I have fallen for married woman
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u got any advice?
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Since she is engaged, you should just stop doing anything about this and after a while, you will forget about her.
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i cannot do it.
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cannot do it, then do you have the guts to go to her husband and ask him to let you have her??
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Originally posted by Birla:
i cannot do it.
You can't forget her, then you have to do something about her..Is the feeling mutual?
Either get a grip on yourself, have a plan or forget her..
Wish you all the best though, Birla
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it is not you cannot do it, it's you don't want to do it.
She is getting married. let them start to love each other.
and YOU stop! you must forget her and give her your blessing instead.
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its true that she is engagaged, but her heart is not with the guy. I need to educate her and let her realise that heart matters most, not economics.
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How can i give blessing when i know that the whole affair is superficial, and not about true love.
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ltr her husband whack u...
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service her and wait for her hubby to find out?
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wad would u feel if ur wife kena service by someone else???
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You kept on talking about love. But from what I have read, it seems you don't really love her. You want her to do something that will disgrace her family, put her in a difficult position and make her go through all the agony just because you want her for yourself. Thats just too selfish. If you love her, I suggest you walk out into the open and settle it like a man. Talk to her family and her fiancee's family and convince them you are the better man. Dont hide behind a screen and manipulate her and let her face everything on her own.
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Originally posted by Birla:
How can i give blessing when i know that the whole affair is superficial, and not about true love.
a marriage is more than just about love. there's security, companionship etc.you know Dibilo is right. i don't think you're in love with her. if you're in love with her, why haven't you done anything before this? you're in love with your misery.
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dun spoil ppl's marriage...
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like tamil film.
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tamil film? you make me think about the hide behind the tree and sing song scene, ha ha ha
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To Fantagf: Tamil films are all not abt running around coconut plantations. We do have much bolder storyline that have been to the Oscars.
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seeking security in another - through marriage, thru friendship - the other is a means to ur end - its akin to using another - that is the ultimate insult to one's being.
Needs and fears and insecurity (within) not reconciled with is a burden to oneself and the other ( could be anyone - not necessarily a spouse, prospective ....) - it is tantamount to beggary!
As for culture, that u had mentioned - what u are being now is your culture - religion, race, tradition, customs is an excuse, merely an excuse - its hiding behind a curtain of beliefs and what have u.
If u trust in ur love - why the need to possess? Its symptomatic of an impoverished being, a malnourished being - love or anything that is perceived as great - can never be possessed, it can only be expereinced or shared. Sharing is the abundance of love that emanates from within n without - otherwise it is seeking fulfilment thru another - it is bound to be accidental, if ur being (eg ur house) is drenched in darkness and u seek lite outside (would one look for a switch in another house) , it is bound to be laced with anxiety, fear, cos the source is outside not within.
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Originally posted by Birla:
u got any advice?
Even if she broke off her engagement, that doesn't mean she will want to be with you. In the first place, is this feeling one sided?