Say if I couldn't find anyone I can trust to ask that question, what should I do?
Originally posted by henshin:Say if I couldn't find anyone I can trust to ask that question, what should I do?
care to explain what u mean?
There are thousands and millions of factors to lead to bf/gf, so it just depends on which route you choose.
It may be a faster way or it might not work out. Have fun exploring.
Because there are friends that I and her are close to, but I cannot trust thme that they will not reveal the fact that I like this girl. I was wondering how should I get to know that whether she got feel anything towards me or not.
time will tell.
gd luck, TS
Originally posted by Fantagf:
care to explain what u mean?
TS means that he cannot trust any of his friends not to tell the girl that he like her. Given that this is the case, he is asking what else can he do instead.
TS, this is a comparatively low-risk gamble as compared to asking her directly yourself. It is your choice, but remember, the longer you drag it out, the higher the chance that someone might pick her up.
what should I do in the mean time of waiting till all the busy stuff is over to raise the chance of mher liking me?
Originally posted by henshin:Because there are friends that I and her are close to, but I cannot trust thme that they will not reveal the fact that I like this girl. I was wondering how should I get to know that whether she got feel anything towards me or not.
acutally to get a mutual friend to find out for you is the best. Provided u trust this person
Originally posted by henshin:Because there are friends that I and her are close to, but I cannot trust thme that they will not reveal the fact that I like this girl. I was wondering how should I get to know that whether she got feel anything towards me or not.
Do do exactly what a rational Singaporean being would do-Hire a PI!
Originally posted by Short Ninja:
Do do exactly what a rational Singaporean being would do-Hire a PI!
not a good suggestion. Nobody likes to be stalked. If the gal finds out, TS' hope will be crashed.
Originally posted by Fantagf:
not a good suggestion. Nobody likes to be stalked. If the gal finds out, TS' hope will be crashed.
His hopes already crashed X 3 ....the moment he logged in here
Originally posted by henshin:what should I do in the mean time of waiting till all the busy stuff is over to raise the chance of mher liking me?
This question is very hard to answer. It depends a lot on what kind of girl she is.
If she is someone who doesn't mind company, ask her out more often with some friends, and of course, try to make it so that you are the only guy in the group.
If she is chatty, talk to her more often. Let her know that you are someone whom she can talk to whenever she has problems or worries.
If she is those who won't mind it, you could carry out your own plan of winning her over with your food.
Then again, the best thing to do is not to wait. Anything could happen, so the longer the time you are going to wait, the higher the risk you will have to take.
Originally posted by Short Ninja:His hopes already crashed X 3 ....the moment he logged in here
hee hee hee, u are half right
Originally posted by Fantagf:
hee hee hee, u are half right
yah the other half is you giving him hope
Originally posted by Short Ninja:
yah the other half is you giving him hope
You mean TS giving him hope
lol..
you serious peoples ?
xD
Originally posted by Fantagf:
acutally to get a mutual friend to find out for you is the best. Provided u trust this person
here caught in a camera and tape recorder giving advice>LOL
What should I do? For a guy like me who don't smile and talk too much.
Originally posted by henshin:What should I do? For a guy like me who don't smile and talk too much.
chill. somebody will appreciate your beauty
Originally posted by henshin:What should I do? For a guy like me who don't smile and talk too much.
then shut up and smile often
Originally posted by gunner77:
then shut up and smile often
how can smile at everybody
I mean I don't talk too much. Sometime when I face her, I just keep quiet. What should I do?
Originally posted by henshin:What should I do? For a guy like me who don't smile and talk too much.
Start saying the right things and to your own surprise you could be smiling more.
in reply to ts, i think if you want to be more than friends, start of with a more than friends / flirty vibe. dont start off too platonic. meaning on the first few dates, flirt / touch instead of showing you just want to be platonic friends only. you can skip the whole lets just be friends right from the 1st date. you also dont need to say these aloud, just do it, like naturally and she wont resist. dont be too much of a nice guy either, and DonT appear despo. girls that will do anything with you will do so from the 1st dates btw. if she feels any sexual attraction to you it will be there from the start. you dont have to be friends then good friends first, or she may settle into a friendship feeling instead of feeling something more with you.
all imo :)
Originally posted by Nikar 3:although i've no gfs or frens, i've read plenty of good dating books which says that the chances of getting rejected is very high if you just ask the gal outright (e.g "u love me?", "do u want to be my gf"?
reason being:
1) if u ask this kind of question, how is the gal supposed to answer you? gal's mentality not same as guys; for this kind of question, you can't expect them to say "Yes!!!!" like a man.
2) by asking the gal for "permission" to be her bf, you're degrading yourself in her eyes and lower your own self-worth.
3) lastly, don't go down the wrong route, where u like the gal but end up as her "girl-friend", if u know what i mean. Meaning, she tells u all her problems but has no romantic interest / sexual arousal with you. That means, the longer you know her and it drags on, the more it is to your disadvantage.
of course got people marry their best friend, but for a lot of others i see everywhere, when the guy ask his female friend if she interested in relationship, mostly fail.
i agree with this