long distance releationship
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how to maintain a long distance releationship?it seems like recently we are always fight.so tired.
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Originally posted by tofushop193:
how to maintain a long distance releationship?it seems like recently we are always fight.so tired.
The most important factor in a long-term relationship is commitment.
If the two of you are not committed to each other, small arguments can easily turn into big ones, and eventually ruin your relationship.
Putting that aside, maybe one of you should take a step back. When it comes to relationships, there is rarely right or wrong things, it is just about how each of you look at the same matter.
Positive communication is a must in a long distance relationship, it is the only thing that bridges the two of you together. If you let it breaks down, so will your relationship.
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I also dunno.
I doing what i can to keep it together until Nov. lol
Any LDR pros here care to share ? he he
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Either u find him/her, it best to find local.
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TS, I am afraid to tell you that there is greater possibility for long distance relationship to break up.
Use msn, email, webcam, phone call to maintain.
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Originally posted by Forbiddensinner:
The most important factor in a long-term relationship is commitment.
If the two of you are not committed to each other, small arguments can easily turn into big ones, and eventually ruin your relationship.
Putting that aside, maybe one of you should take a step back. When it comes to relationships, there is rarely right or wrong things, it is just about how each of you look at the same matter.
Positive communication is a must in a long distance relationship, it is the only thing that bridges the two of you together. If you let it breaks down, so will your relationship.
i have always take a step back.but its only recently we always fight.i dono why but i told her she always stays at home and will easily get irritated.what u mean by positive communication?is calling her everynight means too much cause sometimes there are long slient pause
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Urs is fight.. mine always cry ar..
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same la fight then later she will cry ma.but now she always fight back.although she know she is wrong sometimes.but now when she know we will fight she will suggest we stop talking for a while and clam down firrst and foget it later
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Originally posted by BadzMaro:
Urs is fight.. mine always cry ar..
so cheeee chumsigh! long distance relationship is so taxing
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Originally posted by Fantagf:
TS, I am afraid to tell you that there is greater possibility for long distance relationship to break up.
Use msn, email, webcam, phone call to maintain.
i know but somehow i feel like calling each other every night seems too much.and she always do things while i call her.like play game watch tv.then she will not concentrate and always not replying to wat i am talking.i know theres a great possibility but theres always a way to prevent this what. -
Originally posted by tofushop193:
i know but somehow i feel like calling each other every night seems too much.and she always do things while i call her.like play game watch tv.then she will not concentrate and always not replying to wat i am talking.i know theres a great possibility but theres always a way to prevent this what.
that is a bit strange. IT is normal for gal to pay attention when in contact with bf. do you think she is seeing someone? -
or she could be plain angry, disappointed with you that is why .
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Originally posted by Fantagf:
that is a bit strange. IT is normal for gal to pay attention when in contact with bf. do you think she is seeing someone?
this i confirm she is not seeing someone.because this is her habit ever since she went back to her country,everynight i call her she will be doing something and it will mostly be watching tv. -
Originally posted by Fantagf:
or she could be plain angry, disappointed with you that is why .
ah for wat she angry anf dissapointed with me.hahhaa i nv do anything wrong ma i only ask her to concentrate to talk to me because ytd was the 6th month we are together.and say seriously i seldom will say the word i love u to her unless like on occasion.but ytd since its our 6th month i say it to her and after a long reply i say ''what u doing what i say u nv hear meh.ok la u nv hear i don wan to repeat myself i tired of repeating myself everytime'' -
Originally posted by tofushop193:
ah for wat she angry anf dissapointed with me.hahhaa i nv do anything wrong ma i only ask her to concentrate to talk to me because ytd was the 6th month we are together.and say seriously i seldom will say the word i love u to her unless like on occasion.but ytd since its our 6th month i say it to her and after a long reply i say ''what u doing what i say u nv hear meh.ok la u nv hear i don wan to repeat myself i tired of repeating myself everytime''
but sorry, i still wanna say what i said earlier. It is normal for gals to pay attention to bf when they are in contact. YOur gal obviously is not. YOu go find out reasons. -
You treat it the same way you would a normal relationship. It's normal for people to multitask these days. Perhaps what's needed is a fraction more space, or otherwise assurance that you're still interested.
If gestures and words feel empty or routine to you, they will definitely come across that way to the other party. Do you use the webcam sometimes?It helps when you can see each other and when your body language is visible.
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i am waiting for her internet to be set up.so we can webcam now.i admit that last time i was a bit over control.but i have stop ever since she told me that and i reliease that thats the truth.ya webcam is much better then on the phoone at least we get to see each other
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Originally posted by tofushop193:
ah for wat she angry anf dissapointed with me.hahhaa i nv do anything wrong ma i only ask her to concentrate to talk to me because ytd was the 6th month we are together.and say seriously i seldom will say the word i love u to her unless like on occasion.but ytd since its our 6th month i say it to her and after a long reply i say ''what u doing what i say u nv hear meh.ok la u nv hear i don wan to repeat myself i tired of repeating myself everytime''Then you need to keep your frustration in check. Six months may not be such an important milestone to her, or she may even be as expressive or romantic as you hope she is.
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hmmm..wat u mean by she may even be as expressive or romantic as you hope she is.i have been controlling my temper already.i don get angry easily now and doesnt raise my voice when i am angry i always talk to her in a clam voice and i wan to talk things over as fast as possible.she still send me things that is always hand made from her because she is still a student and doesnt have so much money to buy things for me.ahhh but theres always a period of month she is always like this.easily get irritated.and nope this is not her mensuration.
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Originally posted by tofushop193:
i have always take a step back.but its only recently we always fight.i dono why but i told her she always stays at home and will easily get irritated.what u mean by positive communication?is calling her everynight means too much cause sometimes there are long slient pause
Do you have any ideas what she would be interested to talk with you about?
You can't just call her and randomly pop out a topic, neither should you call her every night just to ask how she is. She might find you annoying this way, especially if she already has a bad day.
When you call her, be patient and listen to all her complaints and the things which she has to say. Sometimes the best thing to do is to do nothing but to listen.
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i hardly see long distance relationships work out
I am a victim myself, broke up with ex bf after 1/2 yr he went overseas
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Originally posted by candiz:
i hardly see long distance relationships work out
I am a victim myself, broke up with ex bf after 1/2 yr he went overseas
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Originally posted by Forbiddensinner:
Do you have any ideas what she would be interested to talk with you about?
You can't just call her and randomly pop out a topic, neither should you call her every night just to ask how she is. She might find you annoying this way, especially if she already has a bad day.
When you call her, be patient and listen to all her complaints and the things which she has to say. Sometimes the best thing to do is to do nothing but to listen.
no i call her jus to chit chat ma.like talk about hows the day.hmmm but now ok. -
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Calling her everyday is too much lah. You are too predictable, so this is a very boring long distance relationship.
Call her on random days lah.
Sometimes send her a small present in the mail. But don't do it too often lah. A small surprise is better than always a ritual.
Long distance relationship what's there to fight about ?
You are a guy, even if you think you are right, you don't have to force her to accept you are right. So what if you are always right ?.. you are indirectly telling her that she very stupid that's why she is always wrong lah !!
Would you rather be right or do you prefer to still have a gf ?
A relationship needs something to look forward to. You got plan to go visit her or not ? What are your plans in the next one year ? If you got no plans no idea, then a long distance relationship loses it's purpose.