hopeless
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Hi I'm new here. Pardon me - not familiar if there is any hse rule for posting.
Am stuck in a hopeless relship. unexplanable telltale signs of partner wierd behaviors getin mi insane.
Anyone would like to share views?
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talk to him.
Things don't work out, find a new guy.
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since u oredi said "hopeless relship", end the suffering
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If you don't give more details, its hard for us to offer any type of help or advice
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do you think that is this the only relationship you will ever have?
there's your answer.
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Thanks 4 all the responses. some of the signs: a) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house b) stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you. c) Late nites drank or no returning d) seems less comfortable around mi and easily moved to anger. e) sleeps with hp by the bed f) lying his whereabout g) mobile on silence mode h) late nite calls i) cannot confront or talk abt it - more storming blame on mi for starting a prob etc.......
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Is he having stress or problems with work?
If he really doesn't love you, have other woman outside etc, can u bear with it and break up with him?
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save further misery, break up, move on and find a new guy. oh, welcome to sgf.
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prob is he doesnt want to communicate. denied - gf. But he seems to be emotionally attached to someone (soft talk and often lie). he keep saying there's no prob in the relship but action speaks louder than his words. so the relship is superficial. emotionally hard to detach but jus find it wierd to continue.....
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If you know his friends/colleages etc, maybe ask them whether hes facing problems with work etc or whether he behaves weirdly in front of them as well or just in front of you.
Whether hes seeing someone else, you can 'spy' on him even if thats quite a rude thing to do.
Communication is a must in a relationship and he can't just hide everything from you. If you feel insecure, maybe initiate a breakup. If he shows care and concern about it then maybe he might be more willing to talk and if he doesn't care, it might just means he doesn't care about you or already has someone else in mind and no point you wasting your time on him.
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he is cheating on u
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I tot so. feeling horric n dun knw how to end it. cos he will blame and accuse im not trusting him:(
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aiya he hinting u to break up la.he already love some1 out there le..if not u go and find a bf n let him see how is the reaction..
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Just tell him that if hes hiding things from you etc and you feel both cannot trust each other then you 2 should breakup. If he cares about the relationship, he might tell u whats bothering him, if he doesn't care then all the more you should just breakup with him and look for someone else.
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he want to propose to you
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Originally posted by Serene.serene99:
I tot so. feeling horric n dun knw how to end it. cos he will blame and accuse im not trusting him
the simplest and most direct way
say it to his face
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yah agree with u. but he doesnt wan me to get connected with his collegues or friends. if i initiate an open communication, he will always endup accusing mi of stirling prob. even if i told him it's unhealthy not communicating but he doesnt care. it hurts badly and he doesnt care. dun thik he will acknowledge he has gf but that's v selfish and unfair of him right? He cant be expecting me to live my life in in the dark? He may even throw temper and said humilating remarks.Originally posted by dkcx:
If you know his friends/colleages etc, maybe ask them whether hes facing problems with work etc or whether he behaves weirdly in front of them as well or just in front of you.
Whether hes seeing someone else, you can 'spy' on him even if thats quite a rude thing to do.
Communication is a must in a relationship and he can't just hide everything from you. If you feel insecure, maybe initiate a breakup. If he shows care and concern about it then maybe he might be more willing to talk and if he doesn't care, it might just means he doesn't care about you or already has someone else in mind and no point you wasting your time on him.
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Then initiate a breakup, if he doesn't care then its really best you 2 just breakup already
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Thanks all for sharing views. hope there's an end to this misery.........
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LOL MISERY.
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War of attrition lor or probability itis lack of courage to say that he no longer is willing to water the plant of .... (whatever it means to u or him).
I would not suggest talking , one does not change another, u bring a dog home and say u love it, and then u want it to behave like a cat
Walk away, gracefully and let him be - misery nourishes the ego, happiness n love diffuses the ego, catch no ball? its ok lor
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yah, u r right:) no one wants to be the culprit, guess he wants to leave without guilt?Originally posted by Fugazzi:
War of attrition lor or probability itis lack of courage to say that he no longer is willing to water the plant of .... (whatever it means to u or him).
I would not suggest talking , one does not change another, u bring a dog home and say u love it, and then u want it to behave like a cat
Walk away, gracefully and let him be - misery nourishes the ego, happiness n love diffuses the ego, catch no ball? its ok lor
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serene, base on the list, more or less confirm that he is seeing someone. Experts at the talk show has done search on infidelity, and the list they have is very much what you listed.
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i have a feeling you wouldnt want to admit/think that he's cheating on you?i dont know,just an assumption,but well,it's always better to be the one ending the relationship.unless you're pretty sure you can make it work out or something.try broaching the subject maybe?like "i think there's something wrong with us recently.do you want to talk about it?" then if he still behaves like what you said..i dont know.tell him that you'd rather you both cool off for a while?
anw.i cant resist this anymore.i want to say this.i think my bf's a fucker.
sorry about that.this is your thread after all :) just needed to say that.
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how many yrs hav u been wif him???