PERSONALLY, THIS is WHAT I THINK....Originally posted by ntu slacker:wat you mean?![]()
i am just acquainted weith her... i need to allow us to get accustomed with each other before i send a sms. i rarely send smses anyway... i prefer face to face communication... i belong to the old-schoolOriginally posted by Promiscuitee:not bombard!! if sent once, twice no reply, then better get the que lah!
Since SMS/email not very personal, u can use it to test water...easier to type 'I miss u' than to say it aloud, right?
Originally posted by ntu slacker:
erm why say my chances are slim? care to explain? due to her socially active life?
1. You mentioned that you've got this cochlear implant in you.. I don't know if she would mind this, but this is gonna either be a MINUS or NO SCORE for you... Either way you've got little advantage... But of course this issue might not be so important in her eyes...
2. DIFFERENT Lifestyle. TRUE. Opposite DOES attract at times. But usually not when you're TOTALLY OPPOSITE. And you and her merely know which other, I wonder what kinda 'attraction' are you talking about here...?
3. ADMIT it, she've got tonnes of guys going after her. From hunks to don't know what qualities... SURE you can be ONE of them.... There's no saying that you won't stand a chance. But you'll have to admit that this can be rather disadvantageous to you... Another thing and no offence? Judging from the way you've replied, you're just taking a chance and see how things go? By this very fact alone I can assure you that the probability is NOT on your side... Besides, you did mentioned that she's a nice girl with good qualities combined? You don't even know what you want... PERSONALLY, I'll ADVISE you not to waste her & your own time.... No harm just knowing her as a friend though...?
i think its not love here, its mere infatuation... cannot be compared to my first one.
GLAD you've finally ADMIT to this point... If you have this mentality that 'she cannot be compared to my first one', I THINK you're NOT READY for her at all....
i had already explained that i feel that i have "reached" and being able to enjoy the status of a "normal" person now. so i dun see any compelling reason why can't i like a pretty girl like any normal guy would do. not meaning to insult or sound arrogant, being able to function normally without any help whatsoever and able to communicate with normal people as well as HELP them in their work etc... i think i have this right. but of course i am prepared for rejections like any normal guy.
Yes, you've got this point HARD and RIGHT. You're just... NORMAL... Even you yourself think so? Sure you can like a pretty girl just like ANY NORMAL guy....
i think you misunderstood. the present ger contributed nothing to my life with the exception that i have gained one less enemy. unless u are talking about the other girl whom i met in my college days who made me want to be a better man and the one i waited 4 years for... but i am not talking about her here
I'm a little confused here, but was she the one whom made you 'bother to dress up'...?
and again i stress i don't love her yet. i just have a infatuation with her. that's why i was against the idea of smsing her, jioing her out... just i want to test the waters before i think i'm ready for commitment... its the desire to have a girlfriend hence i consider her? and yes, its because i find her physically attractive.
So you UNDERSTOOD it well...?
i am not handsome. but then the trend is that normally very pretty girls usually have merely decent looking gentlemen as their guy..
So what if that's the 'trend'...? Do you know HOW MANY 'merely decent looking gentlemen' out there...? BESIDES... What ya see is JUST the SURFACE... Never judge a book by its cover... I'm sure you normally don't go for a book just because it has got a nice cover...? (ironically I know of some girls who do that, but that's besides the point...)
furthermore, i think i have covered all bases with my replies in this current thread. what more is lacking i can't see. anymore than this, this would be a full-scale media circus liaoand i wish to kkeep a low profile as well
You've mentioned that you've got CONFIDENCE normally with yourself but not in BGR relationship & with the girls... This is what I've personally figured out... How true it is don't take it personally and you be the 'judge'...?
You've got NO CONFIDENCE with the girls. Partially confused in your ACTs. You wanna be as NORMAL and CONFIDENT with girls as the other guys are. You went after what you WANT (the girl). Partially uncertain of what you want (refer to 2 sentence of this paragraph) and combination of lack of confidence with the girls, you've came into this forum for 'advice'. You do NOT seek true advice. Just more of a way to boot up your CONFIDENCE. In the ACT of doing so and not knowing exactly what to do next, you're currently just like a little LAMB LOST in its DIRECTIONS.... BRAVE. But CONFUSED.
Just stick to your decision, I think it's quite a good one for now... Even if ya really do wish to 'develop'.... Just take things easy from there...?Originally posted by ntu slacker:i am utterly confused... and i even dont know whether i truly like her or merely cos she has a nice cover... but i tell you i have talked to her before sometimes and feel good vibes from her... therefore its a moral dilemma
nevertheless thank youOriginally posted by Devil1976:Just stick to your decision, I think it's quite a good one for now... Even if ya really do wish to 'develop'.... Just take things easy from there...?
Originally posted by ntu slacker:i am just acquainted weith her... i need to allow us to get accustomed with each other before i send a sms. i rarely send smses anyway... i prefer face to face communication... i belong to the old-school![]()
think the way you thinkOriginally posted by MooKu:I realized that the contents of my replies are very much different from everyone's. Mine is more... optimistic... perhaps OVERLY. And perhaps, a little unrealistic because... maybe hardly anyone thinks like me? Am I too idealistic or something?![]()
btw been talking to her... seems that she doesn't dislike me at all.Originally posted by MooKu:I realized that the contents of my replies are very much different from everyone's. Mine is more... optimistic... perhaps OVERLY. And perhaps, a little unrealistic because... maybe hardly anyone thinks like me? Am I too idealistic or something?![]()