extreme prejudice, Reema finally manages to acknowledge that life is not about marrying a successful and rich man , and that life is about marrying someone u really love and wish to spend the rest of that life with.
First time director Gautham Menon has some interesting camera angles and generally the quality of the film is top notch. The subtle nuances and attention to detail makes one wonder the directional capabilities of this promising newcomer. The songs were tastefully done especially Vaseegra, and the music of Harris Jayaraj , a newcomer musician gives AR Rahman, the king, a serious challenge. There is an uncanny resemblance to Rahman many will agree but though the music is original and fresh, it hooks on one instantly and before u realise it , u reach for the repeat button on your hi-fi after the addiction gets into u. Minnale is well worth your time and movie ticket. Energetic,vibrant and full of LOVE.
Just like the movie : I have spent some time with her and she enjoyed my company.
just a slightly different story.
Originally posted by BadzMaro:So i guess he is successful ? So what u got.. love ? lol
This kind of battle is hard man.. quite tough. Mentally straining also. But seriously though, what do u got ? Ur charm ? heh... if u think u can be the one for her, n can give her the love and happiness, chiong man. Good luck. May the best man wins.
I dont know , but i managed to capture her attention, And it seems she is thinking about something and very interested in what i had to offer...
As for the engagement part i know it is real. But it is not a formal ROM. Some traditional acknowledgement made between parents on both sides
But i can tell u indian girls marry for love mostly , and those who dont, do it for a variety of other reasons like eg. Parents pressure, Social expectation, Face
Love is replaced by fame and wealth is a fact we can't deny. However there are many other successful stories out there too.
woah. this looks more of an ad for a tamil movie then of a story of agony.
To yourmotherrr, wish i could disagree , but what u mentioned is sad, but true . Very perspicacious n insightful of u
U see in our culture, a woman is considered "married" even though she is not lawfully ROM.
There is still time left to change her mind. It seems that she is making a big mistake by marrying for reasons other than love, she is good looking and should not be a prob to find suitors.
I am trying to changer her mind about this guy. For all u know the guy may also not be mr love but for her looks.
Originally posted by Fugazzi:To yourmotherrr, wish i could disagree , but what u mentioned is sad, but true . Very perspicacious n insightful of u
it is not a ad, some of u may seen this show before, it was aired a few times on local tv, and it is quite well known when it was released.
when i see ur first post; arranged marriage.
i noe she is an indian.
nowadays, wer got such thing????
There still is!
But the prob is our local gals grow up under materialism just seems to fuel it further!
Originally posted by Birla:I tell it is strange how my story is like one tamil movie - Minnale (translated :The lightning)
Minnale ( translated :The lightning)
Blog Post
21 October 2004
Minnale, oh..it still strikes me now as lightning as much as it did in 2001. This movie which was a stylised hollywood type of indian romance was an insanely huge box office hit a few years back for its story and music. Its success prompted bollywood producers to remake the show in Hindi. Cineindia reported that this gem of a movie set the cash registers rolling in Sathyam Theatres of Chennai. The story was conceived by a debutant director Gautham Menon and a first time music composer Harris Jayaraj, has composed brilliant music that made even AR Rahman sit up and notice. The soundtrack was released months before the film and became widely talked about. Most importantly, Minnale marked the coming of the Gautham- Harris combination as a potent force in the industry for the years to come. Minnale was one of the most successful tamil movies of the 2000s and inspired a slew of similar movies in the years after.
Review
17th May 2001
A shrewd street punk (Maddy) who likes a girl (Reema) at first sight, and wanted to woo her. Unfortuntely,this girl is a very practical person who doesnt believe in love , and who wants to settle down in life and have kids. Unknown to Maddy, she is already engaged to someone arranged by her parents she hasnt even met before .Our hero goes to meet her on a casual date. She thinks that her fiance has come to meet her in disguise.
She plays along thinking its her fiance. He plays along making up extravagant stories about himself to impress her .
They date for 10 days and the shocking truth comes out when her real fiance arrives and says he could not make it for the meeting with her the other day because of work commitments.Our hero finds out that the person she is engaged to , and him have the same name and to meet our girl on the same day.....
Reema then thinks that Maddy has cheated her by impersonating as her fiance whom she is to meet on the same day he appeared. Feeling betrayed and angry with Maddy, she tells him off not to see her again ever. Maddy was just unlucky that fate played him around but he didnt meant to cheat her . He became a circumstantial victim of coincidence. But the both of them could not forget the 10 days they were together . She realised that in those 10 days within herself, there is a strange feeling called LOVE. Beneath the deep resentment and extreme prejudice, Reema finally manages to acknowledge that life is not about marrying a successful and rich man , and that life is about marrying someone u really love and wish to spend the rest of that life with.
First time director Gautham Menon has some interesting camera angles and generally the quality of the film is top notch. The subtle nuances and attention to detail makes one wonder the directional capabilities of this promising newcomer. The songs were tastefully done especially Vaseegra, and the music of Harris Jayaraj , a newcomer musician gives AR Rahman, the king, a serious challenge. There is an uncanny resemblance to Rahman many will agree but though the music is original and fresh, it hooks on one instantly and before u realise it , u reach for the repeat button on your hi-fi after the addiction gets into u. Minnale is well worth your time and movie ticket. Energetic,vibrant and full of LOVE.
Just like the movie : I have spent some time with her and she enjoyed my company.
nice movie, where can i waatch it?