my girlfriend takes sleeping pills. how do i help her?
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Originally posted by parn:
Are you hinting to us that we should advise you to sleep together with her?Hmm....in that case, why don't you suggest sleeping together with her to help her sleep better instead of her sleeping pills?
that just sounds dumb. if i wanted to sleep together with her, i'll just do it. no need advice to do that. i was really looking for helpful input like some of the others like meat pao, fantagf or pheeoner.
anyway thanks all. if theres still probs i'll be back to ask after the hols.
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Originally posted by dendenmushi:
that just sounds dumb. if i wanted to sleep together with her, i'll just do it. no need advice to do that. i was really looking for helpful input like some of the others like meat pao, fantagf or pheeoner.
anyway thanks all. if theres still probs i'll be back to ask after the hols.
Oh Really?
So tell me, who is more dumb? The person SEEKING advice or the person GIVING advice?
You should be able to help your girlfriend since you are her boyfriend. If you give up easily and simply surrender to your own selfishness only to help yourself and not other, then I can tell you that you will NEVER made to be a good boyfriend to any girls out there.
To put it simply, you can help yourself but you don't want to waste your time and effort to think about how you can help your girlfriend.
If you were to at least tell us what you have done to help her, I can understand that you are desperate and TRULY concerned about your girlfriend. But instead, you merely throws the ball of responsibilities at us in Aunt Agony forums.
DO YOU REALLY THINK I WOULD HELP SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T EVEN WANT TO HELP HIS OWN GIRLFRIEND?
Telling us that you can't help her much doesn't means that YOU CANNOT HELP HER AT ALL. It just meant that you simply DO NOT WANT TO HELP HER.
It's so funny that you can actually AFFORD to pick and give retarded comments to people who has taken efforts to read and post in your topic when YOU ARE ACTUALLY THE PERSON WHO IS SEEKING HELP IN HERE.
Since you want to be such an UNGRATEFUL BASTARD in here, then you shall get ONLY ADVICES to console your own situation and NEVER GOING TO GET THE SOLUTION.
Understand?
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you parn, ARE A SELFSERVING RIGHTEOUS BASTARD who is only concerned with people's appreciation for his "wonderful advice". Yet you only seem to dole out useless comments like "do you want us to advise you to sleep with her?" what the fuck was that about?
I did not start with name calling. You did. and note: I did not call you dumb. The only thing i said was that your comment sounded dumb. If you took offense at that, you could come back and tell me your logical explanation about how you felt it was not dumb, or if it was really meant to be useful. Instead you chose to attack me, that i was selfish, ungrateful and a bastard. Ad hominem?
I did not say i could not help her, I did not say i don't want to help her. I want to help her, but because i do not want to seem intrusive and overly paranoid, I came here to ask for relevant advice. eg. possible alternatives, are they really addictive, whether she can actually be weaned off the pills etc BEFORE I APPROACHED HER. AND I DID APPROACH HER ABOUT IT.
If i was selfish, I would not even bother to ask for help, and simply let her do what she wants. I actually thanked people for their input, but your comment made me feel like I had some ulterior motive for the request for help.
DO YOU THINK I CARE IF YOU WANT TO HELP ME? I DON'T. Because there are plenty of other helpful individuals here who are willing to help regardless of who the other person is and regardless of expressions of gratitude. If you have nothing constructive to add, please do not post just for the sake of increasing your total post count.
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Originally posted by dendenmushi:
you parn, ARE A SELFSERVING RIGHTEOUS BASTARD who is only concerned with people's appreciation for his "wonderful advice". Yet you only seem to dole out useless comments like "do you want us to advise you to sleep with her?" what the fuck was that about?
I did not start with name calling. You did. and note: I did not call you dumb. The only thing i said was that your comment sounded dumb. If you took offense at that, you could come back and tell me your logical explanation about how you felt it was not dumb, or if it was really meant to be useful. Instead you chose to attack me, that i was selfish, ungrateful and a bastard. Ad hominem?
I did not say i could not help her, I did not say i don't want to help her. I want to help her, but because i do not want to seem intrusive and overly paranoid, I came here to ask for relevant advice. eg. possible alternatives, are they really addictive, whether she can actually be weaned off the pills etc BEFORE I APPROACHED HER. AND I DID APPROACH HER ABOUT IT.
If i was selfish, I would not even bother to ask for help, and simply let her do what she wants. I actually thanked people for their input, but your comment made me feel like I had some ulterior motive for the request for help.
DO YOU THINK I CARE IF YOU WANT TO HELP ME? I DON'T. Because there are plenty of other helpful individuals here who are willing to help regardless of who the other person is and regardless of expressions of gratitude. If you have nothing constructive to add, please do not post just for the sake of increasing your total post count.
Read again then if you don't understand my previous post to you.I only gave you what you deserved.
Even after that, you still have no sense of shame to admit that you did absolutely nothing at all to help your own girlfriend.
APPROACH her doesn't means you are HELPING HER.
I don't feel bad for all the other dense forumers who have always failed to notice this MAJOR FAILURE on your part as a boyfriend.
If you are not committed to be someone else's boyfriend, then you be better off without a girlfriend.
I don't even need to curse you at all, because I know that's the inevitable fate for guys like you who are not committed to your own relationship at all.
Don't treat your girlfriends like your sex toys, cos girls aren't your slaves or sex toys.
Better pay more attention and focus on your role as a boyfriend before the inevitable happens.
It's up to you to take it or not, but I have already said what I needed to say.
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so basically all you're saying now is that you don't care anymore.
and you again make baseless claims about how I treat my girlfriend(s?) as sex toys or slaves, and I am not commited to being her boyfriend.
wow. You are the consummate psychic aren't you, reading my posts and telling me what kind of a person I am.
So you ignore the fact of why I'm here, and then tell me that approaching is insufficient. Perhaps you could tell me in your great wisdom what I should do. Should I drag her to a doctor's and tell him that she's hooked on pills? Or should I approach her parents and tell them she's got a problem? Maybe those will REALLY help by pushing her away from one person that really cares.
Being there for her is a form of help and support. I don't know what else to do, HENCE THE REQUEST FOR ADVICE.
If what you foretell is inevitable, I guess I should just take your word and give up shouldn't I? But then, that would make me the uncaring, uncommited, selfish boyfriend you make me out to be, who is only interested in sex slaves.
You presumptious sack of shit. You think that you are the one source of true wisdom, who sees through all my major failures as a boyfriend, calling the other people that have offered help unconditionally, dense.
tsk tsk parn. Maybe you think you're some long time forumer here and hence you're full of "words of wisdom". I say bullshit. You don't care about anyone here who has problems, and you sure as hell don't dole out any wisdom, because if you did, no one would have said your comment was dumb.
just one last thing:
"Oh Really?
So tell me, who is more dumb? The person SEEKING advice or the person GIVING advice?"
Its never dumb to seek advice. Its dumb to think you know better than everyone else.
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tk slpin pills no big deal.
if overdose den got prob.
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Originally posted by Aang:
by exercising.. go train muay thai
loleh Aang u do muay thai???
u train at muay thai gym ar???
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Originally posted by dendenmushi:
so basically all you're saying now is that you don't care anymore.
and you again make baseless claims about how I treat my girlfriend(s?) as sex toys or slaves, and I am not commited to being her boyfriend.
wow. You are the consummate psychic aren't you, reading my posts and telling me what kind of a person I am.
So you ignore the fact of why I'm here, and then tell me that approaching is insufficient. Perhaps you could tell me in your great wisdom what I should do. Should I drag her to a doctor's and tell him that she's hooked on pills? Or should I approach her parents and tell them she's got a problem? Maybe those will REALLY help by pushing her away from one person that really cares.
Being there for her is a form of help and support. I don't know what else to do, HENCE THE REQUEST FOR ADVICE.
If what you foretell is inevitable, I guess I should just take your word and give up shouldn't I? But then, that would make me the uncaring, uncommited, selfish boyfriend you make me out to be, who is only interested in sex slaves.
You presumptious sack of shit. You think that you are the one source of true wisdom, who sees through all my major failures as a boyfriend, calling the other people that have offered help unconditionally, dense.
tsk tsk parn. Maybe you think you're some long time forumer here and hence you're full of "words of wisdom". I say bullshit. You don't care about anyone here who has problems, and you sure as hell don't dole out any wisdom, because if you did, no one would have said your comment was dumb.
just one last thing:
"Oh Really?
So tell me, who is more dumb? The person SEEKING advice or the person GIVING advice?"
Its never dumb to seek advice. Its dumb to think you know better than everyone else.
Why don't you go take a look at your own replies and tell me why you deserved a solution to your problem?As a matter of fact, you have already DISPLAYED the course of action that you should've done to help your girlfriend.
I won't tell you the solution because you simply DON'T DESERVED to know it.
BUT you can take my hint above and go fix your own problem and remain to be an UNGRATEFUL BASTARD.
Let's see which one is MORE IMPORTANT to you right now, your girlfriend's solution or your own pride.
You cannot keep both, so choose one and I shall be EXTREMELY HAPPY watching you LOSE the other.
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as eagle has said ask her to switch to melatonin. It helps to adjust back the body clock and induced sleepiness. Put one under tongue and u will sleep like a baby.
All pharmies should have.
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Hah! Listening to any of your "advice" would be like taking the highway to hell. Indeed I'm an "ungrateful bastard" who has never thanked you for any of the wonderful advice you've given to me.
So parn, how does it feel being a self righteous fuck? ego masturbation feel good?
You disgust me. Honestly, I can keep both, and I shall be extremely happy, not only knowing that you were wrong, but that you lead a sad existence built upon attempting to cause pain and suffering to others in your mind.
so go fuck yourself.