Lending your precious gadgets to others..
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Your only DSLR that you have scrimped and saved for.
My sister in law wants to lend my DSLR for her trip back home for 1 month, I thought it was 1 week so I readily agreed, til I learnt that it was 1 month so of course I don't want.
Though she said she would pay for any damage done, imagine only facial scratches, heart pain leh.
Then now my brother and sister in law angry with me.
My brother was insistent in getting my camera for her, initially, I had asked whether my brother wanna share a DSLR because he had expressed interest to get one, but he rejected so I buy myself and my parents of course weren't too happy but they are okay with it now.
So he tried to get the camera from me, he told me want to shoot pictures, use any camera also can. So I suggested to lend my compact, then he got angry and stomp out of my room.
He even commented, take so much picture for what? Your pictures very nice?
I was damn upset, Am I wrong to protect my own interest? -
maybe he wanna have the "high class" feeling of holding the dslr..
if it was me, I doubt I'll ever lend my precious gadgets to others..
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okay, now he's just come into my room get luggage, slam the stuffs around and slam doors etc..
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dun care la..
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so i ask the both of you...
it's just an object...
worth losing a relationship over?
if you think so, is the relationship really worth it?
love people, use things.. never the other way around...
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just lend la
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If your brother isn't destitute, I'd imagine he'd be able to afford a camera for himself and his wife.
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Originally posted by Agenda:
Your only DSLR that you have scrimped and saved for.
My sister in law wants to lend my DSLR for her trip back home for 1 month, I thought it was 1 week so I readily agreed, til I learnt that it was 1 month so of course I don't want.
Though she said she would pay for any damage done, imagine only facial scratches, heart pain leh.
Then now my brother and sister in law angry with me.
My brother was insistent in getting my camera for her, initially, I had asked whether my brother wanna share a DSLR because he had expressed interest to get one, but he rejected so I buy myself and my parents of course weren't too happy but they are okay with it now.
So he tried to get the camera from me, he told me want to shoot pictures, use any camera also can. So I suggested to lend my compact, then he got angry and stomp out of my room.
He even commented, take so much picture for what? Your pictures very nice?
I was damn upset, Am I wrong to protect my own interest?You were not wrong to protect your own interest, but on the otherhand, just like what Bear had said, is it worth it?
Unless you are telling me your relationship with your brother has always been bad, otherwise you shouldn't quarrel with him over an physical object which is bond to be gone someday.
He might be wrong to force you to lend the DSLR to his wife, but remember, you are the one who promised his wife to lend it to her in the first place. That is why one should always clarify things before making promises, otherwise it will become empty promises.
I am not going to take your side or your brother's side, whether to lend him and his wife your DSLR now or not is still your own choice. But take this as a lesson, do not make promises so simply without knowing the circumstances involved.
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Ur bro dun wan to share it w u.. Unless e repair fee he gonna pay lor if anything happ... If those nt under warrenty de...
Since now still got warrenty u can lend him no warrenty dun lend lor...
Plus nt your fault coz he say any camera also can... If really ur precious n u jus bought it dun feel like lending de lor....
But how ur bro treat u? If he treat u well... U should jus return e favour... N jus lend him... If he those find trouble or everytime pick a quarrel w u den dun... depends on ppl ba~...
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Originally posted by Agenda:
Your only DSLR that you have scrimped and saved for.
My sister in law wants to lend my DSLR for her trip back home for 1 month, I thought it was 1 week so I readily agreed, til I learnt that it was 1 month so of course I don't want.
Though she said she would pay for any damage done, imagine only facial scratches, heart pain leh.
Then now my brother and sister in law angry with me.
My brother was insistent in getting my camera for her, initially, I had asked whether my brother wanna share a DSLR because he had expressed interest to get one, but he rejected so I buy myself and my parents of course weren't too happy but they are okay with it now.
So he tried to get the camera from me, he told me want to shoot pictures, use any camera also can. So I suggested to lend my compact, then he got angry and stomp out of my room.
He even commented, take so much picture for what? Your pictures very nice?
I was damn upset, Am I wrong to protect my own interest?he said any camera also can what.
good photographers don't need a dslr to take photos.
good photographers can take perfect pns shots with a pns camera, aka compact digicam.
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u cant blame him.. I think many times its human nature..
that your physical belongings is more precious than even your love ones or feelings..
you, being so protective about the camera, also shows that you r quite attached and protective of it
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dont bother with petty ppl lah.
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ask him to lend his wife to u for one month
if he dont want, u also go to his room and slam his door
then tell him " now u know how i feel? "
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may i ask which SLR is tat?
mmmmm, actually i dun reli like to lend my gadget as well..
but if its my sibling, i will la.. but will always warn them to be careful..
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ur sis-in-law frm whr de.
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DSLR so big ah? u think u own the DSLR u forever up than your brother meh? skali u need your brother help, he pangseh u how? in the future, ur wife going to give birth..no telephone..only ur brother and his car available..i wait for him to pai tao u then u understand how he feels lor..
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Why don't you lend him the camera and get yourself a new disposable, holga, lomo to play with? Those are fairly affordable, plus you can get creative, try something different, develop a new style and possibly capture better shots.
Kill one bird with 2 stones - Do a good deed +You don't have to feel guilty about buying another gadget!
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Its NEVER wrong to protect your own interest or your own property espicially when its something you scrimped and saved for..
Even if your sister in law did offered to pay for any damages done to the camera, its never a good idea.
Firstly alot of people are going to DEFINE the term "damaged" differently. Believe me when i tell you some would consider a 0.1cm scratch on the casing to be "damaged". Others would just shrug it off and justify their claims that the camera is still functioning as per normal and wouldn't consider the scratch to be damaged. Its all comes down to how 2 people "perceive" the term damage and in the end its only going to cause more unhappiness if you're unable to compromise with each others understanding.
Secondly, you DID offer your brother an alternative when he asked for ANY type of camera. My Question to you is how did he react when you offered him the comapct camera as an alternative? Instead of gracefully accepting or rejecting, he acted like a spoilt brat and stomped off in anger? What kind of a spoilt attitude is that? Knowing how much the camera meant to you, he still INSISTED on getting it for his wife..WTF MAN?!?!?!?!
And when he came into YOUR room get luggage he apparently slamed the stuffs around and slam doors. This clearly shows he has no respect for you or your properties. And the way he replied you? How rude....
Last but not least, there always the feeling of paranoia when someone borrows your stuff. Perharps she might have damage it when she returned it to you but isn't being truthful?
But the decision should come down to yours alone. You've known your brother way way way longer then we all do and what kind of character he has...we're just judging by scenarios...you're family after all and part of being family is having trust in one another..
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tell your bro, lin peh camra also wanna borrow? when ask you to share the cost dun want, now i buy with my own money come kpkb to me wanna borrow?
can i borrow your wife for a few bangs or not?
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I had to search up google to find out what a dslr is.
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Originally posted by gunner77:
ask him to lend his wife to u for one month
if he dont want, u also go to his room and slam his door
then tell him " now u know how i feel? "
please lah u, what nonsense
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So he tried to get the camera from me, he told me want to shoot pictures, use any camera also can. So I suggested to lend my compact, then he got angry and stomp out of my room.
When I saw the word stomp, I thought your brother wanna post ya onto www.stomp.com.sg
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ask him to lend his wife to u for one month
if he dont want, u also go to his room and slam his door
then tell him " now u know how i feel? "
lol.
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your brother 5 years old? -.-
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hmmm. depends on how you look at it lah.
being reluctant to loan him your dslr implies a lack of trust in his capabilities in taking good care of it.
he might be resentful that you, his brother, doesn't trust him to protect your valued possession.
Your sister-in-law request might have been quite unreasonable, since its one month, really long after all.
however, can i clarify what your brother wanted the camera for? is it really for taking of pictures or taking the dslr for his wife? if he is just taking pictures, then why not? if you cant trust your own brother, who else can you trust?And remember that your last resort would always be your family, its not wise to alienate them over issues like this.
perhaps TS might want to impress the importance of the dslr onto him before agreeing to lend it to his frother for a short stint