Lending your precious gadgets to others..
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your sister-in-law and brother are selfish, petty people. not to mention cheap. you did the right thing. don't give in.
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I think the DSLR is the cause of the unhappiness here. Dun leave it in the house, or else when ur bro sees it again it will cause him to angry again. Or else when u see it, u will be thinking abt whether to lend it to him again. Why cause urself so much pain. If u dun see it for the time being maybe its better. Come, pass it to me, I will keep for u until the situation becomes better.
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It's time to mend fences with your brother. Offer to buy him a Kodak Instamatic film camera. And, just to prove you're a super nice guy who holds no hard feelings, throw in two cartridges of film.
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FARK CARE YOU IDIOT BROTHER and HIS STUPID SELFISH WIFE.
you saved for it, it's yours. and it's not his. he got money then he go buy one for his own wife.
Dont lend them. they will 100% spoilt your camera, and say " don't know"
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Do what he do to you...
ask him borrow his high tech stuff...
Dun care just borrow see how he like :D -
its only a camera...
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I have the same experience of friends wanting to borrow my DSLR and other stuff. Its never easy. I dun agree that its simply a matter of paying for damage. Once damaged, its about money... as the chinese always say 谈钱伤感情...
I think in your case its quite easy to decline... u probably did not explain it tactfully enough.
Just say that 1 month is too long and you will need to use it. Even 1 week is too long for me if its going to be physically out of the country. If it is in Singapore, I can always ask for it back if I need it urgently.
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Originally posted by Agenda:
Your only DSLR that you have scrimped and saved for.
My sister in law wants to lend my DSLR for her trip back home for 1 month, I thought it was 1 week so I readily agreed, til I learnt that it was 1 month so of course I don't want.
Though she said she would pay for any damage done, imagine only facial scratches, heart pain leh.
Then now my brother and sister in law angry with me.
My brother was insistent in getting my camera for her, initially, I had asked whether my brother wanna share a DSLR because he had expressed interest to get one, but he rejected so I buy myself and my parents of course weren't too happy but they are okay with it now.
So he tried to get the camera from me, he told me want to shoot pictures, use any camera also can. So I suggested to lend my compact, then he got angry and stomp out of my room.
He even commented, take so much picture for what? Your pictures very nice?
I was damn upset, Am I wrong to protect my own interest?Why you don't want to lend your DSLR to your brother and sister-in-law?
Your relationship and life together with them will outlast whatever precious DSLR that you are holding tightly onto your chest.
Forgive the angry comments made by your brother and your sister-in-law, people say stupid things that bypassed their brain circuits when they are emotional.
Nobody can blame you for not lending your possessions to anyone, and nobody is at fault if negotiations for borrowing your precious camera.
You should make your own choice that will make you the most happy and stand firm by it, regardless of any future consequences and live happily through it.
What is ultimately most important is your own happiness and not everyone's else happiness, because everyone doesn't really gives a damn about your happiness anyway.
At least I don't care about anyone's happiness, only their sadness.
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hahas i cant stay away from my dslr even for a day;D
but TS, best you talk things with your bro over coffee or tea man
all the best man -
Agreed.. from the way u put it.. i think u shouldn't lend it to them.
Lend to them even more problem.
Be selffish this time, they'll probably make alot of noise.. about this.. but it'll pass..
Safeguard ur interest more important. Later they make spoil ler.. alot of dispute de.. even worst.
NO to lending it to them -
Advice - just give them the compact camera, take it or leave it.
Frankly if you lend - i bet with you there be worst argument ahead !!!
Frankly 1 month on the road without proper casing and knowledge of photography, and basic maintenance there will be scratches on body and lens itself too. Also sometime due to moistures - the lens will get fungus too.Even between family, I think everyone is entited to own their own thing. Something are just consider personal. Everyone should be entited to have their own personal item and space.It is your personal item, you have the right to say no, also there is the compact camera, there is no other options.
If they feel that DSLR is so super - then i think it is really time for them to get one for themselves.