My younger sister, now she dont need help from anyone. Figures she is now all powerful again.
Is thinking she is powderful, because she knows how to use the internet and read my complaints on the facebook.
Heck, I caught her out pretending that she is a total stranger on SBF and even sgforums. Acting as the real biatch she was in real life while pretending she is a goody two shoes wife and sister after she got married.
As if, just because she married a American, bullies him and his rest of the families on the pretext of doing 'good for her children'.
She thinks others do not remember when she was such a biatch to live with, and how she always thinks she is all 'powderful' by giving 'advises' instead of actual actions.
Pathetic really. Most times. Her advices is 'critisising others, putting them down,' instead of true advices that benefits others by really improving people's condition or other people's lives.
You know......enriching she is NOT.
Heck, I obviously has that genes, its probably from my papa and mummy. Somehow its more manifested in her. I see her, I dont see myself. Why is that? I see her, I see mummy plus papa and plus a manifying glass that amplify those traits. Why?
Am I a sibling so blind, as to not see her fault & her strengths?
Does it means, that just because she is now probably doing a degree, which her husband is supplying her $$$ to do, beause she gave birth to children, justify her back to her 18+ year old bad behaviour to her siblings again?
Originally posted by viciouskitty74:My younger sister, now she dont need help from anyone. Figures she is now all powerful again.
Is thinking she is powderful, because she knows how to use the internet and read my complaints on the facebook.
Heck, I caught her out pretending that she is a total stranger on SBF and even sgforums. Acting as the real biatch she was in real life while pretending she is a goody two shoes wife and sister after she got married.
As if, just because she married a American, bullies him and his rest of the families on the pretext of doing 'good for her children'.
She thinks others do not remember when she was such a biatch to live with, and how she always thinks she is all 'powderful' by giving 'advises' instead of actual actions.
Pathetic really. Most times. Her advices is 'critisising others, putting them down,' instead of true advices that benefits others by really improving people's condition or other people's lives.
You know......enriching she is NOT.
Heck, I obviously has that genes, its probably from my papa and mummy. Somehow its more manifested in her. I see her, I dont see myself. Why is that? I see her, I see mummy plus papa and plus a manifying glass that amplify those traits. Why?
Am I a sibling so blind, as to not see her fault & her strengths?
Does it means, that just because she is now probably doing a degree, which her husband is supplying her $$$ to do, beause she gave birth to children, justify her back to her 18+ year old bad behaviour to her siblings again?
It seems that the problem now is that your sister is reverting back to her old self.
It is not that you are unable to see her strength. It is just that her personality and behaviour overshadowed whatever good points that she might have.
The only thing left for you to do is to snub her. You can't change her, and neither can you stand her, so your only choice is to stay away from her.
Someone made the same comment about my family.
It seems that, the more we dont contact each other, stay near each other.
The more we wont be so disillusioned with each other.
I cant still get over that my sister accused me of being controlling, when I see her doing more of that with me, then I did with her when she was a baby.
And.......can you beat this? She accused me of being emotionally unstable, whenever I shaved my head for charity.
I reminded her with.......what happened the other time? Before I ever shaved my head, and was emotional because my mother borrowed from loansharks to finance my brother's study in UK. And I was expected to fill in the gaps against the loanshark? I was calm, cool and collected then?
Why is it, that she allows for distortion of facts and matter, but I am expected to be truthful and honest with her?
I wasnt even emotional, when she finally admits that she was the one instigating my brother to send my supplementary credit cards for him, back to me in pieces. For me, at least now I know that my sister, instead of helping people. Believes that she is helping people, by advising others to be a prat against someone that actually is helping someone.
I wonder how karma deals with her kind of peoople.
Siblings rivalry hard to deal with. Your sis probably thinks she is much better than you so behave such. Show her you can survive well alone without any support from anybody. Certain character children inherited from parents.
Ganbatte, kitty!!!
aunty vk, once in while remember to use a plastic hammer on your sis.
Originally posted by viciouskitty74:Someone made the same comment about my family.
It seems that, the more we dont contact each other, stay near each other.
The more we wont be so disillusioned with each other.
I cant still get over that my sister accused me of being controlling, when I see her doing more of that with me, then I did with her when she was a baby.
And.......can you beat this? She accused me of being emotionally unstable, whenever I shaved my head for charity.
I reminded her with.......what happened the other time? Before I ever shaved my head, and was emotional because my mother borrowed from loansharks to finance my brother's study in UK. And I was expected to fill in the gaps against the loanshark? I was calm, cool and collected then?
Why is it, that she allows for distortion of facts and matter, but I am expected to be truthful and honest with her?
I wasnt even emotional, when she finally admits that she was the one instigating my brother to send my supplementary credit cards for him, back to me in pieces. For me, at least now I know that my sister, instead of helping people. Believes that she is helping people, by advising others to be a prat against someone that actually is helping someone.
I wonder how karma deals with her kind of peoople.
That is the way life is. Those who are too straight forward and direct always lose out to those who are sly and uses underhanded methods.
You can choose to bear with it and live on, or you can choose to break all connections with her. Either way, you will be portrayed as the bad one, so you have nothing to lose.
wat's her name on sgf?
Ask her to get out of your life & entertain her only at CNY. Thats it. Ignore what she says.
how old is this sister?
wahh, ur sis so hiong ah...
Originally posted by Suffocate:how old is this sister?
& how is this going to help the situation?
you go and complain about your sister on facebook ?
The last time I remember on your previous postings, you are the jealous big sister right ?
Aiyah, you got cancer , why bother about your sis ?
Go and live a fruitful life for as long as you can lor.
i wonder how come ppl
like to post about their family issues
here..
can really get help over the forum?
Originally posted by noahnoah:
i wonder how come ppl
like to post about their family issues
here..
can really get help over the forum?
Truthfully speaking, the amount of help which forummers can provide is limited.
But sometimes having someone to console you, talk to you and discuss with you about your problems will already make you feel somewhat better.
It is better than having to keep everything to yourself as there is no one for you to turn to.
aIYAH - u have so much to say about your sister and her - just dont become her lar, be exemplary lar, be loving be kind, be compassionate lar
as for your sister - that is her journey lar but sadly its accidental lar
Originally posted by Hello Kitty:wat's her name on sgf?
I am her sister.
Originally posted by Jeanwoo:I am her sister.
Aren't you going to paint your half of the picture?
Or are you going to admit what your sister said is true?
Originally posted by Forbiddensinner:Aren't you going to paint your half of the picture?
Or are you going to admit what your sister said is true?
There's no need for me to explain myself here in the forums to strangers. What's important is my family knows the truth.
I'm not the one estranged from the family, she is.
Originally posted by Jeanwoo:There's no need for me to explain myself here in the forums to strangers. What's important is my family knows the truth.
I'm not the one estranged from the family, she is.
Am I?
I wonder who was it, that despite being so near, does not even borther to pay visits to families. Except to call them for transport and nannying services.
And who was it, that suggest to her younger brother, to cut off credit cards, to prove independance, and basically make a prat of himself.
Who was it, that believes that her mother is only other people's mother, or for that matter, in text, expressed that her father is other people's father only.
Yes. I am estranged from the family, but at least I fighted with them.
There is another form of estrangement, where people get rid of their relations, claiming distance & being busy, or whatever hate they have for their relationships. But have no qualms kicking people out as and when they pleases.
Or should I mention, that using the excuses of children, to get what they want, by means of quarralling.
Someone just send me a message. It says: People who loves you, will stay back to quarral with you.
People who don't, they just kick you aside when they have used you enough. Or they leave you when they are done with you.
At least I am estranged with fights involved.
BTW, the family does know the truth.
We fight, we always return to help those in need. There is only two person among us. That uses those help, then kick everyone away the moment help is no longer needed. Or abuses other people emotionally & verbally whenever there is a chance.
And that person is mummy and you.
So Jeanwoo is the sister lah. Haha
Whatever that is transpiring at home in the family, u and your sister - no is privy to all the incidents and events lar.
My suggestion - let it go lar and heart never lies - being wise is far more better than being rite lar.
As for your sister, if u feel that she is using ... (u fill up lah) to get what she wants - it will come around sooner, i mean the come uppance When one lives accidentally, the essential will surface and that is the predicament of many relationships, family and even at work place lar.
Perhaps, the unlearning is happening lah(unconsciously) or has to happen cos its apparent that all that has been learnt and acquired is only causing strife, misery and unhappiness.
Originally posted by viciouskitty74:
Am I?I wonder who was it, that despite being so near, does not even borther to pay visits to families. Except to call them for transport and nannying services.
And who was it, that suggest to her younger brother, to cut off credit cards, to prove independance, and basically make a prat of himself.
Who was it, that believes that her mother is only other people's mother, or for that matter, in text, expressed that her father is other people's father only.
Yes. I am estranged from the family, but at least I fighted with them.
There is another form of estrangement, where people get rid of their relations, claiming distance & being busy, or whatever hate they have for their relationships. But have no qualms kicking people out as and when they pleases.
Or should I mention, that using the excuses of children, to get what they want, by means of quarralling.
Someone just send me a message. It says: People who loves you, will stay back to quarral with you.
People who don't, they just kick you aside when they have used you enough. Or they leave you when they are done with you.
At least I am estranged with fights involved.
BTW, the family does know the truth.
We fight, we always return to help those in need. There is only two person among us. That uses those help, then kick everyone away the moment help is no longer needed. Or abuses other people emotionally & verbally whenever there is a chance.
And that person is mummy and you.
You can accuse me all you like. Ask yourself first what you had done to make everyone want to kick you out.
Originally posted by Jeanwoo:You can accuse me all you like. Ask yourself first what you had done to make everyone want to kick you out.
I did, and its exactly what you does so well too.
So might I suggest that since everyone of this family does this so well. Its so much better that you learn to manage things yourself and keep your mouth as shut as possible regarding how other people should live with you, or live their lives.
Be it your siblings or your spouse. Especially since you arent planning to be preparing to sustain them better for 12 months at least, in any future?
As mentioned, Enriching You are NOT.
Originally posted by Fugazzi:Perhaps, the unlearning is happening lah(unconsciously) or has to happen cos its apparent that all that has been learnt and acquired is only causing strife, misery and unhappiness.
Actually, my complaints isnt about causing strife, misery or unhappiness.
My complaints is more towards, there are SUCH siblings that causes strife, misery and unhappiness.
And venting it out here, and seeing the guilty party pretending discreetion, is more a manner of losing the respect for such a sibling causing strife, misery and unhappiness just because the siblings want to get a heck out of it, and forgetting that there will one day be karma on herself, where eventually, there will be days where she can be kicked out. Especially with what she is doing now will surely reap 'benefits' in time to come.
Favoritism does happen in the family when some parent has too many kids and yet they cant provide enough for all.
so they will pick the one that they think is the smartest one (bias one) to provide the resources they have in order to make that kid successful and do them proud at the expense of the other children they have.
when the not so fortunate one is young then nothing they can do except at the mercy of the parent. but when they grow up. they are independent enough and are free to do what they want and this is the time they can build the life they wanted to be.
After all, sibling will eventually have thier own family and will no longer be seeing each other as often as before. after all, parents will eventually grow old and pass away. u will be a long again.
Letting it go is the key, sad family pass is a heavy burden to be carried along. why not concentrate on what u wanna do now and leave the pass burden behind and you will be much more happier.