From friend to bf/gf
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Then what should I do? Not being a platonic friend like I always do?
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Originally posted by henshin:
Then what should I do? Not being a platonic friend like I always do?
Umm, it has got to be mutual, if you want a relationship and she does not, then what for harbour hope. -
Poor Henshin...so much well-meaning advice!!
Go out with her as normal, but do try & flirt with her a little to show your interest. I agree with wat some forumers said here: if u don't show (yr interest), she'll never know!! & in the meantime she might hook up with other guys who do show their interest..
This has happened to me a few times; eg. guy A told me he wanted to get to know me. He acted platonic & 'normal'. No signs, signals or hints that he wanted more. Fine. So I treated him as friend lor..Didn't have any ideas about him. I responded to another guy B who quite clearly showed he was keen.
Imagine my surprise when A later told me he liked me??! I said, 'huh?? I'm with someone else..'
Actually, I was attracted to A, only since he acted strictly platonic..
If u r interested in someone, show it!! We ladies not psychic u know..
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oh dear, do tread lightly. I can speak from experience. Once, a friend of mine told me he had feelings for me and well, suffice to say, I kinda handled it badly and it took a toll on our friendship. Nowadays, it is still awkward, even though it has been so many years. So try to put it in a way that you have a exit strategy... that you may still be friends even if she doesnt like you. It's hard, but you gotta try love.
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oh dear, do tread lightly. I can speak from experience. Once, a friend of mine told me he had feelings for me and well, suffice to say, I kinda handled it badly and it took a toll on our friendship. Nowadays, it is still awkward, even though it has been so many years. So try to put it in a way that you have a exit strategy... that you may still be friends even if she doesnt like you. It's hard, but you gotta try love.
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Originally posted by la luce nella piazza:
oh dear, do tread lightly. I can speak from experience. Once, a friend of mine told me he had feelings for me and well, suffice to say, I kinda handled it badly and it took a toll on our friendship. Nowadays, it is still awkward, even though it has been so many years.
So try to put it in a way that you have a exit strategy… that you may still be friends even if she doesnt like you. It’s hard, but you gotta try love.
Think most of the time such experience has negative ending. -
I'm an idiot at such things, sorry for asking so many questions. What should I do to make her feel that I want more than just a friend relationship?
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Originally posted by henshin:
I'm an idiot at such things, sorry for asking so many questions. What should I do to make her feel that I want more than just a friend relationship?
Even if you have not shown her any clear signals she already knows your intentions.So you might as well break it to her gently. -
Originally posted by henshin:
I'm an idiot at such things, sorry for asking so many questions. What should I do to make her feel that I want more than just a friend relationship?
Perhaps you wanna think of a subtle way to get your message across unless she is that sort of very open minded kind of gal. Make sure you make her feel comfortable when you say it. -
Originally posted by henshin:
I'm an idiot at such things, sorry for asking so many questions. What should I do to make her feel that I want more than just a friend relationship?
Hard to say lah..different girls like different things..But most important, women like it when you pay them a lot of attention..
Show her that u care 4 her, b a gentleman, & treat her differently from your other female frens so she can c..
Just my opinion..
Get going already..nudge nudge
Good luck!
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recently she seems to spend lesser time talking to me, what happened?
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Originally posted by henshin:
recently she seems to spend lesser time talking to me, what happened?
It could be due to an increase in workload for her, that is why she is spending lesser time talking to you.
Of course, if you look at it negatively, it could be because she has noticed something from you already and is trying to stay slightly further away from you, or that she has someone else in her life already.
If you are really keen on knowing why, ask her directly yourself. But please do not pose a direct question like, "Why are you ignoring me?".
You should ask her something like, "You seem to chat less recently, is it due to an increase in workload?"
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i was in sec 2 that year. transfered from a boy school to a mix school
god damn it the girl in that school is pretty.
it was the 2nd year NPCC camp. we camp in our school's field.
individual camp. i was crawling around to my girl's classmate tend. so i went into one of the pretty one. she was shocked. but after i went in she's ok with me. so we sleep together for one night. the next night i went again. this time round it's not just sleeping. but more stuff.. the third night i tried to crawl to another girl's tend, and the story goes again...
u got to crawl around to hunt for girls..
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Originally posted by Fire Cracker:
i was in sec 2 that year. transfered from a boy school to a mix school
god damn it the girl in that school is pretty.
it was the 2nd year NPCC camp. we camp in our school's field.
individual camp. i was crawling around to my girl's classmate tend. so i went into one of the pretty one. she was shocked. but after i went in she's ok with me. so we sleep together for one night. the next night i went again. this time round it's not just sleeping. but more stuff.. the third night i tried to crawl to another girl's tend, and the story goes again...
u got to crawl around to hunt for girls..
Fukin kakaroach!
You need to breath some Sheltox to control your hormone or you might grow up to be just like your rapist father.
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TS just be patient. 8 years later my friend became my gf and its a nice feeling man really;D
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Originally posted by henshin:
I wonder what are the chances of a friend becoming your bf or gf? From my experience, the chances are equal close to nothing. I wonder what is a good way to get a gf?
Are you handsome or rich or good-talker?If not, then please work harder to become at least one of them.
I would prefer friend first before becoming my bf.
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Well, I'm none of those. I only have character.
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Originally posted by henshin:
Well, I'm none of those. I only have character.
Unfortunately character is not in demand at the moment, kindly wait long long........ -
Originally posted by henshin:
Well, I'm none of those. I only have character
Does she know your intentions yet?
What do you like about her?
What do you think she might like about you??
Have you tried sending her flowers on random days(get someone to deliver it to her office/home)
It's always the guys putting in more effort in the beginning.. once she's yours.. more likely she'll be more focus on trying to maintain the relationship that you're.
Don't just drop hints.. be frank, plan a night romantic night out or sumthing.. then tell her ur intentions. A friend of mine once told me that.. it's boring for girls to go out with a guy that's always giving in to their needs.. they'll just get bored and things will get shaky.
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She noticed that I might like her, thus why she is a bit cold to me, what does it means?
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Originally posted by henshin:
She noticed that I might like her, thus why she is a bit cold to me, what does it means?
That means she does not want the relationship to go on any further than being just friends with you.
You have two options now :
1) Give up.
2) Try to work on areas of yourself which you know you can improve on so as to impress her and make her change her mind. It will not be easy though.
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Does sincerity works in this case?
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Originally posted by henshin:
Does sincerity works in this case?
That will depend on what kind of girl your friend is again.
But odds are sincerity will not work since she is already hinting you to keep your distance.
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Originally posted by henshin:
Does sincerity works in this case?
Let her know that you like her WHEN she is enjoying a conversation and focus on you.She may not say YES to you on the spot, but she will also find it difficult to say NO to you.
At least she will be aware of your deep interest in her, and you don't really need to win her over in one round.
If you can survive her first round of NO, then you will do better in your next round.
Since you have admitted that you have none of the qualities to pull off a one round confession, then don't worry if you do not succeed in your first attempt. It's not the last round of your confession and make sure you don't give up and treat your first attempt as your last attempt.
