Girls, pls. read this. How wrong am I?
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PERSONALLY, THIS is WHAT I THINK....Originally posted by ntu slacker:wat you mean?
MANY in this forum would AGREE that your chance is SLIM.... Perhaps even you have noticed so... Still, you won't wanna give up so easily...? This is LOVE (or whatever other factors that may be causing you to believe that this is LOVE...)....
Whatever role she've contributed for who you are today... Going into a BGR just because of these and such is NOT a MUST... (not to mention that it might not even be practical at all...?) To you, you might be a SINCERE guy who LOVES her... Now even IF you are, there's no GUARANTEE that there other MANY guys out there going after her ain't genuine and sincere...? In her eyes perhaps you're just like one of those guys... But of course I won't know for sure because I'm NOT her.... Think about the CHANCES here... I'm not just trying to be negative here, but have some sense into yourself before ya get too carried away....?
But THEN OF COURSE, there CAN be a CHANCE that she might CHOOSE you....? Personally, I don't know you too well you know...? Perhaps you've got that 'X-factor' which I've not learnt of... OR MAYBE your HANDSOME look might attract her...? (Ya did mentioned that now didn't you...?) Yes yes.... It's really SO HARD to tell now isn't it....
Now, these are the final few pieces I've kept for you.... For now... If you've GOT it, you've got it... And she might just ACCEPT you IF you APPEAL to her... If she's those type into YOUR CHARACTER, ONLY TIME can tell you the answer....
You ain't gonna get much of an advice here ya know...? Personally we don't even know her... Different girls go for different things... All we can do here is a GUESSING game...? Is that what you wanna play with us...?
TELL ME, what is it that you REALLY LIKE about her...? And I'll ADVISE you further...? -
erm why say my chances are slim? care to explain? due to her socially active life? i think its not love here, its mere infatuation... cannot be compared to my first one.
i had already explained that i feel that i have "reached" and being able to enjoy the status of a "normal" person now. so i dun see any compelling reason why can't i like a pretty girl like any normal guy would do. not meaning to insult or sound arrogant, being able to function normally without any help whatsoever and able to communicate with normal people as well as HELP them in their work etc... i think i have this right. but of course i am prepared for rejections like any normal guy.
i think you misunderstood. the present ger contributed nothing to my life with the exception that i have gained one less enemy. unless u are talking about the other girl whom i met in my college days who made me want to be a better man and the one i waited 4 years for... but i am not talking about her here
and again i stress i don't love her yet. i just have a infatuation with her. that's why i was against the idea of smsing her, jioing her out... just i want to test the waters before i think i'm ready for commitment... its the desire to have a girlfriend hence i consider her? and yes, its because i find her physically attractive.
i am not handsome. but then the trend is that normally very pretty girls usually have merely decent looking gentlemen as their guy..
furthermore, i think i have covered all bases with my replies in this current thread. what more is lacking i can't see. anymore than this, this would be a full-scale media circus liao and i wish to kkeep a low profile as well -
i am just acquainted weith her... i need to allow us to get accustomed with each other before i send a sms. i rarely send smses anyway... i prefer face to face communication... i belong to the old-schoolOriginally posted by Promiscuitee:not bombard!! if sent once, twice no reply, then better get the que lah!
Since SMS/email not very personal, u can use it to test water...easier to type 'I miss u' than to say it aloud, right? -
Originally posted by ntu slacker:
erm why say my chances are slim? care to explain? due to her socially active life?
1. You mentioned that you've got this cochlear implant in you.. I don't know if she would mind this, but this is gonna either be a MINUS or NO SCORE for you... Either way you've got little advantage... But of course this issue might not be so important in her eyes...
2. DIFFERENT Lifestyle. TRUE. Opposite DOES attract at times. But usually not when you're TOTALLY OPPOSITE. And you and her merely know which other, I wonder what kinda 'attraction' are you talking about here...?
3. ADMIT it, she've got tonnes of guys going after her. From hunks to don't know what qualities... SURE you can be ONE of them.... There's no saying that you won't stand a chance. But you'll have to admit that this can be rather disadvantageous to you... Another thing and no offence? Judging from the way you've replied, you're just taking a chance and see how things go? By this very fact alone I can assure you that the probability is NOT on your side... Besides, you did mentioned that she's a nice girl with good qualities combined? You don't even know what you want... PERSONALLY, I'll ADVISE you not to waste her & your own time.... No harm just knowing her as a friend though...?
i think its not love here, its mere infatuation... cannot be compared to my first one.
GLAD you've finally ADMIT to this point... If you have this mentality that 'she cannot be compared to my first one', I THINK you're NOT READY for her at all....
i had already explained that i feel that i have "reached" and being able to enjoy the status of a "normal" person now. so i dun see any compelling reason why can't i like a pretty girl like any normal guy would do. not meaning to insult or sound arrogant, being able to function normally without any help whatsoever and able to communicate with normal people as well as HELP them in their work etc... i think i have this right. but of course i am prepared for rejections like any normal guy.
Yes, you've got this point HARD and RIGHT. You're just... NORMAL... Even you yourself think so? Sure you can like a pretty girl just like ANY NORMAL guy....
i think you misunderstood. the present ger contributed nothing to my life with the exception that i have gained one less enemy. unless u are talking about the other girl whom i met in my college days who made me want to be a better man and the one i waited 4 years for... but i am not talking about her here
I'm a little confused here, but was she the one whom made you 'bother to dress up'...?
and again i stress i don't love her yet. i just have a infatuation with her. that's why i was against the idea of smsing her, jioing her out... just i want to test the waters before i think i'm ready for commitment... its the desire to have a girlfriend hence i consider her? and yes, its because i find her physically attractive.
So you UNDERSTOOD it well...?
i am not handsome. but then the trend is that normally very pretty girls usually have merely decent looking gentlemen as their guy..
So what if that's the 'trend'...? Do you know HOW MANY 'merely decent looking gentlemen' out there...? BESIDES... What ya see is JUST the SURFACE... Never judge a book by its cover... I'm sure you normally don't go for a book just because it has got a nice cover...? (ironically I know of some girls who do that, but that's besides the point...
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furthermore, i think i have covered all bases with my replies in this current thread. what more is lacking i can't see. anymore than this, this would be a full-scale media circus liao and i wish to kkeep a low profile as well
You've mentioned that you've got CONFIDENCE normally with yourself but not in BGR relationship & with the girls... This is what I've personally figured out... How true it is don't take it personally and you be the 'judge'...?
You've got NO CONFIDENCE with the girls. Partially confused in your ACTs. You wanna be as NORMAL and CONFIDENT with girls as the other guys are. You went after what you WANT (the girl). Partially uncertain of what you want (refer to 2 sentence of this paragraph) and combination of lack of confidence with the girls, you've came into this forum for 'advice'. You do NOT seek true advice. Just more of a way to boot up your CONFIDENCE. In the ACT of doing so and not knowing exactly what to do next, you're currently just like a little LAMB LOST in its DIRECTIONS.... BRAVE. But CONFUSED. -
so fierce...
so what u suggest me to do?
well i think i'll just do whatever i like
just asking for comments here lor.
well it seems tat cochlear implants are not well known... its invisible in fact, i do not need to tell my frds abt it unless they ask
well it seems that she doesn't mind my company according to what i heard from her classmates?
well it seems that there is still discrimination against disabled people from all walks of life but there are none against people with poor characters... in fact the more unruly a person is he is observed as merely misguided
well it seems that the whole forum is gunning me to lower my expectations/// but my point here was absolutely to leave a good impression on her be it a friend or girlfriend.
well i think i am trying too hard and perhaps its time to be just myself and say hi to her everyday onwards.
and finally i do hope that u all who read my thread will be more sensitive to the less priveledged since i have shed light on this matter
and to those doubting people out there, i can assure you that we are in no way irritating or a burden to normal people.
i like this one most
"You've got NO CONFIDENCE with the girls. Partially confused in your ACTs. You wanna be as NORMAL and CONFIDENT with girls as the other guys are. You went after what you WANT (the girl). Partially uncertain of what you want (refer to 2 sentence of this paragraph) and combination of lack of confidence with the girls, you've came into this forum for 'advice'. You do NOT seek true advice. Just more of a way to boot up your CONFIDENCE. In the ACT of doing so and not knowing exactly what to do next, you're currently just like a little LAMB LOST in its DIRECTIONS.... BRAVE. But CONFUSED."
it about sums it up.
i am utterly confused... and i even dont know whether i truly like her or merely cos she has a nice cover... but i tell you i have talked to her before sometimes and feel good vibes from her... therefore its a moral dilemma -
Just stick to your decision, I think it's quite a good one for now... Even if ya really do wish to 'develop'.... Just take things easy from there...?Originally posted by ntu slacker:i am utterly confused... and i even dont know whether i truly like her or merely cos she has a nice cover... but i tell you i have talked to her before sometimes and feel good vibes from her... therefore its a moral dilemma -
nevertheless thank youOriginally posted by Devil1976:Just stick to your decision, I think it's quite a good one for now... Even if ya really do wish to 'develop'.... Just take things easy from there...?
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My impression is that u cannot carry a long enough conversation with her which is why I suggested sms or email. u can take hours to compose either and nobody cares.
well, as long as u r happy, then good lor!Originally posted by ntu slacker:i am just acquainted weith her... i need to allow us to get accustomed with each other before i send a sms. i rarely send smses anyway... i prefer face to face communication... i belong to the old-school -
I realized that the contents of my replies are very much different from everyone's. Mine is more... optimistic... perhaps OVERLY. And perhaps, a little unrealistic because... maybe hardly anyone thinks like me? Am I too idealistic or something?
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think the way you thinkOriginally posted by MooKu:I realized that the contents of my replies are very much different from everyone's. Mine is more... optimistic... perhaps OVERLY. And perhaps, a little unrealistic because... maybe hardly anyone thinks like me? Am I too idealistic or something?
no need to follow people
that's what i always do and i am happy.
people should appreciate the way you are or they might as well get lost. hence the the presence of friend and foe in everyday life -
btw been talking to her... seems that she doesn't dislike me at all.Originally posted by MooKu:I realized that the contents of my replies are very much different from everyone's. Mine is more... optimistic... perhaps OVERLY. And perhaps, a little unrealistic because... maybe hardly anyone thinks like me? Am I too idealistic or something?
but i am still a guy... i may be wrong...
will try to give her a lunch treat one of these days,,, wonder if she wants to lunch woth a slacker
and mooku,,, optimism is a good thing really... makes people happier. u cheered me up alot i must admit.
and hell since when man is an expert on life? might as well pass ur own geniune judgment instead of following the mould's of society.